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Covid-19 – A Strong Remedial Action

When the first news of Covid-19 broke out, we never thought it will go to this extent, where we will lose a huge population, a lot of our beloveds.

The duration between lock-down starts and lock-down ends, we are completely shattered multiple times, with a number of news publicizes.

I observed, that there was a fight between the ideas of believers and no-believers of GOD. it was an ideal fight between theists and atheists. Sometime theists win sometimes atheists. Trust shattered and faith grounded many times.

I remember a Swiss psychiatrist, Kübler-Ross first introduced her five stage grief model in her book On Death and Dying. Kübler-Ross’ model was based on her work with terminally ill patients and has received much criticism in the years since.

Mainly, because people studying her model mistakenly believed this is the specific order in which people grieve and that all people go through all stages.

Kübler-Ross now notes that these stages are not linear and some people may not experience any of them. Yet and still, others might only undergo two stages rather than all five, one stage, three stages, etc.  It is now more readily known that these five stages of grief are the most commonly observed experienced by the grieving population.

When a human goes through any tragedy, natural disaster, accident, they pass through 5 stages. They are Denial, Anger, Bargain, Depression, and Acceptance.

In era of COVID-19, we faced all five stages, before accept its existence and it is a pandemic.

First Stage: Denial

The first statement we had given to everyone was “What a rubbish?”, this could not possible. We denial news, we denial all the facts. Denial is the stage that can initially help you survive the loss. We might think life makes no sense, life has no meaning and is too overwhelming. We start to deny the news and, in effect, go numb.

It’s common in this stage to wonder how life will go on in this different state – we are in a state of shock because life as we once knew it, has changed in an instant. If we were diagnosed with a deadly disease, we might believe the news is incorrect – a mistake must have occurred somewhere in the lab–they mixed up your blood work with someone else.

If we receive news on the death of a loved one, perhaps we cling to a false hope that they identified the wrong person.

In the denial stage, we are not living in ‘actual reality,’ rather, we are living in a ‘preferable’ reality. Interestingly, it is denial and shock that help us cope and survive the grief event.

Denial aids in pacing our feelings of grief. Instead of becoming completely overwhelmed with grief, we deny it, do not accept it, and stagger its full impact on us at one time.

Think of it as your body’s natural defense mechanism saying “hey, there’s only so much I can handle at once.”

Once the denial and shock started to fade, the start of the healing process begins. At this point, those feelings that we were once suppressing are coming to the surface.

Second Stage: Anger

Well, in this stage we have a feeling, of news to be true to some extent. But if it happened to ourselves, then the scenario is completely different. Once we start to live in ‘actual’ reality again and not in ‘preferable’ reality, anger might start to set in.

I think this is a common stage to think “why me?” and “I think life is not fair!”

We might look to blame others for the cause of our grief and also may redirect our anger to close friends and family especially in case disease reaches through them.

We find it incomprehensible of how something like this could happen to us. If we are strong in faith, we might start to question our belief in God. “Where is God? Why didn’t he protect me?”

Researchers and mental health professionals agree that this anger is a necessary stage of grief. They encourage anger. It’s important to truly feel the anger. It’s thought that even though you might seem like you are in an endless cycle of anger, it will dissipate – and the more you truly feel the anger, the more quickly it will dissipate, and the more quickly you will heal. It is not healthy to suppress your feelings of anger – it is a natural response – and perhaps, arguably, a necessary one.

In everyday life, we are normally told to control our anger toward situations and toward others. When you experience a grief event, you might feel disconnected from reality – that you have no grounding anymore. Your life has shattered and there’s nothing solid to hold onto.

Think of anger as a strength to bind you to reality. You might feel deserted or abandoned during a grief event. That no one is there. You are alone in this world. The direction of anger toward something or somebody is what might bridge you back to reality and connect you to people again. It is a “thing.” It’s something to grasp onto – a natural step in healing.

Third Stage: Bargaining

When something bad happens, have we ever caught ourselves making a deal with God? like “Please God, if you heal my husband, I will strive to be the best wife I can ever be – and never complain again.” or “I will be healed, I will donate a fair amount to your temple”. This is bargaining. In a way, this stage is false hope.

We might falsely make ourselves believe that we can avoid the grief through a type of negotiation. “If we change this, I’ll change that”. We are so desperate to get our life back to how it was before the grief event, we are willing to make a major life change in an attempt toward normality.

Guilt is a common wingman of bargaining. This is when we endure the endless “what if” statements. like “What if I had left the house 5 minutes sooner – the accident would have never happened”. And like ” What if I encouraged him to go to the doctor six months ago like I first thought – cancer could have been found sooner and he could have been saved”. We started running from reality. The truth, which can’t change.

Fourth Stage: Depression

The next stage is ‘Depression”. It is a commonly accepted form of grief. In fact, most people associate depression immediately with grief – as it is a “present” emotion.

It represents the emptiness we feel when we are living in reality and realize the person or situation is gone or over.

In this stage, we might withdraw from life, feel numb, live in a fog, and not want to get out of bed. The world might seem too much and too overwhelming for us to face. We don’t want to be around others, don’t feel like talking, and experience feelings of hopelessness. We might even experience suicidal thoughts – thinking “what’s the point of going on?”

Last Stage: Acceptance

The last stage of grief identified by Kübler-Ross is acceptance.

Not in the sense that “it’s okay my husband died” rather, “my husband died, but I’m going to be okay.”

In this stage, our emotions may begin to stabilize. We re-enter reality. We come to terms with the fact that the “new” reality is that our partner is never coming back – or that we are going to succumb to our illness and die soon – and we are okay with that.

It’s not a “good” thing – but it’s something you can live with. It is definitely a time of adjustment and readjustment. There are good days, there are bad days, and then there are good days again.

In this stage, it does not mean we will never have another bad day – where you are uncontrollably sad. But, the good days tend to outnumber the bad days.

In this stage, we may lift from our fog, we start to engage with friends again, and might even make new relationships as time goes on. We understand your loved one can never be replaced, but we move, grow, and evolve into our new reality.

The fear of the people when our country’s corona count was 100, is not there when it is over 24+ Lakhs today.

In summary, in COVID-19 experience, first of all, we show our refusal to believe such a thing could happen. Even we denied us to that extent “Corona will not come to us”. Even it came, we repeatedly were in denial mode that it will not be spread to our place due to so many excuses like we used to drink hot water, our climatic conditions is very hot, etc.
Then once it enters and started affecting our day to day life we started getting angry. It was anything, like, death of beloved, death of relationships, anger over the loss of income, or the loss of independence life due to lockdown.

Then we started to bargain with GOD. Inwardly lamenting that the Corona may not have come and there should have been a lockdown at all. We started asking deal to GOD, but nothing happened. Our faith shattered. Trust betrayed. And then the stage started of “Depression”, where we started feeling mental pressure and losing everything. we feel helpless, we started to doubt our capabilities, we started losing faith in our doctors, who was researching for medicine day and night. And at last, we accepted, we are at the mercy of GOD, we accepted, we can only work, but the result is not in our hands. We started accepting that Corona is real, and it can hurt us, our relations, our entire society. We need to learn to live with Corona, which is the only solution.

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Mirror Never Speaks Lies

Mirror

In our childhood days, we use to see mask worn clown, always become a laughing stock for us. But now In today’s Global COVID19 situation, everyone is bound to wear a face mask.

A face mask covers our nose and mouth. This legal order will continue for some time, and after that again people will allow roaming without face masks.

But what about the mask a person wears behind a face mask. Yes, you understood well, I am discussing here a person behind a person.

No doubt, we have multiple personalities, we are multitasking people, but when we use these features to satisfy evil within ourselves, then we know very well that we are misusing the virtues.

This is a true statement that we speak lies in front of the mirror, but the mirror, never speaks lies.

Even if we are wearing face masks. “The only sensible way to live is without rules”.

Remember, rules are to make life easy to live in society, but this is not true for your life. You are given your life to enjoy, why it should bound in rules. You are a free spirit. Live like whatever ways you want to.

There are some important points, I want to share with you, which I have learned from my life

1. Everyone does not get the opportunity to get a second chance to meet life. So enjoy the life utmost. Life is precious. We should always have greed for lovely moments. Life has chosen you, you have not chosen life. Even you could not want to take birth in this world, but you are here and enjoying that is the truth. So value it.

2. It could be a funny incident, but when initial days, we face any problem with our computer, we learned to switch off for a while and it starts working again.  Why can’t we use the same trick with our life?  Well If you face issues, mental stress, depression, just switch off for a while. Try to rejuvenate your mood with other activities. If you stick with it, it is not going to resolve, but sometimes if you do not care, it comes in the right way.

3. Generally, we run to get in peace outside the world, but actually it is within us, nothing is outside. You have heard some preaches about hold horses of your mind, but I will suggest, never hold. Let your mind travel. wherever it wants to go, whatever it wants to do. Do it with it. I bet, you will feel calm and peace within you. Do not try to buy serenity and peace of mind, it is already within you. you never care for it, so you are thinking that it is gone somewhere, but this is not true.

4. Well if you are a parent, you are blessed. You can enjoy your childhood again with them. so don’t disrespect them. You need to make your children free. Again, I am not telling to accept every demand raised by them, but you need to be a child with them to understand to read their mind. You can enjoy your memories with them. Life is just to see your past and smile, but do not regret, what you could not able to do then, try now to do all you want to do and could not able to do.

5. This is a bitter truth that you cannot make happy everyone. Do not try to become good for all. If you are good, you will do to help them whatever you want to do. You will not ask anyone if you do or not. Well,  if someone has a problem and you don’t have an answer, just pray, you can not do more than it. Sometimes our Help is usually not helpful, it makes them toxic. You need to understand the difference between “help, helpless, helplessness “and “good with goodness”.

6. Never compare your inside world with other people’s outside world, it makes you worse. Comparison is a poison. It never comes alone, it will bring along all types of misfortune, which you never expect.

7. Sometimes, you want to produce your views on any topic. But you think it is not in presentable mode. It is ok, start writing. When you start writing, you will be surprised to see that you can write not only your views, your truth, your vision, instead, you can write your songs, your stories, etc. etc.  Do not write to please someone, write to please yourself.

8. God has given us so many things free of costs, like air, water, land sky, and this earth. When a farmer starts farming, it needs to tear if land in many parts, and then it sow seeds. But if you realize, even then land always gives us beautiful fruits and grains to eat. Land does not take revenge, it forgives us about our deeds. Earth is a forgiveness school, we can learn forgiveness from it, but this is always helpful to begin it with forgiving yourself.

9. Start realizing every moment of this life. The earth is moving every second, but we never realize, it does not mean it stopped moving, we realize only with feeling when day and night replaces by the sun, we realize when the weather changes. Realize every movement of grace, which changes us and heals of our world.

10. Try to go for roaming outside, if possible, I will suggest roaming the whole world once. Meet with all types of creatures. Learn different languages, meet thousands of emotions, learn to live within the jungle, learn to live alone, learn to live in-crowd. learn to dance, learn to show your happiness. enjoy your depth of the heart.  We have only one life, but there are a huge number of people and spices, we can not gain knowledge of all in one life. Try to lean worship from nature. It is endless.

In last, I will say, start living at least now. Don’t wait for a moment, take a moment in your hand to enjoy.

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Reel Life v.s. Real Life

Ashok Mehra, a well-known film artist, producer, film director, met me last winter season in 2018, in Delhi. I spend approximately one month with him, but then I didn’t know anything about him, before Mr. Chaman, one of my Video Editor friend introduced me officially that what is his profession.

We met, we spend a good time along with each other, we took so many times lunch and dinner together. We share jokes, incidents, our viewpoints on any particular topic. I was busy in studio work, but whenever he visited the studio, the atmosphere of the studio changed every time like an entertainment mood. He came close to the heart with everyone because he was living his real life. When I came to know about his profession then only I realize how can an actor be.

I realized if a person has really a reality in his behavior in day to day life or you can say real in nature, nothing unnatural, nothing fake in behavior, then it is very easy to live a reel life with real-life amicably without any difficulty. He carks jokes with any dialogues, which relates to his any of the movie or play, we felt that it was never to show-off, it was real, direct come out from heart, not from the mind.

One of my blogs, I referenced you about Mr. Joginder Singh Puri, a great Professor from the USA and one of my mentors, once told me that whenever you get an opportunity to meet any person, meet like this is the very first time you are meeting with him. And when you leave the same person, leave him like, this is your last visit and you will never meet with him at least in this life. This is a philosophy of life. We do not have command on our birth as well as our death.

Once I got a clipping of a lecture delivered by Mr. Ratan Tata, and his one statement from his speech was very practical and very touchy. He stated,” You have seen ECG machines near hospital beds. When it is showing curved lines, up and down, it means life is still alive, but when it is showing a straight line, it means life is no more”. Life has similar ups and downs for each person. A person stands up, fell down, again stands up, again fell down. it means life is still there, his will power is forcing the person to stand up and fight with all ills. But when the person quits, the lifeline becomes straight. No ups and downs, no life anymore.

The philosophy to live a life is,

Live your real life like an actor is acting in reel life, and acting in reel life like living a real-life”.

Sometimes it seems, how fake is this definition, but if you go in-depth, you will feel this is the only definition that is near a fact nowadays. If you try to find nearby, you will surprise to realize that you are surrounded by fake relationships and fake relations. It is very rare you can find true love near you. You will surprise to see that in adverse situations, your true relations are among the very first person to left you alone.

Once I attended funeral proceedings, there was a custom to speak some words for the decease. Everybody was using selected great words for him. I was thinking that if he is very good in nature, very polite, very helpful and energetic in his behavior, then why he was living in such a miserable condition. Why he died because of short of medicines. People of this world have two faces. Or you can say there are multiple faces behind one mask.

Once I was reading the book written on Swami Vivekanand. He stated somewhere, “if your life is cool, it means you are on the wrong path”. This does not mean that we do not need a cool life. He wanted to indicate, if everyone is praising you, there could be two reasons behind it. First one, you are really a very good person and the second is that you never come out from your comfort zone. you never took the risk in your life to do something challenging. And then only you will live a cool life. The struggle is a part of our life, do not avoid it, instead of enjoying it.

In short, if I bring out me from myself, then masks will be removed forever automatically. Confused?

Take one live example from day-to-day life. If my manager is asking a report from me immediately, and I am asking for two days to prepare it, what does it means? There are two possibilities, either I am not working preparing a report on a day to day basis, so I want more time to prepare it, it is called laziness. But if I want to play with the numbers and aksing two more days to prepare the strategy, how to crooked the report, how to manipulate it before presenting it before my manager.

In the above situation, either I need to accept I am a lazy person or maybe I am busy with other engagements, so the report is not prepared so far. Or in another situation, I used to wear a mask on my face and tell my manager that the report is ready, but this is not in a presentable mode, so It will take time to prepare it. Or maybe I can crook some more ideas to make him fool. But actually I am making myself a fool, and this is a hidden truth lies between the lines.

In the reel life, the viewer, hero, heroine, characters and even the villain are well defined, hence, it is very simple to understand and in some movies, if the artist is doing similar roles when they already did in any previous films then, it becomes simple to recognize in advance. But in real life, it is like a suspense movie, where hero and villain are unknown but there is no viewer. I may mistake the hero for a villain or villain for a hero etc.. In the real-life, we require more understanding than usual to understand what is good and what is bad, then who is good and who is bad, in which circumstance he/she is good and in which circumstances he/she is bad.

Sometimes, it is seen that young minds are often carried away by what they see in the movies, without judging, what is true and untrue. In the movies, often obsession is justified in the name of love, violence in the name of revenge against injustice. And a fresh mind or young mind taking it as real. Do you know why it happened? Because the actor who is living his role in that movie is so honest with the character, that he/she mistook as real. But this real-life acting actually becomes successful in his/her reel life.

The clown lives a public life as real as he can but just think for a while, doesn’t he has issues any issue in his life. He does, but his real acting makes us feeling like hat we laugh a lot and actually forget our personal issues for a while. This happens only because he justifies his character honestly, he understands his responsibility.

Once a person asked me a beautiful question. Tell me, “Who is a more genuine person? A film Actor or a Cricketer.” The question was very practical. I could not give the correct answer on that day, because I could not give the right logic behind it. But today I can. Even today I can compare a Clown also with a Cricketer. Now you may have a question, if a Clown and a Cricketer both are the same, then why there is a lot of difference between their monetary conditions. I can not compare both in moneywise, but yes, both are playing real characters. A Cricketer plays a natural game and a Clown plays an honest character. And both have one special common feature while playing their roles in their characters. And that is. They don’t get a second chance or they don’t get the option of RETAKE. But when we are thinking of film actors, they can go for ‘n’ numbers of retakes. A Film actor can be different in nature in real life and reel life. Only that film actor can be famous who has no difference between both the lives.

A fake person doesn’t have a long life. Either in his life or afterlife.

In summary, we can say that “Luxuries and lies have huge maintenance costs, but truth and simplicity are self-maintained without any cost”. So better not to work with mix emotions. Emotions should be pure to attract another emotion.

It is possible that working for success will make you a Master for your skills, but working for satisfaction will make you a legend.

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Want to Retire @ 50? Now Impossible is Possible

  • A person asked: “Money, Money, where are you honey; I want to retire with your fire”.
  • Money Smiles, “Catch me, if you can” Gold spreads everywhere, I am there; I am here”.

So, you want to retire at 50? Let us calculate it between 45 and 50 somewhere, so you will get five more extra years to enjoy. But just remember, retirement does not mean, no work, It means enough combination of active and passive income in your kitty to relax and easily covering emergency and all types of unseen unavoidable circumstances while you are enjoying your luxury life.

Some days ago, I met with a middle-aged couple, who could not gather enough money in their whole career life to be able to purchase their own residence. They both lived a well-maintained luxuries life, with a high profile job. They visited so many places in the world, but never think of to purchase their own home. They thought, they would be earned enough money at the time of retirement, so they can purchase their own home, wherever and whatever they want.

Now, what actually happened:

  1. The real estate price continues up. So whenever they want to purchase, start to bargain and every time they felt that property is a little bit costly.
  2. The inflation rate went up every year
  3. Their savings were not enough to beat the pace of inflation.
  4. They want residence matching with their lifestyle, which seems not possible now
  5. Financial institutions denied a home loan to them because of their overaged factor.
  6. Their children were well settled and they prefer a nuclear family, so they left both of them.

There was an incident that happened personally with me when I need money in an emergency. I sold all of my Shares, stocks at half of the price from the price I have purchased 10 years back. I thought I mistook myself as a great financial managed person. For the last 10 years, I was thinking that I was managing money, but actually money was managing me. It was an eye-opener for me. I am failed to manage it, but I learned a great lesson and that was priceless.

So here we will discuss only two points “How to make money” and then “How to manage money”?

Let us start:

What are Your Only Options?

After completion of our schooling, we have three options for earnings:

  1. Become an Employee
  2. Become a skilled Professional
  3. Become a businessman, an employer and provide jobs to others

But what actually we are missing in your school days, we will discuss further in the same blog.

Our Normal Reactions to Purchase

Let us analyze a situation:

I am offering you to buy something very costly. You have below options to give answers.

  1. I can’t afford it, I can’t buy it, I am not so rich, I can’t think even dream of it. (Helpless)
  2. How I can afford it? (Denial mode with a little surprise)
  3. How can I afford it? (Thoughtful process to find the way, to get it, to own it)

In the first two statements, you blocked your road of growth. The only third one is practical because it forces you to think over it, to find ways to fulfill your dreams.

Common Attitude about Money

You can find a lot of persons saying, “What is in the money”, “Money is not everything”, “GOD gave us a lot of wealth, so why to worry for the money?” Another one, “I literally not interested in money”. “Money is secondary in my life”. “Money does not matter for me”.

One more example, “Job! I have enough parental money, I am doing the job just to spend my time”. A very enthusiastic person is stating, “I am working, because I love my job.”

This is the fact of the life that “You can not avoid money”, but similar you should not be attached to money as a real thing. Money is power, if it is in the wrong hand, it could be enough to mess-up. But if it is in the royal hands, every single buck will become gold.

These all rubbish statements. Without money, no one can survive. Only blessings from elders and from GOD cannot fulfill your appetites. Just remember Money is a Power and you have to work hard to earn it. Here we will talk about Work Smart instead of Work Hard.

Every person has a weak and needy part of the soul and that can be bought, and every individual also had a part of his soul, which is strong enough that it could never be bought. It is the only question of which one is stronger?

Are you writing your own Fate or depends on your Karmic Fate?

Do one exercise with me. From today onwards ask yourself one question daily, “Where is this daily activity taking me”? “Am I doing all the right things in my life, and if yes, then the million-dollar question, “Why all odd happened to me only”.

Analyze today. “If life is pushing you or you are pushing life”. Generally, life does not tell you anything it always pushes you, throw you, and break you, just to stand up.

If you think your senior, your superior, your boss is a problem, then try to show them your best part of working, and even if there is a problem, then you don’t have an option, just to change them.

Else, if they are right and your problem is only yours, then you are in a problem. You have to change yourself. Then you need to understand the problem is within you, and the solution is also within you.

Change is Inevitable: Either for you or for Situation

This is a universal truth that it is not easy to change others, but this is also true that to change yourself is also not an easy task as we think of.

You cannot teach a new trick to the old dog unless he wants to learn. But this is not for others, just apply this idiom up to yourself. It is not easy to change habits either if it is laziness, or indiscipline or the love to get a salary check at the end of the month after doing minimum work.

This is also a bitter truth that most people become the slave for money and then curse their superiors or bosses always. You need to realize this truth now or never.

The world is filled with talented people, but why they are poor because they don’t want to use their talent or maybe this is also true that they don’t know they have talent.

If really you want to learn a lot in a single life, within a single organization then move yourself department to department to learn more new things, not only for the job or to get a hike, but to be self-sufficient one day.

Because a job cannot be a long term solution for all of your needs, it is only a short term solution for time being.

When you are short of money, you always started thinking and talking about money while eating, wandering, sleeping, playing, etc. Many are working just to get over the fear that if they will not work, they will lose the salary or wages, then what about expenses, who will pay for them?

What is Money?

The money is not real, the more you think real, you will work harder for it. Don’t work for money, let money work for you. Some people work for money but for some people, money works for them.

Run for money is nothing but fear pushes you out of the door and desire calls to you to come in the door.

Our Mind is a powerful asset, and this is real money for us. We need to train it, so it can earn for generations. If you have a problem with money, and you are running behind money to collect more, than, more money will not solve your problem.

The more you will get money, the more you will find yourself in debt. Sometimes money can solve some problems for the time being, but intelligence solves all types of problems at the root level.

Emotions for Money:

Use your mind and emotions in your favor, not against you.

Most people have a price just because of emotion. And emotion is nothing but fear & hunger. Fear of insecurity of money. It could be a loss of a job or no money at the end of the month to pay bills. So just to overcome this fear, they work hard. And then hunger to get all things, bring pleasures in life. Well, hunger can be changed with another noun i.e. desire. People do more work to full fill their desires. Isn’t it?

To spend your life living in fear and never exploring the dream is like punishing yourself. On another side to working hard for money and thinking that it will buy all the things, which will make you happy, is also punishing yourself for nothing.

Learn to use your emotions to think, not think with your emotions.

The best example of fear and hunger is the Stock Market. If you are trading in share market and putting your hard-earned money in different deals and started praying then you are making fool to yourself. It is not business, it is a gambling.

Buying stocks with a long term vision with financial literacy is good, but when you sell it out just for a fear of market declining, it will not work. And if you are in profit and you are looking for more and more, that is greed. And both are harmful.

The difference between Informed and Uninformed

Investing is not buying, it is more knowing, what to buy, when to buy and how to buy. People think we will earn money while we will sell, but actually investing is to know, you should be in profit, before investing in it. So in a layman language cut your cost before you buy.

                                        Human life is a struggle between ignorance and illumination.

Who are your public relations officer? You yourself. You should search for Information & earn self-knowledge, only then you can understand what you do not know and what you know.

Recognize Yourself:

Workers work hard so they do not get fired from the job, and employers pay just enough so a worker does no quit. Ask any colleague “I am going to quit”, do you want to come with me”. Only the honest person will speak out, “yes I want to but what about my job, who pays my salary, next month my promotion is due. So I want to, but I am not”.

How to Manage your Money

Learn to Manage Yourself:

Need to learn 3 Management aspects to win yourself:

  1. Management of Cash Flow
  2. Management of System
  3. Management of People

When I was in the job, I faced the same issue. As soon as the month completed, salary credited to my bank account, the first day of the new month, all money shows outflow. I can see only all debits in my bank account? Where had the money gone? Finish. Cash In-and a Cash-Out took only 24 hours. So money was with me only for 24 hours. I never understand the point number two. What is the system? Actually, it is nothing but to understand the logic of demand and supply, not for any specific thing or item, for all types of things in the world, even this is applied to humans also. The third point is interesting that who is people to be managed? None, but you, yourself. Learn to sell yourself, learn to market yourself. You as your skills are actually salable commodities.

If you think you are lacking some specific skills, just learn to work with a person more than knowledgeable than you. It is called the synergy of a professional specialist. If you will learn nothing, do not worry, you will have a bright skill to learn indirectly and that is, your communication skills will improve, and you will become a Subject Matter Expert. Doesn’t it priceless?

You could be a good learner only if you could become a good seller, you could become a good marketer, and after all, if you could become a good teacher.

Be Honest Today & Ask Yourself:

  1. If you have purchased your house, or planning to purchase your house. What do you think about it? Will your house is a liability to you or it would be a good investment for you.
  2. At what date you are paying you monthly expense bills? Is it the first day of the month or the last day of the due date?

Don’t Chase Money, Let Money chase you

In the previous section, you answer for point number 1 is, “An Investment”, then you are pretty good, but if the answer is “Liability”, you have already missed an opportunity to become rich.

In the previous section your answer for point number 2 is, the first day of the month, it means as soon as your salary credited, you start paying you expenses, and won’t allow your money to grow. If you are paying it before one day of the due date, you could have at least earned bank interest for some days. If you are a businessman, do not pay your taxes first, pay your taxes before the last day.

Don’t become what school making you, try to be what you want to be, what you should be.

Intelligence solves the problem and produces money. To understand this let us dig a little bit more about active and passive income.

Active income is nothing, but income coming from your day to day work, it could be salary, commission, business income, etc., which needs your presence.

But passive income is income generated by you, and it does not require your presence, for example, bank interest, etc.

What are the business categories where you can earn passive income?

  1. Rental Income
  2. Income from Fixed Deposits, Bonds, Promissory Notes
  3. Income from Royalties like music, book writings, bloggers income, story writing, scriptwriting, etc.
  4. Income from Stocks
  5. Income from investments to a small business as a partnership or equity sharing etc…etc…etc.

Recognize Your Powers:

Every person should learn and understand three powers:

  1. How to save yourself in all type of emergencies
  2. How to earn money when you don’t have any support from others
  3. To learn Who I am, what you know, what you don’t

No doubt, you are a born Intelligent person, but it is possible that other side of this world, somewhere one more person already born, is more intelligent than you. Find him and give him employment and learn from him.

Join schools not to design yourself as a good employee, let school proud of you by producing an employer, who can give the job to many employees.

No one is stopping you from making money, but this is always an emotional decision. Don’t trap yourself in it. You should not work for money, let money should work for you. 

Losses come in life to give you a learning experience:

Do not count your losses with a single word. For example: When you buy a house and it becomes your liability then it means: It is Loss of time, Loss of additional capital, Loss of Knowledge, Loss of Information, Loss of opportunity cost.

The first house should come up with a planned way so it can become your asset and it generates income. This house will bring the second house as your residential house.

Networking is for Giving not to take:

From my parents, I always learn one thing, “You should part a little percentage of profit for charity” So earn then you give. But life shows me help those who cannot help you in return, this ends up your expectations and only then it counts in Charity, else this is a business. So it is reverse now, “Give without any expectation and then you will earn.”, and this is not only for money, that is true in all sense of worldly affairs. Try it from today.

Pick up BAD HABITS within you and KILL them forever

  1. Fear: Losing money is a phobia. Learn to cross the line. Don’t bury your failures. Convert disaster into an opportunity.
  2. Cynicism: Uncheck Doubts and fear creates Cynic. Cynic person criticizes and winner analysis. Find a good superior Boss/Manager/Professional/Agent etc. Who are masters in his skill? Learn how to stop and then when to stop, your fear will remove. Don’t focus on I do not want, instead focus on what you want
  3. Laziness:  Become greedy, you will never feel laziness. Ask yourself “what is in it for me?” and then your mind starts to exercise to find something. Be hungry, your mind is enough smart to get you in.
  4. Educate yourself: Do not use your arrogance to hide your ignorance that you are not educated enough to understand financial jargon. Start educating yourself today.

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4 reasons, why Photography similar to Meditation

Guest Author: Sonia Peters, Australia

Photography and Meditation

Would you believe photography and meditation are the same? Is there anything that both have in common?

It may seem different things to take photographs or practice meditation. While the photographer insists on looking through his camera at the outside, a person was practising meditation searches inward to seek out the complexity in their mind and heart that is locked within. Meditation and photography, as activities, entail dedication, concentration, and technical skills. Nevertheless, ownership of these attributes does not guarantee that meditation can lead to excellent knowledge beyond the end of photography in great art. Moving beyond pure expertise in either field requires a new world viewing capacity.

 

Photography an art of Observation

Photography is an art that involves observation:

Photography, as well as meditation, require the ability to concentrate on what is occurring to see more clearly. Seeing in this manner involves moving to a frame of mind in which the standard vision of a universal and self-evident universe is substituted by a keen sense of each moment’s unique and unrepeatable nature. Whether you’re paying attention to the air while sitting in contemplation or writing a picture in a viewfinder, you’re standing in front of a flickering, thrilling truth.

The roles of the meditator and the photographer seem to diverge at this stage. While the meditator cultivates the moment’s continuous, nonjudgmental consciousness, the artist captures the moment when the shutter is raised. But in reality, rather than interrupting the contemplative act of contemplation, the artistic choice to freeze an object on the film crystallizes. In those last microseconds, aligning one’s body and senses until taking a picture briefly enhances the image’s brightness and immediacy. One is given a glimpse of the moment meditative attention may struggle to provide in the brain.

Ultimate Reasons why photography is meditation:

Memories – When no one is around you, who were before

1. Memories:

While in your mind you do not live, or rather you are dreaming about your potential, you are standing squarely and more actively on the current. Rather than loving this split second of your life, there is no exquisite perfection. It could be anything, not just a style of music. “This” time is more important, and before your eyes, it will disappear. Cling and chew the memories, any recent images, and attempt to answer.

State of being is nothing but listen to your inner voice

2. State of being:

You don’t listen to the outer voices, the endless quest for the sublime light, the appropriate arrangement, or the suitable subject. You start listening to your intuition, no more from the past, enjoying the present state of being simple. It’s going to happen the moment, it’s more about being persistent. It’s not the same drop of water that continues to fall in a cascade, it’s just spending a super small millionth of a second. This is more about persistence and looking relentlessly for the last seed. When meditating, you can’t be imaginative, and yes, because when you start imagining, you’re heading out of the zone. Imagination is dreaming and brings you into visions, and is by far the opposite direction of meditation.

Separation brings Focus Unlimited and Focus is nothing but Separation from Outer world

3. Separation:

Let’s think about the most modest reality when we want to photograph something for that moment of split seconds, our goals, hopes, life, family, rivals, and separate relationships vanish. You live in a prosperous place, where you stay, you are alone–the second and nothing else. At that particular moment, they try to make use of the sun to catch the beautiful moment at that fixed period. What are the chances you feel is insignificant to the state of mind, when your hands are on the viewfinder already. Everything crosses your mind, and this is what the first step of relaxation is called by a yogi. Separate the heart from the outside universe.

Nothing is everything and Nothingness is quist to the pursuit of an unknown

4. Nothingness:

Why do we do this, the relentless quest in pursuit of the unknown, whether it be picturing a glorious sky, a beautiful grin, the magnificent waterfalls, or a deciding moment on the road? How would you think if you reflect on the most beautiful sight you’ve ever seen, right in between your camera’s broken shutter speed, how you felt.

Okay, if you don’t have a response to that, I’d be thrilled to finish this article, saying, “Dear photographers, we’re all meditating!”.

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Suggested Readings:

  1. Nothing is Everything
  2. I Love You

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OILING or SPOILING a Relationship

“Trust in Relationship”, If you have seen the logo of our group, you will easily find that this is a tagline of Aaradhya Groups(AGs). An organization that cares for relations. The group is established with a motto to realize everyone the loss of an important feeling nowadays from our life and that is “TRUST”. We are competing with each other in the race of faith but actually we are losing TRUST every second among mankind. 

What is the relation? – Can you guess, we can not live without relation. Try to see near you. You feel the definition of relation was misunderstood by everyone. I and you also include this everyone. 

We feel only living being is connected with relations, but this is not true. Living or Non-Living all are related to us. In living creatures, this is a two-way relationship, but in non-living things, it is one way, but it exists.

Ok, let’s take an example:

First, we take living beings. Well, we have relations with our family, friends, colleagues, strangers. Well, it is always two ways, even, if you do not know the stranger, even then, you have a relationship of non-familiar relationships. 

Now count on non-living things. Do you see, the table has a relation with the chair, but we have a relation with both. We can use a table or chair either altogether or separate each. So non-living things have a relationship between them, but there is one more relationship that exists and that is Non-living with living beings. Right?

Well now come to the most important point “TRUST”. Take an example of a non-living thing first. Suppose you are full of anger and you want to break the head of the person standing in front of you. You don’t have any weapons with you. You are in office, scolding him, calling names, and suddenly you look towards a paperweight, it is lying down in front of you. You picked it up and full of rage, you throw it. Can you guess what happened just now? You have shown full TRUST on that paperweight, by making yourself understand that it will work for me. For the time being, it will become my weapon. 

The pace of life is changing from moment to moment. sometimes we want to catch life, some times life tries to catches us.

A person told me when you are a child, you want to live your own life, but somebody told you, first of all, you need to gain the experience. And You agreed on that so you started following our GODFATHERS.

Sometimes, godfathers are not our idol what we were looking for, again lack of experience becomes obstacles. We changed our godfather again and again and suddenly on the edge of life, we realized we lost something very important and that is TIME.  But actually we gained a precious thing in this duration and that is called “EXPERIENCE”. And that is what we were looking for.

Well, now this is the time when we need to give proper values to our experience because we have not got it through ancestors, we have earned it. And when we are not able to realize the value of experience, then we are also following rat race. 

We know the PRICE of everything but the VALUE of nothing

Suppose, today if we become king alike person, and having all the luxuries, one can think of it. I do not have any person who claps for me, what is the use of this worldly affairs. We realize then only, we have earned nothing. We lost everything if we lost people, we lost our relationship, we lost others’ trust, and the most precious, irrecoverable TIME.

Today, we will try to discuss, all important points how should we strengthen our relationships:

Build trust in relationships:

I am not here to make you remember about any romantic commitment to last, but my intention is to make you remember that TRUST is the base of every relationship. Now the relationship could be a business, Corporate, among friends, relatives, and the most one is a relationship from yourself. The relationship brings two people together. It is not necessary that relationships are only for good relations, even it flows to enemies also. for example: before start hostility, one person should have trust in the second person, that first-person has lost his trust by becoming dishonest. When you are in love with someone, the first step is that your partner earns your trust. Well, if this relationship somehow converts into a long-distance relationship, this is the only feeling, which ties up both with each other. Well, you can say they either mastered themselves the art of TRUST or really they understand each other so much in deep, they do not have distrust on each other. And this happens because, just like love and respect, TRUST has to be earned over and over and should be able to withstand any storm that comes it’s their way.

Here are some points. you should remember to practice:

Value Yourself:

Be honest here and ask yourself, are you feeling often that you are good for nothing? No, it is not a joke and also no need to be too much serious when you are trying to pick up this question. The reason is very simple. Does anybody know who they are? I am sure not. Well if I will say you are a small particle of the source of energy, maybe you will not believe in me. but you will get something more in our previous article “I Love You” And I am sure, after reading it, the first time you will realize and recognize yourself.

When you understand your source, then you will never feel that you are good for nothing. you will start giving value to yourself. You will start loving yourself. You will start respecting you. So the main point is to find your own worth and believe in you.

Have faith in the relationship

Well, here I am not restricting the word partner only to your lover. I am not talking here only for a relationship between a couple Instead of I am talking here for all types of relationships, it could be in every sphere of life with anybody. Well everyone has prior experience with instincts. Well, it is called sometimes the third eye. Something only you can see, only you can realize. But somehow this develops with experience. It is very rare that someone brings this knowledge since birth. 

In general Sixth sense works only for experienced people and this develops trust between a relationship. But what about faith, this is always unconditional. To understand more, I will suggest reading my article “Trust Builts slowly but destroys quickly”

Building trust in a relationship involves creating a strong and genuine love for each other.

Value honesty:

Sometimes actual message lost in communication, so better to cross-check before you believe in that. And another most important thing is to listen honestly and accept the statement honestly. Some time takeaway is misunderstood because we are not listening honestly and this creates mess up. Most of the strongest relationships are built on the foundations of honesty and truth, so make sure you’re doing it right.

Listen Properly:

Do not be judgemental with your prenotions. Maybe your experience is very bad with the person you are dealing with, but it is not always he or she is wrong. We need to listen properly & honestly, then try to collect takeaways. Try to put your foot in client shoes, then only you can get the pain he is suffering from. So this happens only if you listen properly.

Talking on Pain Point is a must

Sometimes petty issues can make huge differences, so this is good to pick up one by one and bury it forever. If we can not talk sense, better not to talk nonsense. It may be possible one partner is suffering, but having patience, which could be a wrong signal to another partner, thinking that you are wrong and feeling guilty for any particular issue. better to talk and make it clear. If need to point out your partner’s mistake do it if need to accept your fault, accept it. 

Resolve issues together

If money lost, it will return, but if the trust is lost, then everything lost. It is very difficult to bring it back. You should be ready to lose everything. And in that case, it is better to settle down either issue or the relationship. There is no meaning to continue in further. Do not let others come between to settle down things in your relationship. Do it yourself, face to face. You should be able to reach at least either end.

Ask questions

“What is in harm to ask?” If you have doubts regarding any of the matters with your partner or you need clarification, you should be proactive and take initiative. Do be the judge without giving the opportunity to another party to clarify. If could not satisfy, ask again, it is your duty to save a relationship and also it is your right to know the truth.

Develop a connection beyond the relationship:

Maturity comes with experience, so initially, this would be a duty for both parties to maintain a relationship, beyond a mare relationship. It should contain trust and belief on each other, never lie, so doubt will not take birth.  enjoy the gettogether frequently, so some offline issues can be clarified.

Life is uncertain, but there are certain things can be maintained by us. 

The best way to do this is, ask below three things in life:

Oh Lord, give me the courage to change the things, what I can change

Oh Lord, give me the courage to accept the thing, which I can not change

Oh lord, give me the wisdom to understand, what I can change or what I can not Change

 

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STARTUP means Work for Yourself

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Somebody called me and asked, “What is the fees to join this meetup?” I answered, “Only your Courage”. We are not asking for money, but definitely we need you to come forward by yourself.

Aaradhya Groups will give your opportunity, the and the WORLD is yours.

I got the second call from a person, who become our member now.

He proposed to me,” I want to invest in your startup”.  I simply answered, “Same here”.

He surprised, ” You couldn’t get me.”

I told, “I got you, but actually I want you to invest in your project yourself and then I will give boost up to your project by investing my money”.

I am happy, he is going to start his own project now.

We are coming one by one to your city. Join us, if you really want to stand up.

You have worked a lot for OTHERS, Now it’s time to work for YOURSELF.

To check feasibility study for your Startup Idea, we will suggest you download article copy “Evaluate your Startup Idea”, free of cost, from the link given below: https://aaradhyagroups.com/product/evaluate-your-startup/

STARTUP means “START-UP”, and we will make it together. We will do definately.

Don’t Believe me, BELIEVE in yourself. 

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Convert your Idea into a Startup

So you have an idea to change the world into heaven with your idea, you can do that. The only you need the courage to come forward.

This is my way to work. Think about maximum output. What if you will fail? Nothing specific. But this makes difference what if you pass. You can change the world upon your conditions. You make life easy for a lot of people, which belongs to your country as well as other countries also. So come forward, Don’t restrict yourself. You are a gem. The sky is the Limit.

We are coming to your city, to reach you. Please join us on 16th Nov 2019, Saturday, at 11 a.m. at Lucknow You can find the details given below link. Register today to join. Venue details will be available on the RSVP ticket.

Do you know how many startups are working successfully in Lucknow, Uttar Pradesh?

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Is Solution Itself a Problem?

I still remember, there are some of my previous BOLGS, where I promised to discuss some of the points in further blogs, I assure you that, will do it one by one. Today I want to draw the attention of the biggest problem among the people of the world.

There are two types of thinkers in this world. One who finds a solution for each problem and others who find the problem in each solution?

I have no hitch to accept that I was never a bright academy student in my life, but I met some very important personalities in my life, who always think I have something unique. in me. I have no doubt that these personalities have different types of thinkings than ordinary people.

I still remember the day. I was in class VI in City Montessori School, Rajendra Nagar branch Lucknow. It was 7:30 a.m. or 8:00 am in the morning. My father asked my elder brother to bring a glass of drinking water. He was thirsty. He finished water within some seconds and return the empty glass to my elder brother. Suddenly he threw a question in the air, “I can see the glass is not empty, what is the English translation of this? My brother immediately answered, “There is a few water in the glass”. I was listening to that translation from another room. I could not control myself and immediately shouted, “The correct statement is, “There is a little water in the glass”. My father was happy to hear that, and he told, “Yes this is correct”. I personally thanked internally to my English subject teacher “Ms. Shah”, who has guided me correct. But when I discussed this incident to my teacher, she told me, “I have taught the same thing to all students of the class, but I am glad that you grab it properly.

That was the first point, I learned in my life that there is a difference between to learn and to live with that learning.

As I told you earlier I was never been a bright student in my academics. I was being punished serval times during my schooling. Those days I was in eight class when one day I got the message from the principal of our school that I got punishment to be in school 24*7 for some days because I was very weak in Math’s subject and I have to take extra classes. I was not alone there were four other students. We spent three days there, but our mathematics subject teachers Mr. Pandey never turned to take up for extra classes. He got scolded by our principal, and then he started scolded all of us, especially to me and started trying to humiliate me, in front of other classmates, by asking those questions, which he was confirmed that I cannot give answers.

One day, in one of our classes, Mr. Pandey instruct me to write a question on the blackboard and solve it immediately. He was sure, I could not. Instead of helping me out, he started scolding me and cursing me that I will ruin the name of the school in the Junior Board examination. He was not worried about me, but he was worried about the name of the school. That was the first day when I wept and felt ashamed.

Km. Seema Krishnan, my co-student, was looking at the whole incident and later she approached me and tried to understand my issue. Her father was a banker, and she was a bright student. She was extremely good at mathematics subjects. She guided me with the concept to understand the problem and then the logic for the solution. And then I never look back. Mr. Pandey was shocked to see my obtained marks in mathematics subject of the Junior Board examinations, I obtained 95 percent.

William Wordsworth used the expression, “The child is the father of the man” in his famous 1802 poem, “My Heart Leaps Up,” also known as “The Rainbow.” This quote has made its way into popular culture.

On that day, I learned the most important thing in my life. Your Guide, Guru, Teacher, Preacher can make or break our life forever. Our parents handover our future in their hands and hardly a few, let’s say 1% is fulfilling their duties honestly. And this is also the fact that this 1 % is struggling fighting in their whole life on a daily basis to produce again the same 1%, who can become again the “father of the man” because later those would be few among others, who will become actually “father of the next generation

There is a very famous statement in the corporate world “Do not come with the problem come with solutions“. But the fact is that, before reaching the solution, you need to understand the problem. Before thinking out of the box learn to think what is in the box

Necessity is a mother of Invention“. The solution always comes to a problem. If there is no problem there is no solution and if there is no solution, again there is no problem.

Once I was listening to late Mr. Jogindar Puri, a great philosopher, and one of my mentors, he told,” 95 percent of issues are created by man himself but when he needs a solution to self-made problems, every time he started looking for a new GOD, who can give him an immediate remedy.

Nowadays human do not love GOD, they use the name of the GOD just to serve their self-interest. In the early days, the name of GOD was a solution, but now, the name of GOD is the main root cause of wars. The name of the GOD is being used to justify almost any cruelty, from burning heretics and stoning adulterers to crucifying Jesus himself. Why mankind suffers?

Well, for an old generation still the name of GOD is a survivor because they still believe in faith but for the new generation, there is no GOD exists or maybe when they found themselves in a big soup, then only they think that perhaps GOD can save them because their faith is interchangeable according to the situation.  And if you ask them where is GOD, again they have a thousand of questions, “Is GOD male or Female”?: Is GOD black or white?, “Is GOD exists or not”? They don’t have an answer, or they have an answer, it is always full of confusion.

Once flood created havoc in a village and everything washed out. The only temple was also caught by flood. A priest of a temple tried to save himself, by running up on the floor, every time, when floodwater crosses its floor below the floor. Temple was having only three floors and this was the time when he should think about, what next? All three floors are full of water now. He decided to run towards the tomb of the temple and luckily got a safe place to sit there. A neighbor was rescued by the rescue team shouted to him, “Come with me, I will save your life”. The priest of the temple replied, “I have saved thousands of lives because GOD has chosen me to do so. So GOD is with me, he will come himself and save me. You need not worry about me”.

After some time one more passing by stranger felt guilty to see that the condition of the priest. He also offered his help to save him. The priest again said the same thing that, “I have to spend my whole life in prayers and never done bad for others, I am sure GOD will come himself to save me”. Rescue team tried to take the last attempt to convince him, to come along with them and they will save his life. But they heard the same statement from the priest, then they left him on his fate. The last statement of the story is, he drowned and died.

Now, what is the takeaway from this story, GOD tried to save him three times, once in form of his neighbor, second in form of Stranger and third in for of Rescue Team? But the priest was having faith in his ideological GOD, which does not exist. He was looking for a miracle, looking for a familiar face, what he studied and taught everybody. He had one symbolic face in his mind, which never exists. Hoping against hope and living in a fool’s paradise has always similar fate.

For some of us, GOD is a solution to every problem, but what happened if the name of the GOD become a problem? GOD is one, everybody reads the same statement in their religious book but when coming to practice, everyone has one GOD and his or her GOD is only one, the rest of the world needs to follow him. So now the name of the GOD becomes a problem, Isn’t it?

In summary, we create problems, we find a solution, then again some of us, create a problem from the solution which we already found and again we try to find a solution for a newly created problem. This is a circle. Never ended circle. We need to learn when & where to step in, when & where to step out.

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Is Negative Positivity worst?

22nd September 2019. I was watching the news on television on the day when Mr. Prime Minister Narendra Modi was busy in the “Howdy Mody” program in the United States. On the same day news ticker in some news channels were running a piece of breaking news “Now GOD will take revenge with Terrorists in Kashmir?” And these news tickers were highlighting some names of old temples which are being destroyed during the last 70 yrs of the span, and our central government has announced to taken care of all temples going forward.

I am not a religious person, but definitely a spiritual person and always respect all the religions in the world, because they never teach us anything wrong. We are smart enough to interpret those words with different meanings just for the sake of our vested interest. But I started thinking that what should be our first reaction to these types of news or piece of news, how should we really react? Should we react happily or should we react sadly or should we start to laugh at? My first thought “Will GOD take revenge”? Is it? I don’t think so. If revenge is taken by GOD is justified then it should be justified by a common man, who believes in GOD and doing all the wrong things in his daily life. What’s wrong in it then? My second thought “Why revenge now? Why it was not stopped at the first point when it was being destroyed by terrorists?” Well, this is my personal thoughts, I am not forcing it on anyone to agreed with me.

A person suggested me to be positive in all sphere of life. don’t speak any single word of negativity, if effects the whole life. He gave me an example, ‘Do not tell a lie”. This is a negative statement because it is having negates, so it should not be used. Well, when I argued, he has another example “Tell the truth”. This is a correct statement.  He was right in his viewpoint, but can not give an answer when I asked him,” Well, then why GOD prepared us to ready to live with odds also”. Everything in this world has an opposite reaction like the word has opposite words like “Day vs Night”, “Sunlight vs Shade”. “Happiness vs Difficulties”.

Then again he argued, “Anand”(आनंद), a word in the Hindi language does not have an opposite word. And he was right. In the Hindi language, they escaped its opposite. But actually, if you translate it in the English language, the word will be translated to “BLISS” and if you search through search engines, you will find the opposite word “Misery”. It could be possible you will get another word “Ecstasy”, which is called an extreme sense of bliss, where you claim, you are enlightened, further, you understand the crux of the life-like. “All the materialistic world is just for use and you should not attach yourself with it.”  Fair enough. Agreed on their points. 

But again the opposite of this word present in the dictionary and this is “Misery”.  Most probably you will get a similar type of opposite words in other languages also. I am not sure why the Hindi language is exceptional in this case. But even then I will say its opposite word is “Anand Viheen” (आनद विहीन), just for my knowledge.

We forced to live in a fiction world. where everybody is having a pure heart. They are noble, kind, truthful, and posses all the best qualities, a person can think of it. But again, there is one more person, who possesses all bad qualities, and he indulges in all types of bad practices, one can think of it. And this person is called “Villain”. 

We heard all types of moral stories in our childhood around this. One Goodman(generally King or Prince), one bad man (generally Demon, it could be male or female). And one princess, who is struggling to get rid of this so-called demon or devil and then the prince or the king will come for her rescue. In any of the cases, King or prince was always handsome and beautiful and the same was always true with a princess.

And then a bad practice started:

When a girl took birth in any family. Parents tell, “You are a most beautiful lady on this earth”. And when a boy took birth in any family, the parent tells “you are the most intelligent person in this earth” And the confusion stars on those days continues till today. Every girl wants to be a Barbie girl and every boy wants the Barbie girl for him. And both are thinking they deserve it. We become culprit to spoil their whole life by saying a baseless positive thought.

I personally grew up in a family where I never been forced to visit any religious place. We generally visit these places just for fun or just to see the natural beauties. So I am not connected with any fear related to GOD in my mind.

Especially in the families where religious rigidness is the top priority in the daily list, i have experienced these people do not want to hear any other thing, just what they are saying and talking about GOD is correct. This is my personal feeling that actually there growth is restricted, but they do not realize it.

The “Priest” or “Guru” or teacher can not hold growth, but because people respect them like they are GOD for them, so they always try to take best benefits by saying to their children that “You are born to serve people, your birth is only for salvation of the people”, and “You are a selected person, being chosen from all over the world population”. “You are lucky to born in this family, now I will show the path of salvation.”

And hearing these statements, a child started thinking that he or she is similar to GOD, and God has chosen him for any special tasks, which others can not do. As well as they started thinking about their teacher as GOD.

Ironically, when we start a comparison between Person A and person B, this is a universal truth that unknowingly we already start giving a slow poison to both persons.

Trust is logical, based on conditions, countable. But Faith throws all logic behind the curtain. Faith is unconditional. Faith doesn’t accept any logic. If you are born in a family where the tradition of “GURU-SHISHYA parampara (the custom of teacher-pupil)” is still going on, as a child you do not have to ask any question. You have to trust in their faith and you forced to have faith in all the activities they are doing.

So called Gurus destroying the thousands of lives daily, but we accept it as it is. We do not have any say? Why? Are we blind? Are we deaf? Are we emotional or emotional fools?

A beautiful word generally is in the air is  “Enlightenment”. Let us discuss a little bit about this?

Take one example that some body got free of cost course on “Enlightenment the Soul” in its corporate office. He attended and found it very useful because there are a lot of moral speeches, emphasis on moral practices.

Now he wants a Clean and pure positive environment for his soul. He suddenly started speaking the truth and you can assume his love life started to become hell. He simply told the truth, in a simple statement “I never committed with you my dear”. or “I have cheated you several times”. “you are a burden on me”. Since the day of marriage, I am thinking that it was better I should commit suicide, instead of marrying you. Now you can assume, what happened next? Enlightenment from both sides. The home becomes the worst place to live in then. Fights start and end only with the breakup of a relationship. What is the use of this type of “Enlightenment”, Do we really need it?

Mahatma Buddha left his wife and children for seeking enlightenment. Why? Any answer?. Maybe he knew the real truth, but we know only stories told by historians. We never go beyond it in search of the truth.

The real enlightenment is just to live your life with in your family, where you are facing day to day issues and working on solutions for all types of problems. You try to align all the issues with the members of the family. You need not to have experience of a civil war. you are facing it on a daily basis. And the real fact is that you know the real meaning of “PEACE”, which no body knows. Not only a single preacher in this world.

Recently, i read an interesting blog written by Author: Charlotte Laws  titled “How a Guru and a Measly Vowel almost destroyed my love life.” She asked a simple question to her fiancee if you have already enlightened, then why you are going again and again to your Guru for enlightenment. It should be only a one-time practice. Neither Guru has had the satisfactory answer nor pupil knew that. This question saved her love life and now both are married couples after two years of struggle.

If you know the destination, why are you running, just walk daily for some miles, you will reach at least

But if you don’t know the destination, why are you running. Stop, think, analyze, and finalize, and then only move slowly.

My personal experience is that  “To be extreme positive is actually following harsh negativity”. Because at this stage positive thoughts become poison.

Give a room to you to hear negative thoughts, negative ideas. because it is impossible that everything in this world is positive. I have seen people published their issues in social media because somewhere they want everyone to tell them to stick with positivism. But they do not want to accept in public that they are feeling negativity. Negativity is a truth. You can not run from it. Negative thoughts are around. 

Critics are equally important in all spheres of society, welcome them. Embrace them, love them. They are the only person, who force you to find the real path. Don’t ignore them. They are your real assets.

Just remember darkness is always everywhere. Only light can remove darkness for some time, as soon as the light goes out, the darkness appears.Which means darkness never gone anywhere. It is still always there and here.

In the same way, actually negativity exists, and for the time being my positivism can take place for a while but as soon as it went from my mind, every thing remains the same. So better accept the negativity, work on it. You will feel better, I bet.

Think today: Where GOD dwells in you? Is it your “Mind?” Or is it your “Heart”?

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Neeraj Bhatia

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Trust builts slowly but destroys quickly

A famous saint used to live his livelihood by weaving cloths. He has to work many days and nights to prepare one sheet of cloth. Everybody knows that whatever the situation maybe he will not get angry. He was famous to analyze the situation find the problem and then try to find the solution.

One day a mischevious person bet among his friends and took up a challenge. He told all of his friends, “Today I will show you, how fake he is and how he will get angry today?”

When the saint reached to market, that person immediately approached him and started asking price of the full sheet of cloth. The saint told him the price, but that person insisted, “I want to see the whole sheet before purchasing”. One of the pupils accompanying with the saint, open the sheet of the cloth. That person asked for a pair of scissors and started cutting the cloth into two-part, then again he asked,” What is the price now?”.

The saint immediately understood his intentions but replied calmly the half of the price.  That person immediately picked up the pair of scissors and tore the cloth again into two parts. And again asked for the price. The saint smiled and told him again half of the price from the previous price. That person again picked up the pair of scissors and again started doing the same process.

The pupil was surprised to see that the buyer was tearing his sheet of cloth again and again into half, without the intention of purchasing and the saint was smiling and was telling him price every time. When the process completed and now there was no scope left to tear off the cloth one more time in half, that person stood up and told to the saint, “I am sorry, I do not want to purchase your cloth” The saint smiled again and replied “Its Ok. No issues. As you wish”.

When the person left the place, the pupil asked surprisingly, “You know that he was a mischievous person and he was playing with you. But why you have not reacted? He has destroyed your hard-earned money” The saint smiled that there are two things, “First, he came here with one strong trust on me that I will not become angry in any situation”. “And I tried to build his trust stronger”. “And second, you told right that he destroyed my two weeks hardworking and I have nothing left for next two weeks as an earning. He destroyed my today, but actually, today, he destroyed his future by showing his upbringing.”

Trust can not be enjoyed alone. It is a bilateral relationship. There should always be two parties to start with. When you read in your text bok the friction between two stones can bring fire out from stone. Had you believed that? No, not at all, at least at first time. But when your subject teacher told you the same story, you trust him a little bit but not on the full story. But when you have seen first time by himself or herself, then only, you immediately trusted on the textbook, and the words told by your teacher. The reason is you experienced himself the same you read. so the Trust is calculative. Trust needs proof.

The main difference between faith and trust is that the trust is conditional and faith is unconditional.

You can have faith in GOD, but before starting an airplane journey, you try to get maximum information from all sources about the pilot, about his past experience in flying a Boeing Plane. especially the number of successful journies completed and reason for unsuccessful journies. Actually, you want to be more sure, that you have trust in him.

There are two major dimensions, in front of people before they make decisions on trust. Preconscious, where a person already made half decision with his own beliefs, or experiences or stories heard in childhood. So, in that case, fifty percent decision is already taken by his brain. 

Second is a conscious decision, means calculative and conditionals. It is a slow process. If the condition is agreed to calculation, only then trust starts, but as soon as one condition fails, the trust started shaking and started dropping very quickly.

Trust is built with consistency. Like drops coming in a bucket through tap can fillup bucket only after consuming one whole day, and if the bucket has one hole in it then, in that case, it can take up to one month, and sometimes even the feasibility would be it maybe or maybe not.

In today’s world, trust is used as one of the most valuable currencies among humans. Can you assume to build any relationship without this with anyone? Obviously not?.

Among every relationship, trust is working somewhere in between. People do business, just because of the trust factor. We get married, we pay online payments, we purchase some items, you pay to expensive services, etc..etc… just because of the trust factor.

Well, whatever you want to achieve in your life, don’ start with developing networking, start with building trust among your network. The network will automatically develop.

As earlier said, trust can not work with a single party, it needs two to make four. It takes a lot of time to build. The whole process of gaining trust starts with understanding first. If you do not know a person, how can you trust him?

But this is also the part of the process that a single wrong or unmatured action can ruin any relationship you’ve built over a period of time within seconds.

To understand this you need to understand human behavior.

  1. The human needs to be caring even if he does not want to care.
  2. All humans are internally wired for connection but they disconnected deliberately.
  3. All humans want to feel important.
  4. Most humans like the same things.
  5. Most humans want to trust the same things.
  6. Most humans don’t want to initiate, they prefer to wait.

These are some common behaviors, you can find more.

Every new trust-building process will convert existing trust into a strong belief.

Don’t trust me, trust yourself, believe in yourself only.

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Neeraj Bhatia

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Nothing is Everything

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Recently, during my stay in Bangalore, India. I used to go to have my breakfast between 7:00-7:30 a.m. in my favorite restaurant “New Flavor”, which is just near my place where I was staying. I noticed at the same time three young smart guys used to join me almost every day, dressed lightly blue color shirt and dark blue jeans. Initially, I could notice one thing only that without asking their orders, a similar type of breakfast served to them by restaurant staff daily. I never found them talking to each other.

One fine day, I found there was some discussion going on among three, but the language they were using was sign language. In multiple cities I have seen people serving NGOs, trying to learn sign language to enhance their skill to interact with people having such issues. Generally, I found then practicing this in public places only.

My first thought was the same for all these three young chaps. But when I enquired the same with restaurant staff, then only I could get the information that they all are deaf and not able to speak. But they are quite comfortable in their life. They all were in jobs and enjoying life. They don’t have any complaint from life.

Those who have the only complaint from life was, “Can anyone of us assume to spend only one day in our life with these deficiencies? And the answer is well known, “Can’t think of it”. Right?

After groping in the dark, if you see the light, you know the value of light, because you know the pain of darkness. But what happened if you well equipped with light since birth, then the value of light is obviously do not have value to you. This is the time when you should force yourself to understand the pain of darkness, then only you can understand the value of light.

Today people know the price of everything and value of nothing.

Second and very important thought came into my mind is, “How a language can become a barrier for global development when it is the most important means for all of us to communicate with each other?”

In general, the people of the whole world is divided by ourselves through useless barriers like geographical demarcations, gender, language, color, caste, creeds, body structure, skin, etc. But when we look into deep in our heart, we all are same.

Well, we cannot say that every thought process done by our ancestors were wrong. They have done a wonderful job, but manipulators won easily when a large group of people becomes a toy of a handful of diplomatic people.

After the division of India & Pakistan, a Sikh family came from Lahore to Delhi. They were refugees. At that time a lot of promises done by Government for all refugees, but it never fulfilled due to the unreliable source of database. Real refugees never get their piece of bread, they understand that they have to earn it by themselves.  The family was completely shattered. They were having two boys and two girls in the family. Somebody suggested the groom from Punjab living in Delhi, for their elder daughter. Head of the family immediately agreed, even the girl was minor. The rationale behind was simple that she can at least get the full-time meal for the rest of her life.

The elder daughter was very hard working. She adjusted with everyone in the family, even she came to know later that her husband was daily drunker. The day came when she purchased a piece of land and then she started dreaming to develop her own home, sweet home on it. In between, she gave birth to her four children. All grown up and happily living life. When one day they shocked to get the information that their father is no more now. Their mother got a huge sum of amount because their father was having some deals finished a few days back and got a huge profit from it.

Mother of four immediately started constructing a two-story building named “Prem Sadan” (A house where love dwells). Building constructed and she allotted each one portion to all fours children and kept one portion in middle for her. Everybody was happy. Then she has decided to marry all of her children one by one.

And the doom days started. Eldest son was about to marry, then the news came the second son has already selected his bride and if his elder brother delayed, he was ready to marry before him. On those days, it was treated as a bad omen. So the mother decided to go for a quick marriage for his eldest son first. Both got married. Everything was running smoothly until the decision taken for the marriage of her third son. Soon after the marriage of her third son, trifles started in home front about pity issues among all three daughters-in-law. Mother tried to resolve the issues, by distributing the day to day household work at home among all, but the third son’s wife knows very well that how a mole can be converted into a mountain. She knows how to manipulate all the words in front of her husband and how to play tricks to raise disputes.

And then the final bout faced by mother direct on her face, when informed by her third son that he wants the division of property legally. Mother knew that somebody was smiling from her back. She tried to convince all her sons that she has already given to them their portions of the property, where they are living happily, then why they want division legally? But this time nobody wants to listen to her. And she did not want to fight anymore, she was growing old now. This was the last day of her life when she saw the boundary walls are being raised in “Prem Sadan”. Prem, the LOVE vanished among all and it was clubbed in the cage again. The effort did by her, the whole life, to make a beautiful home was destroyed and the home was converted into a house, some walls, some boundaries some windows, some doors, just by some meaningless, crooked ideas and greed and a big EGO.

Now come to the point, you can assume our earth as a whole sweat home, where the demarcations done by our ancestors to live a happy life. It was a geographical division. We never understood when this geographical division become the basis of partition among our hearts.  Just because some people want to satisfy their ego, just to show their presence to the whole world, started eating our independence with their meaningless provocative words and became our leaders. Thinking that they are our well-wishers, some of us followed them and today everywhere we can see fights, arsenal, hate, apathy, just because they want to rule on the world through us. The beautiful home is converted into chaos, and everything is messed up. We wanted to live our dream, but in reality, we became the victim and till today they are using us to living up their own dirty inspirations and dreams.

There is a thumb rule, to live, and to leave this world is that whatever you possess either to use it or distribute it. There is no way to take away from this earth any single piece or item.

I personally wanted to write a book on the topic “Peace of Mind”. When I was thinking about, it was very clear in my mind that people should satisfy somewhere with what they have in their hand. They should try hard to get whatever they want to achieve, but should not connect their failure with the final outcome of the result. But suddenly I got the vibes, “If we have peace of mind, why should we run for materialistic things”. Then another vibe ran into my mind, “why should not? Why one should make himself satisfy, with what he possesses?. We are living in this world, where a lot of people do not have what we have, so better to do something for them. And to achieve this goal, we have to make ourselves dissatisfied. Do something good for those. And only then we will get a final “Peace of Mind”, within us.

Sometimes when we run behind a specific task, but unable to achieve something satisfactory. Then we feel like we have finished a long marathon just for nothing. And this is time, when the first time we feel, we have to do more specific research to understand our failures. After gearing up, again we start running behind our task wether we face failure again and again.

“There is no failure except in no longer trying”.

Sir James Dyson failed 5126 times within 15 yrs. before he succeeded to invent bagless vacuum cleaner. Thomas Edison was told by his teachers he was “too stupid to learn anything”. Theodor Seuss Geisel, known to “Dr. Seuss”, much-loved children author has his first book rejected by 27 publishers.

 There are thousands of examples all over the world present today for us, and we are following blindly. But you know, there is one more truth behind that, is, those who completed their tasks, are in limelight, but thousands are those, who never come into the picture.

Failures do not have any counts, but a successful person gets limelights.

  What the purpose is behind to mention above is very simple. There is a very thin line between “Lets Go” and “Let it Go”.

Once you are ready to accept that, life becomes easy for you. You don’t learn to grab anything since birth, but you need to learn to let it go. And this is not a science, this is a practice, and to do this you need to learn, what you know and what you don’t know?

The problem starts only when “Knowledge” converts into “Ego”. If you are thinking that you are the doer and you are the only person, who can do it, then your ego pulls you behind. The person surrounded by you immediately senses that you are pulled by ego and they started trying to make a distance from yourself.

When you surrender by accepting, you are nothing, but you are chosen to complete this task and this task is not benefited only you, but this will be benefited to entire mankind, then every person, who may be more knowledgeable or less knowledgeable and including every particle in this universe starts serving you and support you.

In my recent air trip, I got a window seat in airbus and when the landing started, I peeped out from the window. The earth was looking like a city of a small fairy tale, where we have small decorated houses, clean black roads, trees were flourishing alongside, small milky color lights were spreading from the center of the roads. Small vehicles like car, truck, bikes, scooters, etc. plying on the road.

And then I started thinking about where we people are? Oh yes, got it. A small creature like entity, moving slower than an ant on the pavement. And my mind flashed with thoughts. When we are looking at ourselves from the top, we can see we are nothing. Actually we are smaller than a mosquito. But as soon as we are coming closer to our land, we start to compare ourselves with existing entities. Then we become “Something”. Go a little more deep in these thoughts with me. When we found ourselves surrounded by other entities, then we started comparing ourselves and this thought generates superiority complex. And this superiority complex is a generator of our EGO.

If we are far from our earth, our properties, our relationships, our wealth, our positions, we fly high, when we are connected with nothing. But we grounded ourselves when we are connected with all of them and forget how to live and how to leave.

So enjoy with nothing. Because in a real sense nothing is everything.  

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Seriously, I don’t have time?

From 2nd October 1988 to 15th July 1990, the 94-episode Hindi series had its original run on DD National TV channel. It was produced by B.R. Chopra and directed by his son, Ravi Chopra. I remember those days and its airtime, you would find rarely a single person on road. Everyone stuck to its television screen during that time. It generally aired on Sunday morning. And the name of the TV serial was MAHABHARAT. This was an Indian television series based on the Hindu epic of the same name.

The specialty of this series was, it always starts with a unique round running wheel, on-screen, personification of “Time”, having a great voice-over of “Harish Bhimani” with dialogue “Main Samay Hoon”, in the English language its translation is “I am the Time“.

This was the first time, I started thinking, “Does time exists?”

Once I was listening to a Mushayara (poetry session) and I listened to one beautiful “Sher”, which forced me to write this blog. The lyricist (Shaayar) is giving an answer to a beautiful question. “What is Time”? He gave an answer by reciting only one line.

He recites “वक़्त क्या है”? “हाथों की कलाईयो से चूड़ियां ले जाता है और चेहरे पर झुर्रियां दे जाता है “In the English language it means “What is time”? “It takes bangles from the wrist and returns wrinkles on face”. Obviously, this is indicating towards women but this is a fact for all human in this world. We heard a lot of statements in our day to day life like: “Time is running out”. “Time is critical’ “Time is good” Time is not so good”. “Where is time left for me”. “Race against time” etc. The so-called “Time” leaves nothing in our hand. But who is running behind whom? Time is running, or we are running? 

I started thinking, “If I will call somebody today just for a simple reason, the answer is always the same and that would be, “I don’t have time”. Doesn’t it seems, we are becoming a laughing stock for everyone. We do not want to take any responsibility? We have found an escape route. Well if nobody has time, then who has time?

If somebody is giving you that statement, that he or she does not have time to listen to your or for your work, I bet, just watch carefully his or her activities for some time. You will easily find that that statement was just to find an escape route to get rid of you. He or She has had enough time to waste on useless activities or gossips with others. In short, this becomes our habit now, to showcase others that he or she is the busiest person, but actually, they are busy with no business. It is simply a hight of mismanagement.

My question from everybody in this world is “What is time”? Where it comes from? Where it goes? From where it started? Who invented it? Please don’t give me the theory of physicist Albert Einstein showed that time is an illusion; it is relative — it can vary for different observers depending on your speed through space.

If time is an illusion, why we are quoting the statement, “I don’t have time”, It means you are accepting that you have a control on the time and it is in your hand and for a specific moment you do not have time. And alternatively, we are also accepted by saying, “Yes tomorrow we have some time, you can come for discussion”.

The main question here is. “Do we accept time is an illusion? or Do we accept the theory that time is physical and we have an ability to control it?

Do you know, the normal respiration rate for an adult at rest is 20 breaths per minute. So, how many breaths we are having in a day, i.e. 28,800, actually which we are losing every day. When a person is admitted in the hospital within the critical condition of a heart attack. Doctor’s says only one statement. “We will try our level best, the rest is in the hands in GOD. So, if you think between the lines, the doctor is saying that we will try till the patient is breathing, else you have to accept that his time comes now”. means ready to hear “He is no more”. He has completed his journey in this world.

Do you think, can we reverse time? Again please don’t give me fiction stories. I am sure, you will agree that dead man can not take a breath, even we have multiple oxygen cylinders with us. We need to accept, the only truth is that time can not be reversed. But the same question again here is “From where it comes, how it comes to an end?”.

Somehow, here we need to accept that when a person takes his or her first breath at birth in the womb, we can say, his or her time starts, and when he or she takes his last breath, we can say his or her times comes to an end. So at least we are able to connect time with a human body successfully, even agreed on the point that time does not exist.

Do you know, without understanding the virtual existence or nonexistence of time, how much we actually dependent on time? Let us take a few examples:

If you want to understand the importance of time, ask:

  1. From a student, who reached late for a minute in the examination hall.
  2. To a traveler, who missed the scheduled train or bus or airplane.
  3. From a son, who lost his mother, not able to reach hospital due to traffic-jammed in the city
  4. From a pregnant woman, who keeps life in a womb for some months and could deliver only dead child.
  5. From a student, who studied full year and failed from one number.
  6. From a sports person, who lost race just for .0001 seconds.

Above mentioned are some examples, which shows how important the time is in our lives, even it does not exists, but we can not assume for a second, that it does not exist.

We need to remember, in our life if we lost health, it can be regained, if we lost wealth, it can also be regained, but if we lost the time it lost forever. Every second count.

We knew that we do not have control over time, so we tied ourselves with the time machine, and we invented its measurements.  But ironically everybody till today thinking that we have control on time, but actually, it is not. We humans actually created calendars, years, moths, day, hours, minutes, seconds and microseconds, not to tie up time, but to tie up ourselves against time.

Next time when you are telling to somebody that “You do not have time”, just remember you do not have control over time. Time is controlling you. Time makes you “ON” or “OFF” at any time, but you can’t.

Remember: Time and Tide wait for none.

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99….& Counting Starts Again

When I was in class 5th in my school named Bal Vidya Mandir, Lucknow. There were two books in Hindi Syllabus. “Bal Sahitya Mala” and “Saral Bhasha”. Today I don’t remember the name of the book in which I read that story named “Kuber ka chakra” (The wheel of KUBER). Well, Kuber is famous as “GOD of Money” in India.

I don’t want to discuss here the existence of GOD Kuber. But I want to point out, what I could not understand at that time, but when I saw all this story practicing in practical society, I could understand that our ancestors were really very wise and they knew that how to save the next generation. This purpose is invisible now. Everyone is living his own life. Nuclear families are increasing day-by-day. Today’s generation does not care about their parents, then, how can we think that they will care for the next generation.

Some years ago, I was in Delhi, and I have seen an old richest lady of a posh colony, was busy with some of her workers in her garden. I was curious to know what is going on. When they identified me there, they called me to come and see what is going on. To find that I am curious enough to understand the whole process, they told me that we are sowing “Walnut Tree”. I was inexperienced in agriculture so my straight question was, “When it will give fruit?”. That lady laughed and said. “Your generation always looking for results in the next minute.” I felt ashamed. But I again asked the same question. One person told me,” It will take 7 to 8 years”.

I was surprised to hear that. “How can you assume that you will alive to enjoy its fruit”, that was my direct question to that lady. But when she asked me, the same question in the same tone, I could not give an answer. She asked,” How are you sure, I will not be alive to enjoy its fruit.?”

Since childhood, I was a very curious person. I quickly started looking for a person, who can give me the answer. Then I visited one of my mentors, and a great philosopher “J.R.D. Satyarthi”. He generally called me with the nickname “Young Blood”. When he saw me, he simply asked, “You will not be here alone, what is your question”. I really always appreciated his gesture. I put my question in front of him.

He smiled and asked, “What is the time of happiness?”. I laughed and thought this is a very simple question, and the answer is also simple. I answered, “For me only two times in a year”. “First in ‘Diwali” and second in “Holi”. Now this time he laughed, and asked “Have you understood the question?”, “I am not asking for festivals”, “My question is different”.

I understood, his definition of happiness would be different. But suddenly I remember something and shouted, “I know that”. He curiously looking for an answer. His voice was calm, “Yes, I am listening”. I told “Today”. I was thinking that I have given a philosophical answer to a philosopher and my answer is perfectly right. But he nodded his head in negative, and told “No”.

He said, “You can not catch today alone”. “Today is always a mixture of past and future”. You learn from the past, live in present and plan for the future with some goals.” “Isn’t it?” “Is it possible you can happy today with these two burdens on your head”?

I nodded my head left and right and surrendered, “I don’t know the answer”. He smiled and said politely, “One second before death is the happiest moment of our life”. Now I almost jumped, “But how will I know, the next second is the moment of my death”. He smiled again and reiterated and said: “Even I don’t know”. “Then”, I was adamant to understand the reason behind this answer. And then he gave me a divine knowledge, which is difficult to get in books, you can get only from your experience or from any experienced person only.

He told, “When that old lady was sowing walnut, even she didn’t know if she will be alive or not, but the fact is that you are also not sure if she will be dead or not”. Because birth and death are not in our control.

Ironically, this definition is challenged by some people who nowadays going for cesarean delivery for the birth of their child, and majority decision is just to ensure about their child should take birth in specific day or month and also you can say that people murder people or un-timely death is rising to take control of birth and death of their hand instead of GOD’s hand. This is nothing but living against natural life and also this is like that some people are intruding GODs territory. Well, we will discuss the impact of this later in our other blog.

He emphasized, “I am giving you two-point to live a real-life “Always remember”,

  1. “When you meet someone, the greeting should be like that your greeting with this person is the first time in your life”. And maybe you will never get a second chance in this life for this greeting”
  2. “When you leave anyone, leave as you will never meet with this person anymore in your life and this is your last day or last moment of your life”. You need to practice it on a daily basis, even if you are meeting with the same person the next day.

I was cold frozen. These two statements are easy to read but much difficult to practice in one’s life. You can follow only if you believe in the existence of GOD and also if you accept that all acts are driven by GOD, you are not a doer. Do you know the difference when a person is in “Love” and when he is in an “Enamored” state?

Now come to the point, where this blog starts. The story of “Kuber ka chakra ” goes like this:

A person was passing from a lane, but suddenly he saw that another person is sitting on a hill, which is quite far from his lane. But surprisingly, a wheel was running on his head and that wheel has a pointed sharp piercing nail, a big nail. Which pierced into his head and blood was flowing continuously from his head. He was bleeding badly. His all cloths were blotted and filled up with bloodstains.

He was sitting too far, up on the hill. It was very difficult to reach him, the way was not straight. It was slippery and full of curves. But at last, he reached. He saw that the person was silent. He was not speaking any word. He is bleeding, but there were no marks of pain on his face.

He thought this is strange, he is bleeding but having no pain. He decided to ask him questions. He reached near him and started asking, “What is your name?”. That person told, “My name is Satya Prakash”. Second question, “How many days you are here?”. The person answered, “From last 40yrs”. The third question, “How you survive here means what do you eat?”. The person told, “Nothing, I don’t feel hunger or thirst”. Fourth Question, “I can see that the wheel is piercing and it is continuously running round and round, and in every round, it throws a lot of your blood from your head”. “How this is possible that you spend 40 yrs in this condition and blood is not finished from your body. The person answered,” I will never die and I will never get a shortage of blood.” The fifth question, “Do not you feel any pain?” The person answered, “Yes, only headache”. The sixth question, “Can I help you in any way?” The person said, “No, you can not”, you can leave now, No one can help me”

Now he is completely confused. And he decided to ask the last and very important question. He avoided this question a lot, but now he decided to ask at last. He asked, “How this happened to you?” As soon as he asked this question, the wheel flew to him and placed on his head and started taking rounds. He started feeling a headache. He started bleeding from his head.

He shouted perplexedly, “Why it happened to me?” “I just wanted to help you”. The person told, “I warned you to leave the place, but you did not”. He asked, “How can I get rid of it? The person told, “Only when any person the same as you, will come to you and ask the same question, you asked from me, then you will be free. Now you will not feel hunger, thirst and you will never die, your age will be stopped here only. Ok bye bye thank you, you made me free” And the person left.

It is a very painful story at that age for me. I could not understand it. But, I got its answer only when I started practicing with society and become a part of society. Now try to understand between the lines. It is really very interesting.

In our career or our business, we always try to follow those, who are better than us. Those who already became rich, or living luxuries life, always fascinates us. We fascinate by increasing numbers of USD Dollar. And nowadays social media add fuel to our aspirations by flashing big numbers. but actually, maximum news is fake news or such type of advertisement, where a user forced to believe that everything is fact.

And here the problem starts. When we see anyone, becoming rich, we try to follow him ( In the story he is on the hill for us, very difficult to reach to him). We try to approach him, to understand, how he becomes rich (Questions asked). From his experience he tried to make us understand, don’t fall in the trap. It is a painful process. (the bleeding head and wheel). But when we could not understand and adamant to understand the process, then he explains everything and the money wheel jump on us.

We become our victims ourselves. While you are busy with earning money, you will not get sleep, you will not feel hunger and thirst. You get always a headache. You will not die, because first of all your aspirations need to die, only then you will die. You just want to do the same process again and again to earn more money and more money. This is called a money trap, you earn money and count till 99 and some unexpected expense suddenly comes which consumes all of your savings(99) and then again you start from 1 (In the Hindi language it is called “99 Ka Fer”) just to pursue 100. And this continues till death.

I remember the story written by Leo Tolstoy “How much land does a man need?” If you have not read the story, I will suggest to go through and understand how greed can make the life of a man hell.

Once I asked on phone one of my childhood friends Rajendra, “So, how is Lucknow?’. He answered without any new thought, “My wife is happy, my children are happy, I am happy”. “If my family is happy, means Lucknow is growing and very good”.

In a small statement, he enlightens me on the moral of life. Why we are earning? Just to be happy with family. Then why greed, and lust? Sometimes billion dollars give us the sleepless nights but a hardworking farmer or labor never misses his sleep. And they found them always happy because they do not have anything to lose. And for sure, money can not buy happiness. Agree….???

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Be happy, with you, yourself, family, relatives, friends and near and dear ones.

Regards, Take care.

Neeraj Bhatia

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Bonding or Burden

7th Nov 2009, the first time, I got an opportunity to visit San Francisco, United States of America, for a client visit. It was a great opportunity for me because that was the first county, which opened new opportunities in my career, and later I visited approximately twenty-seven countries in a row.

One thing was common in all the people of those countries, everybody ready to say “Thanks” and “Sorry”. I was surprised that did they really mean it? Yes, they were. Whenever they realize somebody has done something good for them, or you can say, in their feeling, it was out of the way and generally, people don’t to that, they never take a moment to say “Thank You”. And if they feel they have done something wrong intentionally or unintentionally, they say “Sorry”, immediately.

I remember in my teenage, I boarded in a DTC bus, (Delhi Transport), and got one seat easily because that route was not a busy route. Suddenly I saw that at the next stop there was a huge crowd on-boarded. Everybody got a seat easily, except for one young girl. When I saw nobody is offering a seat to her, I offered my seat to her. She smiled and seated quietly.

But to my surprise, on that bus, everybody started laughing. I was from a different city and I always learned one thing from my culture that if possible, help always to a lady, children or a weak person. So, this act was not new to me. But in Delhi, why it was different? I could not understand the reason for a laugh, but this memory was still alive with me. Till today I could not figure out the genuine reason, whey they laughed.

When our previous Prime Minister of India, Mr. Manmohan Singh came from a trip to a foreign country, he got an opportunity to deliver a speech immediately after his arrival. He said, “I could not understand when Indians are in India, they never use these two words “Thank you” and “Sorry”, but when the same persons are in a foreign county, they use these words frequently”.

It is a very famous saying that there is no “Sorry” and “Thank you” among friends. It may be correct up to some extent only, but how can you leave your culture, your upbringing, your sacrament. I think the people of the entire world is our friend, till then they do not show that they don’t. Does it mean that we will not use these words to the people of the entire world? Not true. No way. If we feel gratitude or pain, these words come out automatically from our heart and this touches others’ hearts also. In my observation, In foreign countries, these two words are frequently used among friends also, why our country is exceptional? Do we really love each other up to this extent, where the sky is the limit? Where these words become useless or senseless.

Your first best friend is your Mother. Do you think you recognize her effort to make your day-to-day life easy? I am sure, so far you have never think of it. Lets us visualize again for all of your family members. Try to remember their sacrifices. I am sure, you are taking all of them granted. because if we did not develop this habit in our life, it seems to us, these acts come in their duty to do that. And our thinking is “What if they are doing”? We will talk further on this in our next blog.

This is my experience, if we use these two words with everyone including strangers, they feel closer, they feel more affinity.

The entire world will say that Open and Close are opposite words, but in real life, we feel close only to those whom we are open with. Or you can say, we open only with those, to whom we are close. True?

This is my feeling that the entire world learned divine knowledge from Indian, it is our heritage. But actually, we forget it. The intruders invaded our country took this knowledge from us, they are using it frequently and we feel ashamed to use this.

Why we take it casual? Because generally when we feel, we are not getting expected response from the opposite side, we become tortoise and if it is reverse we become the fastest runner rabbit.

A few weeks back, it was Saturday, a holiday, somebody visited my office and he was looking for some deal. I saw him, very perplexed because the receptionist was not well trained. He was looking to me for help. I asked him, “Can I help you”? He told, “My name is Ravi, I am here for a deal” and then he asked a lot of questions about the deal, but even though I was not the right person, I tried to give all the answers patiently and completed one tour with him for the entire office. He promised to come back on the coming Monday. After one month he came with his CFO & CTO and the deal was done.

The same day, I was sitting in my usual place in the office, when I have seen someone is standing nearby and staring at me. I moved my face toward him, he extended his greetings and introduced himself by making me remember, about his first meeting with me on that Saturday. Frankly speaking, I was completely forgotten about that meeting. Even then when he was asking me ‘Do you recognize me?” I could not.

He called his superiors who were CFO in his organization and introduced me and told him that he was a person whom I met first. Then he introduced me to CTO of that organization. A beautiful bonding generated within some minutes. I simply asked him, “How did you remember me”?

He smiled and told me, “Initially, I thought, you are the main person, whom I need to deal with. but later when I came to know that you are not part of this organization, even then you given your time and patiently given all the answers to my queries”. He said, “Fifty percent of the deal was completed on the day itself, your gesture works for me”. Further, he added, “When you help me to get the elevator, your last two words “Thank You”, made the final deal on that day itself”.

I helped him selflessly, this made day for both of us. I believe, this is nothing to do with that how you got your upbringing, it is something, we need to learn from our school and society. I got these gestures from my parents and my friend circle who practice Indian culture in their practical life.

Multiple times we have seen the photographs shared on social media that foreign doctors bowing their heads in front of the body of the patient who donates their organs after death. Do you really think it works? Well, you can say that a person who left the world, don’t know what respect he is getting after that, then what is the use of it?

Well, think again, actually, they are not giving any tribute to the body of the person, who is no more, they are paying respect to his or her soul. They are paying respect to his or her wish of “Donation”. As well as they are also setting up an example for the next generation.

Don’t you think, we always have a habit to complain, but if we started thinking that what we already have or given by GOD, then we will start thankfully.

8 November 2016, the date is recorded in Indian economics history, the day of demonetization. I am not going to discuss here the merit or demerit or consequences of this event. But I remember one thing that people started saying “In the previous government, everyone is telling one statement that “We do not have anything. And after demonetization Mr. Prime Minister Narendra Modi government made everybody realized that they have a lot of things, now learn the tricks on how to conceal this from the government”. But this joke was really pointing to one important point of our life, and that was “Instead of always complaining. Be thankful for what you have”.

Once a person used to visit the nearby temple for his daily prayers. Every day he used to complain to GOD, that you have not given anything to me. What is the use of his life, if you have not given me a job, I do not have family, I do not have money to survive?

The priest of the temple was very wise. He planned to talk to him. The next day, when he came to the temple, the priest called him and told there is a patient struggling for life, in a hospital and he needs kidney transplantation. Please accompany me to the hospital for a test, if it matches, they will give you a lot of money. That person furiously shouted, “It is not for sale”. Next day again the priest told him that this time the price offer is double, whatever a figure, you have in mind. In no time, that person started cursing to the priest. That was the time, when the priest given him divine knowledge that he should start calculating the price for each and every organ of his body, he could understand easily how much rich he is today. It was an eye-opener for the person.

Not for that person, this is an eye-opener for all of us, who daily curse to themselves and their lives. Besides our body, organ, life, GOD has provided natural resources to use, and that is free of cost, GOD has provided fresh air, which is essential to living, that is also free of cost, GOD has provided water, mandatory to live life, and again this is free of cost. GOD has provided earth to live, and again this is free of cost. etc. tec. etc. Well, start calculating and ask yourself, what if GOD suddenly visible to you and start asking rent for all of those. Any answer?

A child was asking for new shoes, but the father was trying to convince him, that it is impossible for him to purchase this month because the entire salary has been consumed. But the child was adamant. Then the father convinced him to go to school today, in the evening he will try to get a loan from his friend and will able to purchase it.

In the same evening, the father offers his child to visit the market to purchase shoes. But to his surprise child was not ready to go. The child refused to go. After repeatedly requested, the child told that today while returning from school, he saw a child, who does not have his legs. then only he realized that at least GOD has given him beautiful legs, so he can wear shoes, but what if it would not have been. He understands at least he should thankful to GOD, what he has instead of a complaint about what he does not have.

Bring these two words in day-to-day practice. Thanks & Sorry these two words have magic in itself. It will definitely make your life easy and build a strong bonding, which works forever. The burden will become bonding for sure.

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Best Regards and take care of you, yourself, family, friends and near and dear ones.

Bye-bye.

Neeraj Bhatia