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Is Negative Positivity worst?

22nd September 2019. I was watching news on television on the day when Mr. Prime Minister Narendra Modi was busy in “Howdy Mody” program in United States. On the same day news ticker in some news channels were running a breaking news “Now GOD will take revenge with Terrorists in Kashmir?” And these news ticker was highlighting some names of old temples which is being destroyed during last 70 yrs of span, and our central government has announced to taken care of all temples going forward.

I am not a religious person, but definitely a spiritual person and always respect all the religions in the world, because they never teach us anything wrong. We are smart enough to interpret those words with different meaning just for sake of our vested interest. But i started thinking that what should be our first reaction on these types of news or piece of news, how should we really react? Should we react happily or should be react as sad or should we start laugh at? My first thought “Will GOD take revenge”? Is it? I don’t think so. If revenge is taken by GOD is justified than it should be justified by a common man, who believes in GOD and doing all the wrong things in his daily life. What’s wrong in it then? My second thought “Why revenge now? Why it was not stopped at first point, when it was being destroyed by terrorists?” Well this is my personal thoughts, i am not forcing it on anyone to agreed with me.

A person suggested me to be positive in all sphere of life. don’t speak any single word of negativity, if effects the whole life. He gave me example, ‘Do not tell a lie”. This is a negative statement because it is having negates, so it should not be used. Well, when i argued, he has another example “Tell the truth”. This is correct statement.  He was right in his view point, but can not give any answer when i asked him,” Well, then why GOD prepared us to ready to live with odds also”. Every thing in this world has an opposite reaction like the word has opposite words like “Day vs Night”, “Sunlight vs Shade”. “Happiness vs Difficulties”.

Then again he argued “Anand”(आनंद), a word in Hindi language does not have any opposite word. And he was right. In Hindi language they escaped its opposite. But actually if you translate it in English language, the word will translated to “BLISS” and if you search thru search engines, you will find the opposite word “Misery”. It could be possible you will get another word “Ecstasy”, which is called extreme sense of bliss, where you claim, you are enlightened, further you understand the crux of the life like. “All the materialistic world is just for use and you should not attach yourself with it.”  Fair enough. Agreed on their points. 

But again the opposite of this word present in dictionary and this is “Misery”.  Most probably you will get similar type of opposite words in other languages also. I am not sure why Hindi language is exceptional in this case.But even then i will say its opposite word is “Anand Viheen” (आनद विहीन), just for my knowledge.

We forced to live in a fiction world. where every body is having a pure heart. They are noble, kind, truthful and posses all the best qualities, a person can think of it. But again, there is one more person, who posses all bad qualities, and he indulges in all type of bad practices, one can think of it. And this person is called “Villain”. 

We heard all types of moral stories in our childhood around this. One Good man(generally King or Prince), one bad man (generally Demon, it could be male or female). And one princess, who is struggling to get rid of this so called demon or devil and then the prince or the king will come for her rescue. In any of the case King or prince was always handsome and beautiful and same was always true with princess.

And then a bad practice started:

When a girl took birth in any family. Parents tells, “You are a most beautiful lady in this earth”. And when a boy took birth in any family, parent tells “you are the most intelligent person in this earth” And the confusion stars on those days, continues till today. Every girl wants to be a Barbie girl and every boy wants the Barbie girl for him. And both are thinking they deserve it. We become culprit to spoil their whole life by saying a baseless positive thought.

I personally grown up in a family where i never been forced to visit any religious place. We generally visit these places just for fun or just to see the natural beauties. So i am not connected with any fear related to GOD in my mind.

Specially in the families where religious rigidness is the top priority in the daily list, i have experienced these people do not want to hear any other thing, just what they are saying and talking about GOD is correct. This is my personal feeling that actually there growth are restricted, but they do not realize it.

The “Priest” or “Guru” or teacher can not hold growth, but because people respect them like they are GOD for them, so they always try to take best benefits by saying to their children that “You are born to serve people, your birth is only for salvation of the people”, and “You are a selected person, being chosen from all over the world population”. “You are lucky to born in this family, now i will show the path of salvation.”

And hearing these statements, a child started thinking that he or she is similar to GOD, and God has chosen him for any special tasks, which other can not do. As well as they started thinking their teacher as GOD.

Ironically, when we start comparison between Person A and person B, this is a universal truth that unknowingly we already starts giving a slow poison to both persons.

Trust is logical, based on conditions, countable. But Faith throws all logic behind the curtain. Faith is unconditional. Faith don’t accept any logic. If you born in a family where tradition of “GURU-SHISHYA PARAMPARA” is still going on, as a child you do not have to ask any question. You have to trust on their faith and you forced to have faith in all the activities they are doing.

So called Gurus destroying the thousands of lives daily, but we accept it as it is. We do not have any say? Why? Are we blind? Are we deaf? Are we emotional or emotional fool?

A beautiful word, generally is in the air is  “Enlightenment”. Let us discuss a little bit on this?

Take one example that some body got free of cost course on “Enlightenment the Soul” in its corporate office. He attended and found it very useful, because there are a lot of moral speeches, emphasis on moral practices.

Now he wants Clean and pure positive environment for his soul. He suddenly started speaking truth and you can assume his love life started become hell. He simply told the truth, in a simple statement “I never committed with you my dear”. or “I have cheated you several times”. “you are a burden on me”. Since day of marriage, i am thinking that it was better i should commit suicide, instead of married you. Now you can assume, what happened next? Enlightenment from both side. The home become worst place to live in then. Fights starts and ends only with breakup of relationship. What is the use of this type of “Enlightenment”, Do we really need it?

Mahatma Buddha left her wife and children for seeking enlightenment. Why? Any answer?. Maybe he knew the real truth, but we know only stories told by historians. We never go beyond it in search of truth.

The real enlightenment is just to live your life with in your family, where you are facing day to day issues and working on solution for all type of problems. You try to align all the issues with in the members of the family. You need not to have an experience of a civil war. you are facing it on daily basis. And the real fact is that you know the real meaning of “PEACE”, which no body knows. Not only a single preacher in this world.

Recently, i read an interesting blog written by Author : Charlotte Laws  titled “How a Guru and a Measly Vowel almost destroyed my love life.” She asked a simple question to her fiancee if you have already enlightened, then why you are going again and again to your Guru for enlightenment. It should be only one time practice. Neither Guru have had the satisfactory answer nor pupil knew that. This question saved her love life and now both are married couple after two years of struggle.

If you know the destination, why are you running, just walk daily for some miles, you will reach at least.

But if you don’t know the destination, why are you running. Stop, think, analyze and finalize, and then only move slowly.

My personal experience is that  “To be extreme positive is actually following a harsh negativity”. Because at this stage positive thoughts become poison.

Give a room to you to hear negative thoughts, negative ideas. because it is impossible that everything in this world is positive. I have seen people published their issues in social media, because somewhere they want every one tell them to stick with positivism. But they do not want to accept in public that they are feeling negativity. Negativity is a truth. You can not run from it. Negative thoughts are around. 

Critics are equally important in all sphere of society, welcome them. Embrace them, love them. They are only person, who force you to find the real path. Don’t ignore them. They are your real assets.

Just remember darkness is always everywhere. Only light can remove darkness for some time, as soon as light goes out, the darkness appear.Which means darkness never gone anywhere. It is still always be there and here.

In same way, actually negativity exists, and for the time being my positivism can take place for a while but as soon as it gone from my mind, every thing remains same. So better accept the negativity, work on it. You will feel better, i bet.

Think today: Where GOD dwells in you? Is it your “Mind?” Or is it your “Heart”?

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Bye, take care of yourself, relatives, near and dear ones

Regards,

Neeraj Bhatia

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Trust builts slowly but destroys quickly

A famous saint used to live his livelihood by weaving cloths. He has to work many days and nights to prepare one sheet of cloth. Everybody knows that whatever the situation maybe he will not get angry. He was famous to analyze the situation find the problem and then try to find the solution.

One day a mischevious person bet among his friends and took up a challenge. He told all of his friends, “Today I will show you, how fake he is and how he will get angry today?”

When the saint reached to market, that person immediately approached him and started asking price of the full sheet of cloth. The saint told him the price, but that person insisted, “I want to see the whole sheet before purchasing”. One of the pupils accompanying with the saint, open the sheet of the cloth. That person asked for a pair of scissors and started cutting the cloth into two-part, then again he asked,” What is the price now?”.

The saint immediately understood his intentions but replied calmly the half of the price.  That person immediately picked up the pair of scissors and tore the cloth again into two parts. And again asked for the price. The saint smiled and told him again half of the price from the previous price. That person again picked up the pair of scissors and again started doing the same process.

The pupil was surprised to see that the buyer was tearing his sheet of cloth again and again into half, without the intention of purchasing and the saint was smiling and was telling him price every time. When the process completed and now there was no scope left to tear off the cloth one more time in half, that person stood up and told to the saint, “I am sorry, I do not want to purchase your cloth” The saint smiled again and replied “Its Ok. No issues. As you wish”.

When the person left the place, the pupil asked surprisingly, “You know that he was a mischievous person and he was playing with you. But why you have not reacted? He has destroyed your hard-earned money” The saint smiled that there are two things, “First, he came here with one strong trust on me that I will not become angry in any situation”. “And I tried to build his trust stronger”. “And second, you told right that he destroyed my two weeks hardworking and I have nothing left for next two weeks as an earning. He destroyed my today, but actually, today, he destroyed his future by showing his upbringing.”

Trust can not be enjoyed alone. It is a bilateral relationship. There should always be two parties to start with. When you read in your text bok the friction between two stones can bring fire out from stone. Had you believed that? No, not at all, at least at first time. But when your subject teacher told you the same story, you trust him a little bit but not on the full story. But when you have seen first time by himself or herself, then only, you immediately trusted on the textbook, and the words told by your teacher. The reason is you experienced himself the same you read. so the Trust is calculative. Trust needs proof.

The main difference between faith and trust is that the trust is conditional and faith is unconditional.

You can have faith in GOD, but before starting an airplane journey, you try to get maximum information from all sources about the pilot, about his past experience in flying a Boeing Plane. especially the number of successful journies completed and reason for unsuccessful journies. Actually, you want to be more sure, that you have trust in him.

There are two major dimensions, in front of people before they make decisions on trust. Preconscious, where a person already made half decision with his own beliefs, or experiences or stories heard in childhood. So, in that case, fifty percent decision is already taken by his brain. 

Second is a conscious decision, means calculative and conditionals. It is a slow process. If the condition is agreed to calculation, only then trust starts, but as soon as one condition fails, the trust started shaking and started dropping very quickly.

Trust is built with consistency. Like drops coming in a bucket through tap can fillup bucket only after consuming one whole day, and if the bucket has one hole in it then, in that case, it can take up to one month, and sometimes even the feasibility would be it maybe or maybe not.

In today’s world, trust is used as one of the most valuable currencies among humans. Can you assume to build any relationship without this with anyone? Obviously not?.

Among every relationship, trust is working somewhere in between. People do business, just because of the trust factor. We get married, we pay online payments, we purchase some items, you pay to expensive services, etc..etc… just because of the trust factor.

Well, whatever you want to achieve in your life, don’ start with developing networking, start with building trust among your network. The network will automatically develop.

As earlier said, trust can not work with a single party, it needs two to make four. It takes a lot of time to build. The whole process of gaining trust starts with understanding first. If you do not know a person, how can you trust him?

But this is also the part of the process that a single wrong or unmatured action can ruin any relationship you’ve built over a period of time within seconds.

To understand this you need to understand human behavior.

  1. The human needs to be caring even if he does not want to care.
  2. All humans are internally wired for connection but they disconnected deliberately.
  3. All humans want to feel important.
  4. Most humans like the same things.
  5. Most humans want to trust the same things.
  6. Most humans don’t want to initiate, they prefer to wait.

These are some common behaviors, you can find more.

Every new trust-building process will convert existing trust into a strong belief.

Don’t trust me, trust yourself, believe in yourself only.

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Bye-bye, take care

Regards,

Neeraj Bhatia

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Nothing is Everything

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Recently, during my stay in Bangalore, India. I used to go to have my breakfast between 7:00-7:30 a.m. in my favorite restaurant “New Flavor”, which is just near my place where I was staying. I noticed at the same time three young smart guys used to join me almost every day, dressed lightly blue color shirt and dark blue jeans. Initially, I could notice one thing only that without asking their orders, a similar type of breakfast served to them by restaurant staff daily. I never found them talking to each other.

One fine day, I found there was some discussion going on among three, but the language they were using was sign language. In multiple cities I have seen people serving NGOs, trying to learn sign language to enhance their skill to interact with people having such issues. Generally, I found then practicing this in public places only.

My first thought was the same for all these three young chaps. But when I enquired the same with restaurant staff, then only I could get the information that they all are deaf and not able to speak. But they are quite comfortable in their life. They all were in jobs and enjoying life. They don’t have any complaint from life.

Those who have the only complaint from life was, “Can anyone of us assume to spend only one day in our life with these deficiencies? And the answer is well known, “Can’t think of it”. Right?

After groping in the dark, if you see the light, you know the value of light, because you know the pain of darkness. But what happened if you well equipped with light since birth, then the value of light is obviously do not have value to you. This is the time when you should force yourself to understand the pain of darkness, then only you can understand the value of light.

Today people know the price of everything and value of nothing.

Second and very important thought came into my mind is, “How a language can become a barrier for global development when it is the most important means for all of us to communicate with each other?”

In general, the people of the whole world is divided by ourselves through useless barriers like geographical demarcations, gender, language, color, caste, creeds, body structure, skin, etc. But when we look into deep in our heart, we all are same.

Well, we cannot say that every thought process done by our ancestors were wrong. They have done a wonderful job, but manipulators won easily when a large group of people becomes a toy of a handful of diplomatic people.

After the division of India & Pakistan, a Sikh family came from Lahore to Delhi. They were refugees. At that time a lot of promises done by Government for all refugees, but it never fulfilled due to the unreliable source of database. Real refugees never get their piece of bread, they understand that they have to earn it by themselves.  The family was completely shattered. They were having two boys and two girls in the family. Somebody suggested the groom from Punjab living in Delhi, for their elder daughter. Head of the family immediately agreed, even the girl was minor. The rationale behind was simple that she can at least get the full-time meal for the rest of her life.

The elder daughter was very hard working. She adjusted with everyone in the family, even she came to know later that her husband was daily drunker. The day came when she purchased a piece of land and then she started dreaming to develop her own home, sweet home on it. In between, she gave birth to her four children. All grown up and happily living life. When one day they shocked to get the information that their father is no more now. Their mother got a huge sum of amount because their father was having some deals finished a few days back and got a huge profit from it.

Mother of four immediately started constructing a two-story building named “Prem Sadan” (A house where love dwells). Building constructed and she allotted each one portion to all fours children and kept one portion in middle for her. Everybody was happy. Then she has decided to marry all of her children one by one.

And the doom days started. Eldest son was about to marry, then the news came the second son has already selected his bride and if his elder brother delayed, he was ready to marry before him. On those days, it was treated as a bad omen. So the mother decided to go for a quick marriage for his eldest son first. Both got married. Everything was running smoothly until the decision taken for the marriage of her third son. Soon after the marriage of her third son, trifles started in home front about pity issues among all three daughters-in-law. Mother tried to resolve the issues, by distributing the day to day household work at home among all, but the third son’s wife knows very well that how a mole can be converted into a mountain. She knows how to manipulate all the words in front of her husband and how to play tricks to raise disputes.

And then the final bout faced by mother direct on her face, when informed by her third son that he wants the division of property legally. Mother knew that somebody was smiling from her back. She tried to convince all her sons that she has already given to them their portions of the property, where they are living happily, then why they want division legally? But this time nobody wants to listen to her. And she did not want to fight anymore, she was growing old now. This was the last day of her life when she saw the boundary walls are being raised in “Prem Sadan”. Prem, the LOVE vanished among all and it was clubbed in the cage again. The effort did by her, the whole life, to make a beautiful home was destroyed and the home was converted into a house, some walls, some boundaries some windows, some doors, just by some meaningless, crooked ideas and greed and a big EGO.

Now come to the point, you can assume our earth as a whole sweat home, where the demarcations done by our ancestors to live a happy life. It was a geographical division. We never understood when this geographical division become the basis of partition among our hearts.  Just because some people want to satisfy their ego, just to show their presence to the whole world, started eating our independence with their meaningless provocative words and became our leaders. Thinking that they are our well-wishers, some of us followed them and today everywhere we can see fights, arsenal, hate, apathy, just because they want to rule on the world through us. The beautiful home is converted into chaos, and everything is messed up. We wanted to live our dream, but in reality, we became the victim and till today they are using us to living up their own dirty inspirations and dreams.

There is a thumb rule, to live, and to leave this world is that whatever you possess either to use it or distribute it. There is no way to take away from this earth any single piece or item.

I personally wanted to write a book on the topic “Peace of Mind”. When I was thinking about, it was very clear in my mind that people should satisfy somewhere with what they have in their hand. They should try hard to get whatever they want to achieve, but should not connect their failure with the final outcome of the result. But suddenly I got the vibes, “If we have peace of mind, why should we run for materialistic things”. Then another vibe ran into my mind, “why should not? Why one should make himself satisfy, with what he possesses?. We are living in this world, where a lot of people do not have what we have, so better to do something for them. And to achieve this goal, we have to make ourselves dissatisfied. Do something good for those. And only then we will get a final “Peace of Mind”, within us.

Sometimes when we run behind a specific task, but unable to achieve something satisfactory. Then we feel like we have finished a long marathon just for nothing. And this is time, when the first time we feel, we have to do more specific research to understand our failures. After gearing up, again we start running behind our task wether we face failure again and again.

“There is no failure except in no longer trying”.

Sir James Dyson failed 5126 times within 15 yrs. before he succeeded to invent bagless vacuum cleaner. Thomas Edison was told by his teachers he was “too stupid to learn anything”. Theodor Seuss Geisel, known to “Dr. Seuss”, much-loved children author has his first book rejected by 27 publishers.

 There are thousands of examples all over the world present today for us, and we are following blindly. But you know, there is one more truth behind that, is, those who completed their tasks, are in limelight, but thousands are those, who never come into the picture.

Failures do not have any counts, but a successful person gets limelights.

  What the purpose is behind to mention above is very simple. There is a very thin line between “Lets Go” and “Let it Go”.

Once you are ready to accept that, life becomes easy for you. You don’t learn to grab anything since birth, but you need to learn to let it go. And this is not a science, this is a practice, and to do this you need to learn, what you know and what you don’t know?

The problem starts only when “Knowledge” converts into “Ego”. If you are thinking that you are the doer and you are the only person, who can do it, then your ego pulls you behind. The person surrounded by you immediately senses that you are pulled by ego and they started trying to make a distance from yourself.

When you surrender by accepting, you are nothing, but you are chosen to complete this task and this task is not benefited only you, but this will be benefited to entire mankind, then every person, who may be more knowledgeable or less knowledgeable and including every particle in this universe starts serving you and support you.

In my recent air trip, I got a window seat in airbus and when the landing started, I peeped out from the window. The earth was looking like a city of a small fairy tale, where we have small decorated houses, clean black roads, trees were flourishing alongside, small milky color lights were spreading from the center of the roads. Small vehicles like car, truck, bikes, scooters, etc. plying on the road.

And then I started thinking about where we people are? Oh yes, got it. A small creature like entity, moving slower than an ant on the pavement. And my mind flashed with thoughts. When we are looking at ourselves from the top, we can see we are nothing. Actually we are smaller than a mosquito. But as soon as we are coming closer to our land, we start to compare ourselves with existing entities. Then we become “Something”. Go a little more deep in these thoughts with me. When we found ourselves surrounded by other entities, then we started comparing ourselves and this thought generates superiority complex. And this superiority complex is a generator of our EGO.

If we are far from our earth, our properties, our relationships, our wealth, our positions, we fly high, when we are connected with nothing. But we grounded ourselves when we are connected with all of them and forget how to live and how to leave.

So enjoy with nothing. Because in a real sense nothing is everything.  

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Bye, take care of yourself, your relatives, friends, and your near and dear ones

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99….& Counting Starts Again

When I was in class 5th in my school named Bal Vidya Mandir, Lucknow. There were two books in Hindi Syllabus. “Bal Sahitya Mala” and “Saral Bhasha”. Today I don’t remember the name of the book in which I read that story named “Kuber ka chakra” (The wheel of KUBER). Well, Kuber is famous as “GOD of Money” in India.

I don’t want to discuss here the existence of GOD Kuber. But I want to point out, what I could not understand at that time, but when I saw all this story practicing in practical society, I could understand that our ancestors were really very wise and they knew that how to save the next generation. This purpose is invisible now. Everyone is living his own life. Nuclear families are increasing day-by-day. Today’s generation does not care about their parents, then, how can we think that they will care for the next generation.

Some years ago, I was in Delhi, and I have seen an old richest lady of a posh colony, was busy with some of her workers in her garden. I was curious to know what is going on. When they identified me there, they called me to come and see what is going on. To find that I am curious enough to understand the whole process, they told me that we are sowing “Walnut Tree”. I was inexperienced in agriculture so my straight question was, “When it will give fruit?”. That lady laughed and said. “Your generation always looking for results in the next minute.” I felt ashamed. But I again asked the same question. One person told me,” It will take 7 to 8 years”.

I was surprised to hear that. “How can you assume that you will alive to enjoy its fruit”, that was my direct question to that lady. But when she asked me, the same question in the same tone, I could not give an answer. She asked,” How are you sure, I will not be alive to enjoy its fruit.?”

Since childhood, I was a very curious person. I quickly started looking for a person, who can give me the answer. Then I visited one of my mentors, and a great philosopher “J.R.D. Satyarthi”. He generally called me with the nickname “Young Blood”. When he saw me, he simply asked, “You will not be here alone, what is your question”. I really always appreciated his gesture. I put my question in front of him.

He smiled and asked, “What is the time of happiness?”. I laughed and thought this is a very simple question, and the answer is also simple. I answered, “For me only two times in a year”. “First in ‘Diwali” and second in “Holi”. Now this time he laughed, and asked “Have you understood the question?”, “I am not asking for festivals”, “My question is different”.

I understood, his definition of happiness would be different. But suddenly I remember something and shouted, “I know that”. He curiously looking for an answer. His voice was calm, “Yes, I am listening”. I told “Today”. I was thinking that I have given a philosophical answer to a philosopher and my answer is perfectly right. But he nodded his head in negative, and told “No”.

He said, “You can not catch today alone”. “Today is always a mixture of past and future”. You learn from the past, live in present and plan for the future with some goals.” “Isn’t it?” “Is it possible you can happy today with these two burdens on your head”?

I nodded my head left and right and surrendered, “I don’t know the answer”. He smiled and said politely, “One second before death is the happiest moment of our life”. Now I almost jumped, “But how will I know, the next second is the moment of my death”. He smiled again and reiterated and said: “Even I don’t know”. “Then”, I was adamant to understand the reason behind this answer. And then he gave me a divine knowledge, which is difficult to get in books, you can get only from your experience or from any experienced person only.

He told, “When that old lady was sowing walnut, even she didn’t know if she will be alive or not, but the fact is that you are also not sure if she will be dead or not”. Because birth and death are not in our control.

Ironically, this definition is challenged by some people who nowadays going for cesarean delivery for the birth of their child, and majority decision is just to ensure about their child should take birth in specific day or month and also you can say that people murder people or un-timely death is rising to take control of birth and death of their hand instead of GOD’s hand. This is nothing but living against natural life and also this is like that some people are intruding GODs territory. Well, we will discuss the impact of this later in our other blog.

He emphasized, “I am giving you two-point to live a real-life “Always remember”,

  1. “When you meet someone, the greeting should be like that your greeting with this person is the first time in your life”. And maybe you will never get a second chance in this life for this greeting”
  2. “When you leave anyone, leave as you will never meet with this person anymore in your life and this is your last day or last moment of your life”. You need to practice it on a daily basis, even if you are meeting with the same person the next day.

I was cold frozen. These two statements are easy to read but much difficult to practice in one’s life. You can follow only if you believe in the existence of GOD and also if you accept that all acts are driven by GOD, you are not a doer. Do you know the difference when a person is in “Love” and when he is in an “Enamored” state?

Now come to the point, where this blog starts. The story of “Kuber ka chakra ” goes like this:

A person was passing from a lane, but suddenly he saw that another person is sitting on a hill, which is quite far from his lane. But surprisingly, a wheel was running on his head and that wheel has a pointed sharp piercing nail, a big nail. Which pierced into his head and blood was flowing continuously from his head. He was bleeding badly. His all cloths were blotted and filled up with bloodstains.

He was sitting too far, up on the hill. It was very difficult to reach him, the way was not straight. It was slippery and full of curves. But at last, he reached. He saw that the person was silent. He was not speaking any word. He is bleeding, but there were no marks of pain on his face.

He thought this is strange, he is bleeding but having no pain. He decided to ask him questions. He reached near him and started asking, “What is your name?”. That person told, “My name is Satya Prakash”. Second question, “How many days you are here?”. The person answered, “From last 40yrs”. The third question, “How you survive here means what do you eat?”. The person told, “Nothing, I don’t feel hunger or thirst”. Fourth Question, “I can see that the wheel is piercing and it is continuously running round and round, and in every round, it throws a lot of your blood from your head”. “How this is possible that you spend 40 yrs in this condition and blood is not finished from your body. The person answered,” I will never die and I will never get a shortage of blood.” The fifth question, “Do not you feel any pain?” The person answered, “Yes, only headache”. The sixth question, “Can I help you in any way?” The person said, “No, you can not”, you can leave now, No one can help me”

Now he is completely confused. And he decided to ask the last and very important question. He avoided this question a lot, but now he decided to ask at last. He asked, “How this happened to you?” As soon as he asked this question, the wheel flew to him and placed on his head and started taking rounds. He started feeling a headache. He started bleeding from his head.

He shouted perplexedly, “Why it happened to me?” “I just wanted to help you”. The person told, “I warned you to leave the place, but you did not”. He asked, “How can I get rid of it? The person told, “Only when any person the same as you, will come to you and ask the same question, you asked from me, then you will be free. Now you will not feel hunger, thirst and you will never die, your age will be stopped here only. Ok bye bye thank you, you made me free” And the person left.

It is a very painful story at that age for me. I could not understand it. But, I got its answer only when I started practicing with society and become a part of society. Now try to understand between the lines. It is really very interesting.

In our career or our business, we always try to follow those, who are better than us. Those who already became rich, or living luxuries life, always fascinates us. We fascinate by increasing numbers of USD Dollar. And nowadays social media add fuel to our aspirations by flashing big numbers. but actually, maximum news is fake news or such type of advertisement, where a user forced to believe that everything is fact.

And here the problem starts. When we see anyone, becoming rich, we try to follow him ( In the story he is on the hill for us, very difficult to reach to him). We try to approach him, to understand, how he becomes rich (Questions asked). From his experience he tried to make us understand, don’t fall in the trap. It is a painful process. (the bleeding head and wheel). But when we could not understand and adamant to understand the process, then he explains everything and the money wheel jump on us.

We become our victims ourselves. While you are busy with earning money, you will not get sleep, you will not feel hunger and thirst. You get always a headache. You will not die, because first of all your aspirations need to die, only then you will die. You just want to do the same process again and again to earn more money and more money. This is called a money trap, you earn money and count till 99 and some unexpected expense suddenly comes which consumes all of your savings(99) and then again you start from 1 (In the Hindi language it is called “99 Ka Fer”) just to pursue 100. And this continues till death.

I remember the story written by Leo Tolstoy “How much land does a man need?” If you have not read the story, I will suggest to go through and understand how greed can make the life of a man hell.

Once I asked on phone one of my childhood friends Rajendra, “So, how is Lucknow?’. He answered without any new thought, “My wife is happy, my children are happy, I am happy”. “If my family is happy, means Lucknow is growing and very good”.

In a small statement, he enlightens me on the moral of life. Why we are earning? Just to be happy with family. Then why greed, and lust? Sometimes billion dollars give us the sleepless nights but a hardworking farmer or labor never misses his sleep. And they found them always happy because they do not have anything to lose. And for sure, money can not buy happiness. Agree….???

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Be happy, with you, yourself, family, relatives, friends and near and dear ones.

Regards, Take care.

Neeraj Bhatia

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Bonding or Burden

7th Nov 2009, the first time, I got an opportunity to visit San Francisco, United States of America, for a client visit. It was a great opportunity for me because that was the first county, which opened new opportunities in my career, and later I visited approximately twenty-seven countries in a row.

One thing was common in all the people of those countries, everybody ready to say “Thanks” and “Sorry”. I was surprised that did they really mean it? Yes, they were. Whenever they realize somebody has done something good for them, or you can say, in their feeling, it was out of the way and generally, people don’t to that, they never take a moment to say “Thank You”. And if they feel they have done something wrong intentionally or unintentionally, they say “Sorry”, immediately.

I remember in my teenage, I boarded in a DTC bus, (Delhi Transport), and got one seat easily because that route was not a busy route. Suddenly I saw that in the next stop there was a huge crowd on-boarded. Everybody got a seat easily, except for one young girl. When I saw nobody is offering a seat to her, I offered my seat to her. She smiled and seated quietly.

But to my surprise, on that bus, everybody started laughing. I was from a different city and I always learned one thing from my culture that if possible, help always to a lady, children or a weak person. So, this act was not new to me. But in Delhi, why it was different? I could not understand the reason for a laugh, but this memory was still alive with me. Till today I could not figure out the genuine reason, whey they laughed.

When our previous Prime Minister of India, Mr. Manmohan Singh came from a trip of a foreign country, he got an opportunity to deliver a speech immediately after his arrival. He said, “I could not understand when Indians are in India, they never use these two words “Thank you” and “Sorry”, but when the same persons are in a foreign county, they use these words frequently”.

It is a very famous saying that there is no “Sorry” and “Thank you” among friends. It may be correct up to some extent only, but how can you leave your culture, your upbringing, your sacrament. I think the people of the entire world is our friend, till then they do not show that they don’t. Does it mean that we will not use these words to the people of the entire world? Not true. No way. If we feel gratitude or pain, these words come out automatically from our heart and this touches others’ hearts also. In my observation, In foreign countries, these two words are frequently used among friends also, why our country is exceptional? Do we really love each other up to this extent, where the sky is the limit? Where these words become useless or senseless.

Your first best friend is your Mother. Do you think you recognize her effort to make your day-to-day life easy? I am sure, so far you have never think of it. Lets us visualize again for all of your family members. Try to remember their sacrifices. I am sure, you are taking all of them granted. because if we did not develop this habit in our life, it seems to us, these acts come in their duty to do that. And our thinking is “What if they are doing”? We will talk further on this in our next blog.

This is my experience, if we use these two words with everyone including strangers, they feel closer, they feel more affinity.

The entire world will say that Open and Close are opposite words, but in real life, we feel close only to those whom we are open with. Or you can say, we open only with those, to whom we are close. True?

This is my feeling that the entire world learned divine knowledge from Indian, it is our heritage. But actually, we forget it. The intruders invaded our country took this knowledge from us, they are using it frequently and we feel ashamed to use this.

Why we take it casual? Because generally when we feel, we are not getting expected response from the opposite side, we become tortoise and if it is reverse we become the fastest runner rabbit.

A few weeks back, it was Saturday, a holiday, somebody visited my office and he was looking for some deal. I saw him, very perplexed because the receptionist was not well trained. He was looking to me for help. I asked him, “Can I help you”? He told, “My name is Ravi, I am here for a deal” and then he asked a lot of questions about the deal, but even though I was not the right person, I tried to give all the answers patiently and completed one tour with him for the entire office. He promised to come back on coming Monday. After one month he came with his CFO & CTO and the deal was done.

The same day, I was sitting in my usual place in the office, when I have seen someone is standing nearby and staring at me. I moved my face toward him, he extended his greetings and introduced himself by making me remember, about his first meeting with me on that Saturday. Frankly speaking, I was completely forgotten about that meeting. Even then when he was asking me ‘Do you recognize me?” I could not.

He called his superiors who was CFO in his organization and introduced me and told him that he was a person whom I met first. Then he introduced me to CTO of that organization. A beautiful bonding generated within some minutes. I simply asked him, “How did you remember me”?

He smiled and told me, “Initially, I thought, you are the main person, whom I need to deal with. but later when I came to know that you are not part of this organization, even then you given your time and patiently given all the answers to my queries”. He said, “Fifty percent of the deal was completed on the day itself, your gesture works for me”. Further, he added, “When you help me to get the elevator, your last two words “Thank You”, made the final deal on that day itself”.

I helped him selflessly, this made day for both of us. I believe, this is nothing to do with that how you got your upbringing, it is something, we need to learn from our school and society. I got these gestures from my parents and my friend circle who practice Indian culture in their practical life.

Multiple times we have seen the photographs shared on social media that foreign doctors bowing their heads in front of the body of the patient who donates their organs after death. Do you really think it works? Well, you can say that a person who left the world, don’t know what respect he is getting after that, then what is the use of it?

Well, think again, actually, they are not giving any tribute to the body of the person, who is no more, they are paying respect to his or her soul. They are paying respect to his or her wish of “Donation”. As well as they are also setting up an example for the next generation.

Don’t you think, we always have a habit to complain, but if we started thinking that what we already have or given by GOD, then we will start thankfully.

8 November 2016, the date is recorded in Indian economics history, the day of demonetization. I am not going to discuss here the merit or demerit or consequences of this event. But I remember one thing that people started saying “In the previous government, everyone is telling one statement that “We do not have anything. And after demonetization Mr. Prime Minister Narendra Modi government made everybody realized that they have a lot of things, now learn the tricks on how to conceal this from the government”. But this joke was really pointing to one important point of our life, and that was “Instead of always complaining. Be thankful for what you have”.

Once a person used to visit the nearby temple for his daily prayers. Every day he used to complain to GOD, that you have not given anything to me. What is the use of his life, if you have not given me a job, I do not have family, I do not have money to survive?

The priest of the temple was very wise. He planned to talk to him. The next day, when he came to the temple, the priest called him and told there is a patient struggling for life, in a hospital and he needs kidney transplantation. Please accompany me to the hospital for a test, if its matches, they will give you a lot of money. That person furiously shouted, “It is not for sale”. Next day again the priest told him that this time the price offer is double, whatever a figure, you have in mind. In no time, that person started cursing to the priest. That was the time, when the priest given him divine knowledge that he should start calculating the price for each and every organ of his body, he could understand easily how much rich he is today. It was an eye-opener for the person.

Not for that person, this is an eye-opener for all of us, who daily curse to themselves and their lives. Besides our body, organ, life, GOD has provided natural resources to use, and that is free of cost, GOD has provided fresh air, which is essential to living, that is also free of cost, GOD has provided water, mandatory to live life, and again this is free of cost. GOD has provided earth to live, and again this is free of cost. etc. tec. etc. Well, start calculating and ask yourself, what if GOD suddenly visible to you and start asking rent for all of those. Any answer?

A child was asking for new shoes, but the father was trying to convince him, that it is impossible for him to purchase this month because the entire salary has been consumed. But the child was adamant. Then the father convinced him to go to school today, in the evening he will try to get a loan from his friend and will able to purchase it.

In the same evening, the father offers his child to visit the market to purchase shoes. But to his surprise child was not ready to go. The child refused to go. After repeatedly requested, the child told that today while returning from school, he saw a child, who does not have his legs. then only he realized that at least GOD has given him beautiful legs, so he can wear shoes, but what if it would not have been. He understands at least he should thankful to GOD, what he has instead of a complaint about what he does not have.

Bring these two words in day-to-day practice. Thanks & Sorry these two words have magic in itself. It will definitely make your life easy and build a strong bonding, which works forever. The burden will become bonding for sure.

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Best Regards and take care of you, yourself, family, friends and near and dear ones.

Bye-bye.

Neeraj Bhatia

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Which side of the GOD is?

In Punjab, Majha region, Gurdaspur is a district, where one of my farmer friend residing with his family. He has two daughters. Both got married. One day he thought I need to visit both of my daughters today. He visited his elder daughter first. Her husband was having the business of making clay pitchers and selling it in nearby markets. When he was about to leave, he asked her daughter, “Do you want anything”? She told, “Only one thing, please pray to GOD, that rains should be delayed, so at least our raw clay pitchers get dried”. To sell them in the market is only our earnings”.

On the same day, he visited the younger daughter house. Her husband was a farmer. Everything was okay. He was very happy. He asked the same question to her younger daughter “Do you want anything”? She told “Nothing, but, please pray to GOD, that rains should be on proper schedule time, else, our plants get dried and we can not earn anything this year.

My friend was confused, which side the GOD is? How is it possible that GOD can help both of my daughters.

Are you facing same issue, in your Life? Can you give me the solution? whose side GOD will be?

In the year 2005, I was in Mumbai. Generally, I used local trains for destinations. Because to go long routes through road and stuck in a traffic jam for hours was always a foolish decision. I used four wheelers only for night drives or for my trips outside Mumbai.

I was staying in Malad (West), the day when havoc happened in Mumbai, unfortunately, I was there. It was 26th July 2005, when the rain started and for the next 10 days, it never decreases its speed. I never kept so many eatables in my refrigerator or storage. When it started, I thought it will take maybe the next 24 hours to stop. or rain will slow down and shops will open. And I will get something to eat.

But I was wrong, it continued for a couple of days. Mumbai was on a halt. Everybody was stuck where they were. Offices started to drown, homes melted down like anything. Thousands for Mumbai people were on roads or spread on railway tracks because all the local trains were on a halt. Public transports including private taxi drivers increased fare prices multi-folds. Public Buses were stuck in the middle of the road, all are half drowned in water. Television was airing information minutes by minutes and after some time electricity failed for the entire city. ATMs run out from currencies, dried out. Some machines were out-of-order with error description “non-functional”. I was feeling hungry, but can not go out, because of heavy rain and lashing wind. Online or mobile orders for food were rejected. Then slowly mobile charging got off. Communication was halt completely. Whole Mumbai was at the mercy of GOD.

The same situation continued for the next 9 days. Thousands of people were drowned. Many parts of the Mumbai was half drowned. One of my friends trying to save another friend pulled down by the water. I forget my hunger for those days. If I could hear anything on those days, that was only crying. for all of those, whom I was never familiar with. But I was melted down by their heart throbbing cries.

I found myself always lucky, and this time also I was. The flood water reached only till Goregaon station and before it reached to Malad station, the rain stopped. On that day as soon as the rain stopped along with my friend. I rush towards nearby places to collect the stock of the situation.

I was on my two-wheeler. I do not want to tell a lie here, my first preference was to see if any hotel, any shop is started preparing food, or can we get anything which can be eaten immediately.

Wandering to find food, we reached near Goregoan(W) station. Everywhere water and water. All roads were flooded with water. Home dashed to grounds. We can see utensils, clothes, electric and electronic appliances, money, educational certificates were floating on the water.

And then I have seen first dead body, swollen with water. And then second and third and so on. I cried aloud. “What the hell is it? How can GOD do that? Suddenly, I have seen some more dead bodies but they have cuts on their bodies. Some bodies didn’t have hands, some didn’t have fingers. I was shocked to see that. Then I have seen dead bodies of children floating on water.

My friend was a local resident of Mumbai. I asked him how it is possible? How can rain cuts somebody hands, or neck or fingers? He kept his eyes down. I understand he had an answer but he is hesitating. And then, when he started telling the truth, my eyes getting wide opened, with surprise and anyone can see the combination of anger, pain, and sorrow in it.

He told me there are some people who are so selfish, that they never leave any opportunity to loot. I believe as soon as these houses dashed grounded and people started crying for help. These goons took advantage and tried to pull out their ornaments from their bodies. Everyone can not be a good swimmer. But these goons are well trained in it. Here you can see, some necks and fingers are cut down because maybe bodies are old more than 24 or 48 hours and are swollen, they found it very hard to get their ornament to be pulled out, so they cut their hands, neck, ears or fingers. But in some cases, this is also possible that when somebody is asking for help, then instead of giving the help they cut them from throats, so they can collect their ornaments, etc.

What an inhuman and insensitive act? Disgusting…My emotions were so high that If I could have a sword in my hand and if I could get them in front of me, definitely I would cut these goons in pieces, to make sure they are not alive.

But the question here is again? Which side the GOD is?

One day I did catch my train from Dadar station. It was late evening. It was a harbor lane. I saw a group of ladies entered in second class compartments having big cane baskets on their heads. They were having some fruits in them, and most probably they return after selling it in another station market.

I observed all ladies put their baskets on the ground of the compartment, but one lady kept it on her head only. Curiously, I asked, “where are you going?”. One of them told the name of the station. I wondered, it is too far, and it will take approximately 35 more minutes. I simply asked, “You know how much time train will take to reach there”, they told the same estimated time. Then again I asked, “why she is not grounded her basket”, “why she is keeping it on her head”. Other ladies laughed at her and said, she will not. My surprise was increasing second by second. I asked again, “Why?”. Another lady said because she is thinking that she should not increase the load on the train. And she is reducing a load on the train by keeping his burden to herself. I never heard that logic before. I wanted to convince her, she is wrong, but somehow kept quiet. They were speaking in the Marathi language, which I was not well versed.

But I started thinking, for the public it is a foolish act, but in my senses, it was an innocent act. She is so kind by heart, she can not give trouble to anyone in her life.

But the takeaway from this incident was remarkable. The same situation is happening with us on a daily basis. We are taking all the loads on our heads, but not leaving it to GOD. Maybe we have a doubt, which side the GOD is?

On the rout of my office, generally every morning I can see a huge rush of the public waiting to board on public or private buses. As soon as, the bus arrives, a huge bunch of crowd started struggling to enter from the entry gate. They tried to push others backward, so they can get inside, and the haste is only because they want to grab a seat. There is no mercy for old people and ladies or children. But when they were pushed back by others, they again started trying but at last, when they are stuck in the crowd and pushed back again and again, then they leave it on GOD, felting helpless, there all efforts get failed just due to others overpower them. Similarly, in our life, we try hard to use all of our power to be fulfilled our dreams, but when we failed repeatedly then only we leave everything on GOD.

In my view, this concept should be reversed now. Leave everything on GOD and then try hard. I am sure, you will be succeeded.

A student usually entering from the front gate of the college, find side gate open today, this was restricted but just to save her time, she entered from that gate swiftly as no attendant was there to stop him. Suddenly, she realized all other students are exchanging greetings. She was surprised. She was thinking of what happened today? Am I different today? I come to college daily, but nobody recognizes me, but what happened suddenly, I am famous overnight. Everybody has a single sentence today “Good Morning Mam”. And suddenly she realized, I have taken different paths today, maybe side lane is especially for VIP type of students or something else. Anyways, she felt proud and try to show that she is VIP. Sometimes she waved her hand and accepted greetings from the student by slightly bowing her head down.

She became conscious when she realized the senior teachers also bow their heads and said “Good Morning Mam”, and then the first time she moved towards the backside to see if there is anyone, who is walking along with her. And to her surprise, it was her College Dean, who is walking behind her. And in a surprising situation, she bowed her head to exchange greetings with her.

This was her time to understand, that all greetings were for College Dean Mam, and she was thinking that it was for her.

We are doing the same mistake again and again in our life, thinking that we are the doer for all types of acts in our life, but actually, the doer is GOD and we are taking all the credits.

When we surrender our all efforts to GOD, then suddenly we started getting all, what we never think of our dreams.

I was sitting in my office on my desk, and in front of my desk, one of my senior colleagues was sitting. One of our office colleagues entered from the main door in our room and she bowed the head and threw her smile towards us. My senior college has exchanged greeting by saying a long “Hi”. Simultaneously I smiled at her. She smiled but I realized only when a strong voice swims in the air from my backside with greeting “Hello”, that she is exchanging her greeting to her boss, who was sitting just behind me on the sofa set. It was neither for me nor for my senior colleague. But actually, she got three smiles when she was expecting only one from his boss only.

Now come to the main point, from where this BLOG started.

Which side of GOD is? We have seen in all of our above-mentioned incidents, we don’t have any direct interaction or communication with GOD.

Well, from where you will get a direct mobile, or cell number of GOD, who will give you? Do you have any agent’s contact number?

I was very weak student in 5th class. And especially in Geography subject, i never understand the difference between latitude and longitude. I need to write class test on monthly basis. And the day of result, my class teacher calls the name and announce the marks obtained. I was the only person who knew his obtained marks in advance. So it was my developed habit, that I need to call all the names of GOD, and requested them multiple times, to give me just pass marks this time only and promised them that I will work hard for next time.

But every time my prayers spins in air without any results. Every time i felt ashamed and murmurer that GOD is helpless and can not do anything.

It was class eighth, when first time, i heard the statement, “GOD helps those, who help themselves”. And this was the first time I started thinking in a different way. I have had experienced multiple times that all the prayers are of no use. GOD never replied either in affirmative nor negative. Actually, he never answers and my all prayers were unanswered to date.

That was the turning point of my life when I started believing in myself. I started working hard on me and till today, that boy who was very very weak in Geography subject has already completed his visit for the 27th country last year. So, at last, GOD started helping me, when I started helping myself.

Now, summarize the whole article. In spiritualism, it is very clear that we are surrounded by supreme energy. And those who know that, what it is? They understand life. Those who know the definition of GOD, they can understand very smoothly, where is GOD, and whom I am talking about here.

In religious places, have you ever seen GOD speaks? No, I am with you. But actually when we heard a statement that “He is the person, from whose body, GOD speaks”. Why GOD need any other body to speak? Agreed. This statement is nothing but showing the experience of life for the person in the subject.

GOD is omnipresent. GOD is LOVE. GOD never favors or disfavor. GOD knows only justice.

A person, who is asking GOD, to help others, don’t have self-interest behind this prayer. And he is a pure heart person. He has nothing to do if GOD fulfills his wish or not. Because he is not asking for himself. He is asking for another person. He doesn’t care.

From today onwards, if you start asking help on any issue from GOD, always ask for all mankind, and just leave the decision on him that if this is good for us or not. The request would be simple, “I don’t know what is good and bad for me, I don’t know, how to pray, and I don’t know which is good for me, so if this is good for me please fulfill it, else you know better what is good for us.

Do you know what happens actually here? Simple, you and your family also counted in whole mankind. So do not be self-interested by asking GOD to favor you only. If it will good for the entire mankind, it will be fulfilled, if not then leave it to him. Have Faith.

Now, if anyone asking you to pray for his or her best. Start pray for entire mankind. How can you ask favor for anyone, when GOD don’t like favoritism.

Thanks for reading.

Please send your reviews as usual, i will answer as soon as possible for all of your questions.

Bye bye,

Take good care of you, yourself, relatives, friends and all near and dear ones.

Regards,

Neeraj Bhatia [ Direct Email ID: neeraj.bhatia@aaradhyagroups.com]

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I LOVE YOU

“I Love you” when you hear this statement, can you explain yourself today, what do you feel? A melodious musical string, playing only for you. A cool breeze where you are floating. A lovely playback song in the atmosphere transporting you in a different fantasy world.

No, hmm.. Something is wrong with you.

Yes…. Oh. Absolutely something is wrong with you.

The answer could be wrong in both ways, if you don’t know WHY it is happening.

One day I was standing in front of the mirror, and I felt, I wanted to do something, some action, and some activities, just to please myself. And then I started frowning, I was really enjoying, the next step was to do some steps like you are doing some exercises in Gymnasium, or some dancing poses. Literally, I started enjoying it a lot.  

I was in a discussion with Mr. Nirmal Joshi, a renowned editor, in Delhi. Why I was feeling like this? Why it happened to me, but I enjoyed it a lot. Am I getting mad”? He laughed a potbelly laugh.  He told me, it is your new incarnation. I could not understand the meaning of this. “What does it mean”? I inquired, my curiosity was in full swing. He described, “To reach this stage, a person needs to take a thousand birth, but you realized it in this birth only, so I use the word “Incarnation”. I still could not understand then he further stated. “When you are frowning who was happy”? I said. “I was happy”. ‘When you are trying to dance who was happy”? I thought about why the same question. I replied, “I was happy”. Suddenly he became serious.

Then he directly came to point. “Who are you to be happy”? I simply replied, “I am Neeraj Bhatia”. He pointed out to the fan running exactly top of us. “Can you identify what is running?” I smiled “It is a Fan”. His next question surprised me “Where is a fan?” I pointed out towards fan. He ordered to switch off the fan to an office boy. Now his question is, “Can you tell me the breakups of the fan?” I started, “it has three blades, one motor in center, two cups in a different direction, there are a lot of electronic products inside, and I cannot identify”. “There is a rod, in which it is hanging, a capacitor, I can see, who control its rpm”. Then I point towards the switchboard, “There is a regulator, to control its speed”. I stopped describing, then he asked again, “But where is the FAN?”

Now the first time I realized FAN does not exist anymore, and the whole of our life, we are thinking that we are using FAN. Then he taught me the lesson of divine knowledge. “Remember my words, NEERAJ does not exist in this world”. “This is the name we have given you to identify you, else you are no more”. “You are a cage of flesh and bones only”. “Try to identify yourself, you will find you have a heart, two kidneys, one skull, two hundred six bones, and one lever and so on…. But where is Neeraj, Neeraj does not exists.

 I murmured, “Then who is Neeraj”, who was happy when I was frowning?”. He smiled and answered, “this is your SOUL”. “Today you identified yourself”. “You are not a body, you are a soul”. “Everyone in this world, cannot reach this stage to understand this”. “You understand today”. “When you hurt someone, you hurt his or her soul only, when you make someone happy, that is his or her soul only”. “People in this world can not realize, but few people know this and they work whole life to make them understand, but nobody has time to get this divine knowledge”. “And if you will try to tell someone deliberately, they will laugh at you”. “And this is continued from last six thousand years and this will continue, till this world exists”.

I was bewildered, at loss of words. But I understand, when we love someone, we have direct interaction with the soul, not with the body. It can be any relation: mother, father, brother, sister, wife or children.

The person could be of any color, creed or religion. It could be red, black, and white, brown. It could be of any religion. But our interaction is with souls only.

There is only two types of people in this world either “GOOD or BAD”, else there is no discrimination exists. Divisions did by us by using the cast, the creed & the religion, etc. GOD does not divide us. We made the division.

Everyone has a first love in life. Love at first sight. Generally, when we are in “Teens” it happened. We never understood it is infatuation or love. But frankly speaking, it is actually a real love, because even you itself don’t know, what is happening. “The phrase ‘love is blind’ is a valid notion because we tend to idealize our partner and see only things that we want to see in the early stages of the relationship. In this stage, you are unable to see any issue, any social problem.

Most people give the name “Infatuation” to their first love because ninety-nine percent fails to react, and a failure person knows how to satisfy himself by giving false arguments. The main reason it fails majorly because no one understands what is happening and how to respond to feelings. Well, I can use the word “Inexperience”, here because later when a person becomes experienced, then they know how to play this game. Yes, then this becomes a game for them. Some people get frustrated and some people become clever and then crooked enough to try the same tactics on others to grab the second chance, then third then forth and so on.

In first love you are a pure heart person, you don’t know the feeling of a cheat. You find everything positive in it. You cannot see the shortcoming of your partner. And the most important, even if it fails, you remember this in your whole life. Love is spontaneous, it happens. You cannot make it. It is not a recipe, jotted in the kitchen book.

What does the statement “I Love You “means? Most people do not know or do not want to know the actual use of the full statement.

The full statement is “I am falling in Love with you”. We are habitual of finding short cuts in our activities and here also, we use short cut “I Love You”. Because the real form or nature of the statement is clearly telling that the couple in love, should be first admitted to surrender to each other. Then only the relationship starts. But if this is lacking from either side, believe me, one person will suffer most time and then the relationship will come to an end abruptly.

Now I am coming to the main point, why this BLOG starts and how we need to understand these human behaviors.

Do you know, besides Science and human behaviors, what is working behind to reach this stage?

You know, actually this is an IDEA only.

Now you will say no way, what is the relationship between a human relationship and idea?

Okay, let me explain further.

Man is a social animal. It means you are a family man. If you are staying in a family, this means in a home, you have at least, a mother, a father, a sister and a brother (younger or elder), and absolutely a wife and your children.

Now sit straight….

When you hug your mother? What is your idea behind? You are humble, you are soft. You have an idea that you should feel the warmth in the relationship. She has no hesitation to grab you in her hands because she has given you birth and nine months you have spent in her stomach. This hug is full of love without any self-interest.

When you hug your sister, what is your idea behind? If she is younger than you, you are full of responsibility, care, and love, but if she is elder then you, then you are feeling respect, love, and care for her. Overall, your hug has responsibility, love, and care for your sisters.

When you hug your girl child, what is the idea behind? You are full of love and enthusiastic. You want to see a seed to become a plant, you are caring, full of love.

But what is your idea, when you hug your wife? Obviously, all types of scientific chemicals inside your body heads up and you are a person of a different world. The same is happening with your wife also. You both are in a fantasy world. Full of Love. I am talking here only for a truthful relationship, not for lust or attraction. This is called a real attachment.

Its time to summarize, what we talk so far in the above lines? You hug everyone in your family, the most common feeling in all the hugs was LOVE. But for all relationships, you didn’t borrow new hands from another person? Agreed. You have used your same hands, but the mind is getting relationship ideas from an idea generated in the brain. I am not talking about chemical chemistry here. I am talking about IDEAS, and that is the most important part of all the relationships. This is called your personal feeling for every relationship.

Do you feel something alike, sometimes it happens? When you are walking and getting a feeling, that someone just behind you is a very important person. You move your face back and it surprised you, yes, you are correct, he is here. Sometimes it happened, you see one face and getting the negative feeling, even you do not know him, and you never see him or her before. Sometimes you are getting very positive vibes to see a person, the same again you never met earlier, but the feeling is pure. You don’t know why and how?

Love is a feeling, it is not an emotion. Emotion is a mental state associated with the nervous system brought on by chemical changes variously associated with thoughts, feelings, behavioral responses, and a degree of pleasure or displeasure. There is currently no scientific consensus on a definition.

Feeling is enjoyed by your soul, not your body.

When you touch anybody, through your hands, then only, it becomes a relationship. Your touch describes the name of a relationship and this could be Mother, Sister, Wife or children, brother, Father, etc. otherwise love is only love a feeling only.

Does it mean a person has no hands, can’t describe its love for their relationship?

To answer this, I will say, please go deep a little more, a step further, where you find real love is always silent. it never speaks. Real love does not require recognition. Real love knows no boundaries. And the most important, without speaking real love understand each and everything.

When you get feelings for somebody, do you think, you can describe any relation? No, feelings are only feelings and I would recommend to live with your feelings, not with relations. Relations are fragile, but feeling is forever. And this is the only reason, people remember their first love forever, till death.

Now, when you say “I Love You” to someone. Ask yourself first. Do you really mean it what are you saying? Do you faithful in this relationship? Do you ready to surrender yourself? If anyone of the answer is “NO”, then it is a “BIG No” for you. You are not serious enough. You are not committed. Stay away. This is the only game for you. And you will get similar players from both genders everywhere in this world. Find out and enjoy it.

Thanks for reading. Send your reviews as usual. I will reply as soon as possible.

Bye-bye. Take care of you, yourself, your relations and near and dear ones.

Always yours,

Neeraj Bhatia {direct email: neeraj.bhatia@aaradhyagroups.com}


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Is Ignorance Blissed?

Professor and Philosopher Mr. Joginder Singh Puri, United States, was a great personality and most knowledgeable person, I ever met in my life. Unfortunately, I could not get multiple chances to meet him, but whatever chances I got, all were memorable and in my mind so far. His speeches transported me to another world. The first time, I met with him in Delhi, it was a small introduction, but when he came to Lucknow, my home town, I got the chance to spent time with him for two days. One day in Lucknow and another day in Kanpur.

When he was leaving for the United States via Delhi, I still remember the day, I was the last person, who got a chance to talk to him face to face.

My question was very simple but complicated: I never try to hurt anyone intentionally, but always got hurt by others. Why?

He always used to hold a white shawl around him. He smiled and open his shawl with both hands, and told me to enter inside. I did not want to left the chance to embrace him. He was a father figure to me. He answered in a soft voice just near my ears. “Don’t be too good with others, as a result of you become bad for yourself”. After a pause, he whispered, “But I am sure, you can not be able to practice this in your whole life, because you are different from others”

I am feeling no shame, to say that, he was correct because till today, I am trying to practicing his first statement in my life and every time I failed to do so, and his second statement becomes true.

Below mentioned two statements, which can change anybody’s life, I heard from his speech the very first time in Delhi.

  1. One who knows that he knows, he knows not
  2. One who knows not that he knows not, how can he learn?

It is a Persian saying with 4 meaningful lines, but I think life could get a new meaning, if anybody, compelled himself to accept only these two lines mentioned above.

First point is describing clearly, that nobody in this world is perfect. And if anybody thinks that, messages go directly to him that just wait another person is coming behind you, to prove that you are wrong.

The second point is interesting, where the author clearly mentioned, if you do not know that you are living in dark, then you do not know the values of light, so before started thinking out of the box, you need to understand what is in the box.

What you don’t know, can’t hurt you? Now you can see that the second point has another positive aspect. But this directs us towards the complexity of relationships.

Before coming to this subject, I want to touch an interesting topic here. My office is on the 13th floor and I can see direct traffic from huge glass windows. One day I was having my cup of tea and standing there. Traffic in all four lanes is running continuously, all are moving properly. I could realize that all are running on the same road, and there is no conflict, because, all are obeying traffic rules, running their vehicles in the discipline.

As an observer, I can see that half of the traffic is moving in the right direction and half of the traffic is moving to the left direction, but actually, both are in the RIGHT direction. There is no surprise in it. This is the same road, but the movement of the traffic could be the opposite side, one way is wrong for one person, which is the right way for others. What if the right direction vehicle driver thinks that the left direction traffic is going wrong? And left direction vehicle driver thinks the same. Does it impact? No, because from their point of view, both are correct and as well as both are wrong also.

So, What is the takeaway from this? The same statement can have multiple meanings because our viewpoint could be different from person to person. In a particular class, teachers or preachers can give you the same lecture. but the takeaway could be different.

A butcher is allowed to give death to certain creatures if he has a professional license but what if he murdered a man, the viewpoint differs again here. Army person can kill hundreds of enemy persons, but if he killed any civil person, the viewpoint differs.

There are a lot of people, who says that if we are addicted to drinking, drugs or cigarette, what harm in it? Your viewpoint is different and then ours, we are right and you are wrong. My request to everyone is very loud and clear. Give me one benefit of consuming this? By giving the lame excuses of STRESS, you are only trying to find the escape route because you know yourself very well that if addiction is controlling you, you yourself better know the consequences. Smoke in or smoke out cannot solve your issues. You have to find the source of stress and find the route to resolve this. Please don’t give lame excuses to themselves.

Today you are participating in a rat race, and do not want to lag behind, so accepting it as a status symbol and you are trying to use addiction against earning money or status. The day is not far away when you will realize your mistake. Diseases will burn your today’s earning. So the future is: “Status” will burn, “Money” will burn, “Health” will burn, “Relationships” will burn and at last, You will be burned. Then what’s left, ASHES only. So your journey starts with ashes and ends up with ashes. Smoke will merge with smoke.

Now I return, to the point of the complexity of relationships. Do we need to avoid the truth and apply ignorance? I think yes, not all, but definitely in some cases. Willful Ignorance or willful blindness can resolve a lot of issues.

If I know the truth and also know that if the truth comes out, there would be massive chaos, don’t you think I need not disclose it? There are thousands of other ways and different timing to disclose it. I should wait until then. Sometimes lingering on the issue, provides marvelous solutions.

Truth is always bitter, but if you will say without appropriate words, without proper timings, only you will be blamed.

When I was studying at my graduation, I attended a class from my economics professor, Mr. N.K. Mishra. He pointed out a very beautiful point, which I never forget and always use in my day-to-day life. He wrote on the blackboard that “Old Currency throws out the new currency from circulation”. Frankly speaking, I could not understand the value of this sentence then. But when see it in practice, I understand that most corrupt people in the system, throw an honest person out of the system.

I do not want to use the “Corrupt” word here for any specific community. My intentions relate it to all the spheres or areas of life, where our thought and our ideas have already been junked up badly. It needs purification of Ideas, purification of our thoughts.

Do we know, why people give a milk bath to the huge status of their GODs, which wastes hundreds of liter of milk? No, even I don’t know. We do not need to send purification messages to our idols, instead we need to purify our ideas, our thoughts.

Inventions are always for the benefit of mankind, but, we always able to find its disaster side. For example, Can a missile starts without manual intervention to kill thousands in a single shot? You will say yes, it can be programmed to an automated setup. Agreed, but who is behind it to set up as automated. Obviously, an only single idea generated in anybody’s mind to kill thousands. So missile is not bad, its invention is not bad, its application is also not bad. How, when, where and whom against it is planned to use, could be bad, because here IDEA is bad, that thought is bad. Intentions are slaves of our ideas, and this needs purification, obviously.

A beggar, who was blind, sits near the pedestrian road, where hundreds of people crossroad daily, but nobody extends his support to him. Hardly he could get enough money to survive. A lady used to go to the office from the same route, always give some money to him. One day she picked up his board and read aloud “I am blind, please help me”. She thought a while and in the back of the board, she wrote something and left for her office. The next day she was passing by and saw enough money in front of the board. She started smiling and left for office.

What else she wrote on the board? How this change happened? Simple, she reverse the perception of the thought. She wrote “It is a beautiful world, but i can not see it”.

People want to be positive, want to hear positive, want to speak positively. You know why? Because they do not have guts to hear the truth. This only depends on the perception to see the situation? Why can’t we accept that negativity is also a part of our lives. We need to overcome, that’s all. To ignore negativity and only hear positivity slogans, is not going to solve the problem.

It is a very old story when electricity was not reached in all villages. In one of the villages, as soon as the sun sets, people picked up the vessel from the kitchen and starts throwing darkness from his house to the roadside. Whole night all the members of the family have to practice daily the same thing. As soon as the sun rises, they all start to cheer up and give congratulations to each other that they win. They have thrown out darkness from their house Now the darkness is out for the day.

This is the height of ignorance. They need only one candle to remove the darkness, but to get that candle, they need the light of knowledge. The same practice is going on nowadays in the whole world. We do not want to hear straight forward truth, but yes, if the truth comes with beautiful packaging of fake stories, it is always welcome.

I am not sure, why should we ignore the truth? We should realize that all roads going upwards, coming downwards also. If you will throw a ball upward with your strongest power, even then it will come down. Earth has gravitational power.

The same happens to us. Whatever heights we can grab in our life, status, money, power, etc. At last, the earth will bring us down and we will be buried down to the earth only. So can you see any reason to become a balloon for some days with malpractices?

At last, I will say only one thing, that, not always, but occasionally in some of the circumstances, to accept ignorance is bliss, but only, if and if, you have knowledge that you know the ignorance, and you have a proper plan to tackle this in the future.

Just remember “To kill ignorance, you should know that you know the ignorance, else before you can kill it, it will kill you”

Thanks for reading…..

Bye bye and take a good care of you, your family, your relatives and friends and your near and dear ones.

Neeraj Bhatia

Email ID: neeraj.bhatia@aaradhyagroups.com

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