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“Nowhere” is “Now-here”. Is It?

There are two famous quotes given to this world by a famous person Andrea Bocelli.  “Nowhere. is…. Now Here” and  “All that counts in life is intention“. The person, who went through pain in life, only that person can understand the happiness of life. He born September 22, 1958, an Italian operatic pop tenor and a classical crossover singer who has also performed in operas. He recorded seven complete operas (La boheme, Tosca, Il trovatore, Werther, Pagliacci, Cavalleria rusticana and Carmen) and some various classical and pop albums.

He born with congenital glaucoma, total blindness came to Bocelli at the age of twelve, after a football accident. He saw the darkness of the life and then for him “Life was “nowhere”. When he understood the aim of his life and become successful with God gifted skills then this quote comes from somewhere inside “Life is now here”.

This quote was misused by a lot of people in this world, just for their vested interest. Somewhere I find an advertisement quoting that the career life was nowhere but it is now here. Smartest people use these words successfully misleading a large crowd by saying that  “GOD was nowhere for you but GOD is now here for us.”  Don’t you feel surprised to hear this?

Nov 20, 2019, 05.22 AM IST, now the date is memorable and recorded in history, when Supreme Court of India clearly mentioned in the Ajodhya verdict that “God is not a juristic person, but idol is

Some important part of “The verdict” is written as below

NEW DELHI: God or ‘Supreme Being’ may be omnipresent, omniscient and omnipotent but has no juristic personality, but an idol, worshipped by believers as a physical incarnation of God, is a juristic personality, the Supreme Court has said.

“Legal personality is not conferred on the Supreme Being. The Supreme Being has no physical presence for it is understood to be omnipresent —the very ground of being itself. The court does not confer legal personality on divinity,” ruled a bench of then CJI Ranjan Gogoi and Justices S A Bobde (now CJI), D Y Chandrachud, Ashok Bhushan and S Abdul Nazeer in its landmark judgment settling the 70-year-old Ayodhya land dispute.

Divinity in Hindu philosophy is seamless, universal and infinite. Divinity pervades every aspect of the universe. The attributes of divinity defy description and furnish the fundamental basis for not defining it with reference to boundaries — physical or legal. For this reason that it is omnipresent, it would be impossible to distinguish where one legal entity ends and the next begins,” the bench said.

The SC said in contrast, an idol was identifiable by its physical form and hence could have juristic personality. “The idea of a legal person is premised on the need to ‘identify the subjects’ of the legal system. An omnipresent (God or Supreme Being) being is incapable of being identified or delineated in any manner meaningful to the law and no identifiable legal subject couldemerge,” it added.

The bench further explained the legal difficulty in conferring legal personality on God as “the narrow confines of the law is ill suited to engage in such an exercise (delineating boundaries of a God who is omnipresent) and it is for this reason that the law has steered clear from adopting the approach”.

“In Hinduism, physical manifestation of the Supreme Being exists in the form of idols to allow worshippers to experience a shapeless being. The idol is the representation of the Supreme Being. The idol, by possessing physical form, is identifiable,” it said.

The bunch of above statements stated in verdict by Supreme Court of India clearly mentioned that GOD or Supreme Being does exist. And the definition is clearly referenced as omnipresent, omniscient and omnipotent.

So there are two major takeaways:

  1. GOD does exist and GOD is Omnipresent (Present everywhere at the same time), Omniscient (Knowing everything) and Omnipotent (Unlimited Power). At last the supreme power of India’s legal framework could not deny from its existence. 
  2. GOD is top most authority, which is incapable of being identified in framework of Indian Law. So whatever judgement is given by judges are with in framework setup by GOD and Judges are not GOD, but they also comes under GOD same as other human beings. Judges only obey them and doing their duties honestly. 

The saints from all over the world knew this truth, the divine knowledge in early stages of their life and whenever they trying to distribute this truth to common people, they have been killed or ruined or disowned by some religious contractors. Now public know WHY? I do not need to describe more.

I am sure that you are fed up now by listening the same statements in particular i.e. Who made this nature? Who made us? Who is providing a breath to us every second? Why we cannot able to see him? If there is such person exists, please produced in front of everybody?

Well, we will discuss this for a while, before that, I want you to do some exclusive excercise, irrespective of you are theist or atheist, irrespective of you are follower of any religion, irrespective of your gender, irrespective of you belong to any sect of the world’s society, any cast, any color or any creed or so on. So on…

Bring one small size stone and install it near your door. Now do this exercise daily to wash it and throw some fragrance or scent on it. Now start begging. Yes begging like anything. Ask this stone to fulfil your wishes. It will not. You know very well. But you need to continue this exercise daily in morning, before going out for you regular office work or business. Now after some days you can see that if you are asking for 5 wishes, you will get at least one completed. Then suddenly you realize counting is going up. How come? But really you don’t care about that till any one of your wishes are completing on regular basis. You start believing in that stone. It seems it is GOD for you. It has power, a supreme power. Now you start respecting that stone and stone get some valuable place in your home. The actual fact is stone is same stone, there is no change in it, but your criteria of thinking changes, you view point against this stone is completely change. You stated believing in the stone. But eventually you should believe on yourself.

Now this exercise is revealing that whatif another person doing the same exercise is a Muslim brother, Christian brother, Sikh brother or Jain bother etc…etc… Does stone prayer is restricted only to Hindu brother? Obviously not. So if this stone is fulfilling your wishes so the same for other also. It means GOD statue or stone stature or only stone does not need any specific form of prayer to fulfil their wishes. Then why we do prayers in front of any statue? Any answer? I am not restricting here any one to do so, after all this is your life, you can free to do, but my curiosity crossed peak level to find the answer “WHY”?.

The prayer could be in any form and it can be done by any person in this whole world, it goes to GOD, no medium required, no postman required, no WIFI, no Cable and no Internet required.

So the discussion has a direct conclusion. Do not find GOD, find what is not a GOD? Don’t run behind those nouns (a person, a place or things), these nouns, GOD has provided us, to live peacefully.  GOD has direct connection with you, and you have direct connection with those things which is created by GOD, but those are not GOD.

Another way to reach to GOD is, to find the person, who knows who is GOD or where the GOD is? He or She could be only a True Master. And he or she would have one great ability to introduce you face to face with GOD.  

Well now the million dollar question. How can you trust who is a True Master?

The symbol of True Master is very simple. He or She does not connect you with the “Creation” (again Noun), but connect you with the “Creator”, only that person could be a True Master.

And the second most important symbol is that True Master will take only seconds to show you who is GOD.

If any person who is telling you stories or trying to gain some time from you to make you busy in useless activities, it is very clear that he or she cannot be True Master and hundred percent he or she do not have any divine knowledge. 

So now do not explore Who is GOD. Start exploring, what can not be GOD? Well even then if you can’t find satisfactory answer then, try to find the True Master, who can show you GOD within seconds. Then only you can say GOD was nowhere, but GOD is now-here.

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Diabetic Relationships 7 Sweet Spots

‘Family and diabetes’, is the theme setup for 2019 for World Diabetes Day. Thank GOD, at least intellegent people in the world is now understanding that we as a human could be the reson behind major diseases faces by human itself.

My personal thinking is that the main reason to highlight this theme is just to make every one understand that how important it is for a patient to get support at home.

Every year, November 14 is observed as World Diabetes Day by WHO and International Diabetes Federation (IDF) to mark the birth anniversary of Frederick Banting, who discovered insulin.

WHO (Wold health Organization) described diabetes as epidemic disease in the world. This is a health problem.

Economic liberalisation in India was initiated in 1991 by Prime Minister P. V. Narasimha Rao and his then-Finance Minister Dr. Manmohan Singh, liberalised the Indian economy, allowing it to speed up development dramatically.

But you know that in 1980s intellectuals understood the problem of diabetes are rising rapidly but after 1991, it increased multifold. A lot of junk food introduced in the market and initially there main target was children, but slowly it also captured adults and then it to eat foods rich in sugar, salt and fat, becomes show-off in all regular parties.

Multinational companies purchased potato from our farmers, which was approx 0.25 paise per kg and started selling fried potato chips our public approx Rs 60.00 per kg. And suddely potato shoots up to Rs 10.00 per kg. And farmer’s own children started purchasing packed potato chips from multinationals. This is only one example, where we lost our ground and become slaves with additional diseases, for which they started providing us thier own multinational manufactured medicines on higher rates. They provide us disease so they know the best medicines and we felt ourseleves helpless. All this leads to an epidemic of non-communicable diseases such as hypertension, heart disease and cancer. Well, off course the diabetes stands right on top of them.

When big money started pouring in our houses, our physical activities went down. Members of our families started relaxing and the reslut comes in suprising way. We achieved 100% of increase in diabetec patients. India is one of the 6 countries of the IDF SEA region where 425 million people have diabetes in the world and 82 million people in the SEA Region; by 2045 this will rise to 151 million. There were over 72.946.400 cases of diabetes in India in 2017.

Now come to the main point, from where this blog started. What happened, if a person of a family get diagnosed with Diabetes. Family shattered. They lost hope immediately, they started counting the days of that memeber. In fact, patiened need support, but he or she gets different environment, in his or her own house. When the dietary habits of the patient have to be modified, it is a better option for the rest of the family too have to make changes for themselves also. If patient develops diabetes-related complications like affecting the eye, feet, heart or kidney, the morale of not just the patient but the whole family is affected, which is completly surprising. They even become laughing stocks, when this happens in learned, educated socities.

Gone are those days, when the diabetes was incurable.

I still remember when in a family gathering, where, would be bride, came to know that his would be husband’s father, was having diabetes, she decided not to marry with him and blame game started that it was not told earlier. Why we scared, this does not show any sign of  untouchability or epedemic, but even then our orthodox  ideas make it complicated. Well in some cases it could be heredity, but not all cases. It can be cured with some hard commitments.

When ever i used to visit old age home, i got so many cases, where children leaves their parent just after diagnosing diabetes. Their simple excuse is that they can not take care of them, becase this disease requires more attention and we are working people so we can only shell-out some money to the organization, so they can take care of them.

In one of the old age home, i remember there are a large number of patients living beyond 90+ years of age. If i am not wrong, many have been living with diabetes for 50+ to 60+ years and they aare still doing well without complications.

Today children forget that one day thier children will thorw away in the same way to them here only.

Relations can work like sure shot medicine. This only need a little care, thats all.

1.Regular Medical Checkup Required: 

The meaining of regular means, at least 4 times in a year, not more than that. There are some mandatory test like the eyes, kidneys, heart and feet at least once a year. Early complication dedction may even be reversed. It should not be left uncontrolled. Diabetes can cause havoc in the body, it is even worse than some of the cancers.

2.Develop Healthy Food Habbits: 

Strict vegetarian diet. Green Vegetables, nuts, pulses fruits etc. Especially strct follow up of doctors prescribed diet.

3.Daily Walk or Excercise Regularly:

Member’s of the family can encourage a person to walk or  exercise regularly at least 5 days in a week. Well, this is a suggestion that the family, as a unit, can decide to go for a walk. This will boostup the moral of patienet and you can also have a strict eye to ensure the patient gets the required exercise. And event this is good for health of all members also.

4.Spending Time Together:

Members of the family should think of the way to spend time together. Especially couple. This helps to maintain a healty and positive atitude.  Some of the ways like group Yoga, Group meditation, indoor and outdoor games, are all excellent examples of how a person with diabetes can get support from his family.

5.Strict on Medicine Schedule:

Sometime, it could possible that, patients forget to take their medicines. The reason could be any, but any of the memeber like the spouse or children can remind the patient to do so. 

6.Avoid Stress: 

Remember you are not, who is operating this world. If any other person think in this way, let them do. You try to undersand your limitations. In this world, every one is stressed, and they are looking any easy way to bring it out. And you could be a their victim. So give time to recongnize your self. Be restricted positive. Do mediation regularly.

7.Restriction on Alcohol and Smoke

Memebers of the family should keep a watch to conrol this habbit. This should be big no, as soon as diabetese diagnosed.

Well the theme could be any for this day but i personally believe, this is actually depend more on the personal relationship, than to accept as a mere compulsion between couple.

If a person takes care of his parents, obviously his or her generation learn from them and they will take care of you and also by teaching this,  you are saving your future generation. Because what they will see today , will do tomorrow.

Suggested Readings:

  1. Nothing is Everything
  2. I Love You

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4 reasons, why Photography similar to Meditation

Guest Author: Sonia Peters, Australia

Photography and Meditation

Would you believe photography and meditation are the same? Is there anything that both have in common?

It may seem different things to take photographs or practice meditation. While the photographer insists on looking through his camera at the outside, a person was practising meditation searches inward to seek out the complexity in their mind and heart that is locked within. Meditation and photography, as activities, entail dedication, concentration, and technical skills. Nevertheless, ownership of these attributes does not guarantee that meditation can lead to excellent knowledge beyond the end of photography in great art. Moving beyond pure expertise in either field requires a new world viewing capacity.

Photography an art of Observation

Photography is an art that involves observation:

Photography is an act that reflects the essence of internal development. Photography is a chance for you to find in your life, beauty, happiness, and harmony. Photography is your private pursuit. Photography is often seen as a means of capturing the travels you have taken to faraway places. Still, you can also take a scenic tour right in your city, very close to your backyard as a way of exploring the daily places you reside in new ways.

Photography, as well as meditation, require the ability to concentrate on what is occurring to see more clearly. Seeing in this manner involves moving to a frame of mind in which the standard vision of a universal and self-evident universe is substituted by a keen sense of each moment’s unique and unrepeatable nature. Whether you’re paying attention to the air while sitting in contemplation or writing a picture in a viewfinder, you’re standing in front of a flickering, thrilling truth.

The roles of the meditator and the photographer seem to diverge at this stage. While the meditator cultivates the moment’s continuous, nonjudgmental consciousness, the artist captures the moment when the shutter is raised. But in reality, rather than interrupting the contemplative act of contemplation, the artistic choice to freeze an object on the film crystallizes. In those last microseconds, aligning one’s body and senses until taking a picture briefly enhances the image’s brightness and immediacy. One is given a glimpse of the moment meditative attention may struggle to provide in the brain.

Ultimate Reasons why photography is meditation:

Memories – When no one is around you, who were before

1. Memories:

While in your mind you do not live, or rather you are dreaming about your potential, you are standing squarely and more actively on the current. Rather than loving this split second of your life, there is no exquisite perfection. It could be anything, not just a style of music. “This” time is more important, and before your eyes, it will disappear. Cling and chew the memories, any recent images, and attempt to answer.

State of being is nothing but listen to your inner voice

2. State of being:

You don’t listen to the outer voices, the endless quest for the sublime light, the appropriate arrangement, or the suitable subject. You start listening to your intuition, no more from the past, enjoying the present state of being simple. It’s going to happen the moment, it’s more about being persistent. It’s not the same drop of water that continues to fall in a cascade, it’s just spending a super small millionth of a second. This is more about persistence and looking relentlessly for the last seed. When meditating, you can’t be imaginative, and yes, because when you start imagining, you’re heading out of the zone. Imagination is dreaming and brings you into visions, and is by far the opposite direction of meditation.

Separation brings Focus Unlimited and Focus is nothing but Separation from Outer world

3. Separation:

Let’s think about the most modest reality when we want to photograph something, for that moment of split seconds, our goals, hopes, life, family, rivals, and separate relationships vanish. You live in a prosperous place, where you stay, you are alone–the second and nothing else. At that particular moment, they try to make use of the sun to catch the beautiful moment at that fixed period. What are the chances you feel is insignificant to the state of mind, when your hands are on the viewfinder already. Everything crosses your mind, and this is what the first step of relaxation is called by a yogi. Separate the heart from the outside universe.

Nothing is everything and Nothingness is quist to the pursuit of an unknown

4. Nothingness:

Why do we do this, the relentless quest in pursuit of the unknown, whether it be picturing a glorious sky, a beautiful grin, the magnificent waterfalls, or a deciding moment on the road? How would you think if you reflect on the most beautiful sight you’ve ever seen, right in between your camera’s broken shutter speed, how you felt.

Okay, if you don’t have a response to that, I’d be thrilled to finish this article, saying, “Dear photographers, we’re all meditating!”.

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OILING or SPOILING a Relationship

“Trust in Relationship”, If you have seen the logo of our group, you will easily find that this is a tagline of Aaradhya Groups(AGs). An organization that cares for relations. The group is established with a motto to realize everyone the loss of an important feeling nowadays from our life and that is “TRUST”. We are competing with each other in the race of faith but actually we are losing TRUST every second among mankind. 

What is the relation? – Can you guess, we can not live without relation. Try to see near you. You feel the definition of relation was misunderstood by everyone. I and you also include this everyone. 

We feel only living being is connected with relations, but this is not true. Living or Non-Living all are related to us. In living creatures, this is a two-way relationship, but in non-living things, it is one way, but it exists.

Ok, let’s take an example:

First, we take living beings. Well, we have relations with our family, friends, colleagues, strangers. Well, it is always two ways, even, if you do not know the stranger, even then, you have a relationship of non-familiar relationships. 

Now count on non-living things. Do you see, the table has a relation with the chair, but we have a relation with both. We can use a table or chair either altogether or separate each. So non-living things have a relationship between them, but there is one more relationship that exists and that is Non-living with living beings. Right?

Well now come to the most important point “TRUST”. Take an example of a non-living thing first. Suppose you are full of anger and you want to break the head of the person standing in front of you. You don’t have any weapons with you. You are in office, scolding him, calling names, and suddenly you look towards a paperweight, it is lying down in front of you. You picked it up and full of rage, you throw it. Can you guess what happened just now? You have shown full TRUST on that paperweight, by making yourself understand that it will work for me. For the time being, it will become my weapon. 

The pace of life is changing from moment to moment. sometimes we want to catch life, some times life tries to catches us.

A person told me when you are a child, you want to live your own life, but somebody told you, first of all, you need to gain the experience. And You agreed on that so you started following our GODFATHERS.

Sometimes, godfathers are not our idol what we were looking for, again lack of experience becomes obstacles. We changed our godfather again and again and suddenly on the edge of life, we realized we lost something very important and that is TIME.  But actually we gained a precious thing in this duration and that is called “EXPERIENCE”. And that is what we were looking for.

Well, now this is the time when we need to give proper values to our experience because we have not got it through ancestors, we have earned it. And when we are not able to realize the value of experience, then we are also following rat race. 

We know the PRICE of everything but the VALUE of nothing

Suppose, today if we become king alike person, and having all the luxuries, one can think of it. I do not have any person who claps for me, what is the use of this worldly affairs. We realize then only, we have earned nothing. We lost everything if we lost people, we lost our relationship, we lost others’ trust, and the most precious, irrecoverable TIME.

Today, we will try to discuss, all important points how should we strengthen our relationships:

Build trust in relationships:

I am not here to make you remember about any romantic commitment to last, but my intention is to make you remember that TRUST is the base of every relationship. Now the relationship could be a business, Corporate, among friends, relatives, and the most one is a relationship from yourself. The relationship brings two people together. It is not necessary that relationships are only for good relations, even it flows to enemies also. for example: before start hostility, one person should have trust in the second person, that first-person has lost his trust by becoming dishonest. When you are in love with someone, the first step is that your partner earns your trust. Well, if this relationship somehow converts into a long-distance relationship, this is the only feeling, which ties up both with each other. Well, you can say they either mastered themselves the art of TRUST or really they understand each other so much in deep, they do not have distrust on each other. And this happens because, just like love and respect, TRUST has to be earned over and over and should be able to withstand any storm that comes it’s their way.

Here are some points. you should remember to practice:

Value Yourself:

Be honest here and ask yourself, are you feeling often that you are good for nothing? No, it is not a joke and also no need to be too much serious when you are trying to pick up this question. The reason is very simple. Does anybody know who they are? I am sure not. Well if I will say you are a small particle of the source of energy, maybe you will not believe in me. but you will get something more in our previous article “I Love You” And I am sure, after reading it, the first time you will realize and recognize yourself.

When you understand your source, then you will never feel that you are good for nothing. you will start giving value to yourself. You will start loving yourself. You will start respecting you. So the main point is to find your own worth and believe in you.

Have faith in the relationship

Well, here I am not restricting the word partner only to your lover. I am not talking here only for a relationship between a couple Instead of I am talking here for all types of relationships, it could be in every sphere of life with anybody. Well everyone has prior experience with instincts. Well, it is called sometimes the third eye. Something only you can see, only you can realize. But somehow this develops with experience. It is very rare that someone brings this knowledge since birth. 

In general Sixth sense works only for experienced people and this develops trust between a relationship. But what about faith, this is always unconditional. To understand more, I will suggest reading my article “Trust Builts slowly but destroys quickly”

Building trust in a relationship involves creating a strong and genuine love for each other.

Value honesty:

Sometimes actual message lost in communication, so better to cross-check before you believe in that. And another most important thing is to listen honestly and accept the statement honestly. Some time takeaway is misunderstood because we are not listening honestly and this creates mess up. Most of the strongest relationships are built on the foundations of honesty and truth, so make sure you’re doing it right.

Listen Properly:

Do not be judgemental with your prenotions. Maybe your experience is very bad with the person you are dealing with, but it is not always he or she is wrong. We need to listen properly & honestly, then try to collect takeaways. Try to put your foot in client shoes, then only you can get the pain he is suffering from. So this happens only if you listen properly.

Talking on Pain Point is a must

Sometimes petty issues can make huge differences, so this is good to pick up one by one and bury it forever. If we can not talk sense, better not to talk nonsense. It may be possible one partner is suffering, but having patience, which could be a wrong signal to another partner, thinking that you are wrong and feeling guilty for any particular issue. better to talk and make it clear. If need to point out your partner’s mistake do it if need to accept your fault, accept it. 

Resolve issues together

If money lost, it will return, but if the trust is lost, then everything lost. It is very difficult to bring it back. You should be ready to lose everything. And in that case, it is better to settle down either issue or the relationship. There is no meaning to continue in further. Do not let others come between to settle down things in your relationship. Do it yourself, face to face. You should be able to reach at least either end.

Ask questions

“What is in harm to ask?” If you have doubts regarding any of the matters with your partner or you need clarification, you should be proactive and take initiative. Do be the judge without giving the opportunity to another party to clarify. If could not satisfy, ask again, it is your duty to save a relationship and also it is your right to know the truth.

Develop a connection beyond the relationship:

Maturity comes with experience, so initially, this would be a duty for both parties to maintain a relationship, beyond a mare relationship. It should contain trust and belief on each other, never lie, so doubt will not take birth.  enjoy the gettogether frequently, so some offline issues can be clarified.

Life is uncertain, but there are certain things can be maintained by us. 

The best way to do this is, ask below three things in life:

Oh Lord, give me the courage to change the things, what I can change

Oh Lord, give me the courage to accept the thing, which I can not change

Oh lord, give me the wisdom to understand, what I can change or what I can not Change

 

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Trust builts slowly but destroys quickly

A famous saint used to live his livelihood by weaving cloths. He has to work many days and nights to prepare one sheet of cloth. Everybody knows that whatever the situation maybe he will not get angry. He was famous to analyze the situation find the problem and then try to find the solution.

One day a mischevious person bet among his friends and took up a challenge. He told all of his friends, “Today I will show you, how fake he is and how he will get angry today?”

When the saint reached to market, that person immediately approached him and started asking price of the full sheet of cloth. The saint told him the price, but that person insisted, “I want to see the whole sheet before purchasing”. One of the pupils accompanying with the saint, open the sheet of the cloth. That person asked for a pair of scissors and started cutting the cloth into two-part, then again he asked,” What is the price now?”.

The saint immediately understood his intentions but replied calmly the half of the price.  That person immediately picked up the pair of scissors and tore the cloth again into two parts. And again asked for the price. The saint smiled and told him again half of the price from the previous price. That person again picked up the pair of scissors and again started doing the same process.

The pupil was surprised to see that the buyer was tearing his sheet of cloth again and again into half, without the intention of purchasing and the saint was smiling and was telling him price every time. When the process completed and now there was no scope left to tear off the cloth one more time in half, that person stood up and told to the saint, “I am sorry, I do not want to purchase your cloth” The saint smiled again and replied “Its Ok. No issues. As you wish”.

When the person left the place, the pupil asked surprisingly, “You know that he was a mischievous person and he was playing with you. But why you have not reacted? He has destroyed your hard-earned money” The saint smiled that there are two things, “First, he came here with one strong trust on me that I will not become angry in any situation”. “And I tried to build his trust stronger”. “And second, you told right that he destroyed my two weeks hardworking and I have nothing left for next two weeks as an earning. He destroyed my today, but actually, today, he destroyed his future by showing his upbringing.”

Trust can not be enjoyed alone. It is a bilateral relationship. There should always be two parties to start with. When you read in your text bok the friction between two stones can bring fire out from stone. Had you believed that? No, not at all, at least at first time. But when your subject teacher told you the same story, you trust him a little bit but not on the full story. But when you have seen first time by himself or herself, then only, you immediately trusted on the textbook, and the words told by your teacher. The reason is you experienced himself the same you read. so the Trust is calculative. Trust needs proof.

The main difference between faith and trust is that the trust is conditional and faith is unconditional.

You can have faith in GOD, but before starting an airplane journey, you try to get maximum information from all sources about the pilot, about his past experience in flying a Boeing Plane. especially the number of successful journies completed and reason for unsuccessful journies. Actually, you want to be more sure, that you have trust in him.

There are two major dimensions, in front of people before they make decisions on trust. Preconscious, where a person already made half decision with his own beliefs, or experiences or stories heard in childhood. So, in that case, fifty percent decision is already taken by his brain. 

Second is a conscious decision, means calculative and conditionals. It is a slow process. If the condition is agreed to calculation, only then trust starts, but as soon as one condition fails, the trust started shaking and started dropping very quickly.

Trust is built with consistency. Like drops coming in a bucket through tap can fillup bucket only after consuming one whole day, and if the bucket has one hole in it then, in that case, it can take up to one month, and sometimes even the feasibility would be it maybe or maybe not.

In today’s world, trust is used as one of the most valuable currencies among humans. Can you assume to build any relationship without this with anyone? Obviously not?.

Among every relationship, trust is working somewhere in between. People do business, just because of the trust factor. We get married, we pay online payments, we purchase some items, you pay to expensive services, etc..etc… just because of the trust factor.

Well, whatever you want to achieve in your life, don’ start with developing networking, start with building trust among your network. The network will automatically develop.

As earlier said, trust can not work with a single party, it needs two to make four. It takes a lot of time to build. The whole process of gaining trust starts with understanding first. If you do not know a person, how can you trust him?

But this is also the part of the process that a single wrong or unmatured action can ruin any relationship you’ve built over a period of time within seconds.

To understand this you need to understand human behavior.

  1. The human needs to be caring even if he does not want to care.
  2. All humans are internally wired for connection but they disconnected deliberately.
  3. All humans want to feel important.
  4. Most humans like the same things.
  5. Most humans want to trust the same things.
  6. Most humans don’t want to initiate, they prefer to wait.

These are some common behaviors, you can find more.

Every new trust-building process will convert existing trust into a strong belief.

Don’t trust me, trust yourself, believe in yourself only.

Thanks for reading, do send your reviews as usual.

Bye-bye, take care

Regards,

Neeraj Bhatia

neeraj.bhatia@aaradhyagroups.com

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SUFISM – A way to union with GOD

Yesterday, I was sitting in my office when I got a message for a request to call back from a phone caller. I dialed the number, I could guess the caller was between 18 to 25 yrs of age. From his hesitation, I could understand that he is actually not sure about the authentication of his question if he is asking a relevant question or not.

I tried to make him comfortable first and then asked the question. He asked,” I came to know that, you people are organizing a “Sufi Musical Evening” on 4th August 2019. I said, “yes, you are correct”. “Are you facing any issue in booking the ticket, then I can help you?

“No”, he said, “I have a different question?”. And then he asked the question, what I was not expecting from a person of his age. He asked, “Well, Is this a religious program? Are you people organizing something related to one religion”? I asked, “What makes you think like this”. He told, “To me, the Sufi musical program means something relates to a religion.” To conclude its eagerness, I simply asked him, “What happened when you listen to music at home, do you start following the religion of the singer?”. He answered, “No”, I again told him, ” To be judgemental to early is not good and if you are coming to our Musical Program, remember only one thing that MUSIC does not have religion. It airs across the border without bounding”.

The conversation finished with a satisfying note, but I got a feeling that it is very common, these types of questions are prevailing in the mind of people all over the world, at least of this age of people, who are confused in these jumbled words like “Religion”, “Spiritualism”, “Sufi”. But somehow they are not asking these questions to the right person either they are trying to find it through Google searches or in other social media, which does not have any authentication their answers. And somehow they become a victim of fabricated answers, those are far from realities. This caller asked, so he got clarification. But again, if you are a victim of the situation where you do not know, what you do not know, then how can you learn.

Well, What is Sufism?

Sufism means the mystical system of the Sufis. Now here are two major points. One who is “SUFIs” and what does MYSTICAL means.?

Sufi is someone who attempts to be united with God through prayer or you can say that a person who tries to communicate directly with God. Who claims to attain, or believes in the possibility of attaining, insight into mysteries transcending ordinary human knowledge, as by direct communication with the divine or immediate intuition in a state of spiritual ecstasy.

Mystical is relating to the belief that there is hidden meaning in life, and that each human being can unite with God.

mystic is just someone who tries to establish a direct, unmediated connection with a divine force, usually through spiritual practices or hallucinogenic substances. A mystic is made by knowledge, by the opening out of the way whereby the inner splendor may escape.

Now A Billion Dollar Question: Does Sufism connected with any specific Religion?

The answer is “NO”. But to understand this you should know what religion means?

Religion is a fundamental set of beliefs and practices generally agreed upon by a group of people. These set of beliefs concern the cause, nature, and purpose of the universe, and involve devotional and ritual observances.

Interestingly, do you know where the word Sufi populated? The word SAF means a carpet. Since the SUFIs meditated upon GOD on a carpet., Sufism took its birth i.e. pure people who meditated on a carpet. 

But if you look from an Arabic point of view, the word ‘SUFI’ derives its name from another Arabic word ‘SUF‘, which means wool. The Muslim saints who wore garments of coarse wool began to be called SUFI saints.

Religion can not be a religion, which emphasized the theory of division. Now youths are losing faith on religion because they understood that “Religion unites never divides” (धर्म जोड़ता है तोड़ता नहीं) and if religion favors division means it is not a religion, what it is meant to be.

Sufis rejected outward religiosity and emphasized love and devotion to GOD and compassion towards all fellow human beings. They often rejected the elaborate rituals and codes of behavior demanded by religious scholars. They seek union with GOD.

नमाज़े हक़ अदा होगी, खुले मैदान में हमदम, हक़ीक़त को जरूरत है, ना मंदिर की ना मस्जिद की

Sufis are spiritual people. They love the creator, not the creation.

Sufi music is the devotional music of the Sufis, inspired by the works of Sufi poets, like Rumi, Hafiz, Bulleh Shah, Amir Khusrow and Khwaja Ghulam Farid.

To me, music doesn’t have any discrimination, any demarcation, any boundaries. Music does not create any division among religion, caste, color, creed, and languages. Music understands only one language and that is “LOVE”. Music does not have any specific name, we have given a lot of names to it which creates a lot of differences also. But the truth is music is the only way to transport yourself to another world. It relaxes you and if music, lyrics, and voice combination have great command in any of the performances, you can feel heaven on earth.

I will urge all youngsters, you can not deny the existence of GOD, a universal truth, a supreme power. So rather become religious, be spiritual and be feel connected to GOD through music.

Join us in our upcoming event happening on 4th August in Bangalore and we will feel obliged. Book your free passes through the given link. http://go.eventshigh.com/yfjyg

Thanks for reading. Keep your reviews posted, I will revert back as soon as possible.

Love you, Bye-Bye. Take care of yourself, friends, relations and all dear and near ones.

Regards,

Neeraj Bhatia

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99….& Counting Starts Again

When I was in class 5th in my school named Bal Vidya Mandir, Lucknow. There were two books in Hindi Syllabus. “Bal Sahitya Mala” and “Saral Bhasha”. Today I don’t remember the name of the book in which I read that story named “Kuber ka chakra” (The wheel of KUBER). Well, Kuber is famous as “GOD of Money” in India.

I don’t want to discuss here the existence of GOD Kuber. But I want to point out, what I could not understand at that time, but when I saw all this story practicing in practical society, I could understand that our ancestors were really very wise and they knew that how to save the next generation. This purpose is invisible now. Everyone is living his own life. Nuclear families are increasing day-by-day. Today’s generation does not care about their parents, then, how can we think that they will care for the next generation.

Some years ago, I was in Delhi, and I have seen an old richest lady of a posh colony, was busy with some of her workers in her garden. I was curious to know what is going on. When they identified me there, they called me to come and see what is going on. To find that I am curious enough to understand the whole process, they told me that we are sowing “Walnut Tree”. I was inexperienced in agriculture so my straight question was, “When it will give fruit?”. That lady laughed and said. “Your generation always looking for results in the next minute.” I felt ashamed. But I again asked the same question. One person told me,” It will take 7 to 8 years”.

I was surprised to hear that. “How can you assume that you will alive to enjoy its fruit”, that was my direct question to that lady. But when she asked me, the same question in the same tone, I could not give an answer. She asked,” How are you sure, I will not be alive to enjoy its fruit.?”

Since childhood, I was a very curious person. I quickly started looking for a person, who can give me the answer. Then I visited one of my mentors, and a great philosopher “J.R.D. Satyarthi”. He generally called me with the nickname “Young Blood”. When he saw me, he simply asked, “You will not be here alone, what is your question”. I really always appreciated his gesture. I put my question in front of him.

He smiled and asked, “What is the time of happiness?”. I laughed and thought this is a very simple question, and the answer is also simple. I answered, “For me only two times in a year”. “First in ‘Diwali” and second in “Holi”. Now this time he laughed, and asked “Have you understood the question?”, “I am not asking for festivals”, “My question is different”.

I understood, his definition of happiness would be different. But suddenly I remember something and shouted, “I know that”. He curiously looking for an answer. His voice was calm, “Yes, I am listening”. I told “Today”. I was thinking that I have given a philosophical answer to a philosopher and my answer is perfectly right. But he nodded his head in negative, and told “No”.

He said, “You can not catch today alone”. “Today is always a mixture of past and future”. You learn from the past, live in present and plan for the future with some goals.” “Isn’t it?” “Is it possible you can happy today with these two burdens on your head”?

I nodded my head left and right and surrendered, “I don’t know the answer”. He smiled and said politely, “One second before death is the happiest moment of our life”. Now I almost jumped, “But how will I know, the next second is the moment of my death”. He smiled again and reiterated and said: “Even I don’t know”. “Then”, I was adamant to understand the reason behind this answer. And then he gave me a divine knowledge, which is difficult to get in books, you can get only from your experience or from any experienced person only.

He told, “When that old lady was sowing walnut, even she didn’t know if she will be alive or not, but the fact is that you are also not sure if she will be dead or not”. Because birth and death are not in our control.

Ironically, this definition is challenged by some people who nowadays going for cesarean delivery for the birth of their child, and majority decision is just to ensure about their child should take birth in specific day or month and also you can say that people murder people or un-timely death is rising to take control of birth and death of their hand instead of GOD’s hand. This is nothing but living against natural life and also this is like that some people are intruding GODs territory. Well, we will discuss the impact of this later in our other blog.

He emphasized, “I am giving you two-point to live a real-life “Always remember”,

  1. “When you meet someone, the greeting should be like that your greeting with this person is the first time in your life”. And maybe you will never get a second chance in this life for this greeting”
  2. “When you leave anyone, leave as you will never meet with this person anymore in your life and this is your last day or last moment of your life”. You need to practice it on a daily basis, even if you are meeting with the same person the next day.

I was cold frozen. These two statements are easy to read but much difficult to practice in one’s life. You can follow only if you believe in the existence of GOD and also if you accept that all acts are driven by GOD, you are not a doer. Do you know the difference when a person is in “Love” and when he is in an “Enamored” state?

Now come to the point, where this blog starts. The story of “Kuber ka chakra ” goes like this:

A person was passing from a lane, but suddenly he saw that another person is sitting on a hill, which is quite far from his lane. But surprisingly, a wheel was running on his head and that wheel has a pointed sharp piercing nail, a big nail. Which pierced into his head and blood was flowing continuously from his head. He was bleeding badly. His all cloths were blotted and filled up with bloodstains.

He was sitting too far, up on the hill. It was very difficult to reach him, the way was not straight. It was slippery and full of curves. But at last, he reached. He saw that the person was silent. He was not speaking any word. He is bleeding, but there were no marks of pain on his face.

He thought this is strange, he is bleeding but having no pain. He decided to ask him questions. He reached near him and started asking, “What is your name?”. That person told, “My name is Satya Prakash”. Second question, “How many days you are here?”. The person answered, “From last 40yrs”. The third question, “How you survive here means what do you eat?”. The person told, “Nothing, I don’t feel hunger or thirst”. Fourth Question, “I can see that the wheel is piercing and it is continuously running round and round, and in every round, it throws a lot of your blood from your head”. “How this is possible that you spend 40 yrs in this condition and blood is not finished from your body. The person answered,” I will never die and I will never get a shortage of blood.” The fifth question, “Do not you feel any pain?” The person answered, “Yes, only headache”. The sixth question, “Can I help you in any way?” The person said, “No, you can not”, you can leave now, No one can help me”

Now he is completely confused. And he decided to ask the last and very important question. He avoided this question a lot, but now he decided to ask at last. He asked, “How this happened to you?” As soon as he asked this question, the wheel flew to him and placed on his head and started taking rounds. He started feeling a headache. He started bleeding from his head.

He shouted perplexedly, “Why it happened to me?” “I just wanted to help you”. The person told, “I warned you to leave the place, but you did not”. He asked, “How can I get rid of it? The person told, “Only when any person the same as you, will come to you and ask the same question, you asked from me, then you will be free. Now you will not feel hunger, thirst and you will never die, your age will be stopped here only. Ok bye bye thank you, you made me free” And the person left.

It is a very painful story at that age for me. I could not understand it. But, I got its answer only when I started practicing with society and become a part of society. Now try to understand between the lines. It is really very interesting.

In our career or our business, we always try to follow those, who are better than us. Those who already became rich, or living luxuries life, always fascinates us. We fascinate by increasing numbers of USD Dollar. And nowadays social media add fuel to our aspirations by flashing big numbers. but actually, maximum news is fake news or such type of advertisement, where a user forced to believe that everything is fact.

And here the problem starts. When we see anyone, becoming rich, we try to follow him ( In the story he is on the hill for us, very difficult to reach to him). We try to approach him, to understand, how he becomes rich (Questions asked). From his experience he tried to make us understand, don’t fall in the trap. It is a painful process. (the bleeding head and wheel). But when we could not understand and adamant to understand the process, then he explains everything and the money wheel jump on us.

We become our victims ourselves. While you are busy with earning money, you will not get sleep, you will not feel hunger and thirst. You get always a headache. You will not die, because first of all your aspirations need to die, only then you will die. You just want to do the same process again and again to earn more money and more money. This is called a money trap, you earn money and count till 99 and some unexpected expense suddenly comes which consumes all of your savings(99) and then again you start from 1 (In the Hindi language it is called “99 Ka Fer”) just to pursue 100. And this continues till death.

I remember the story written by Leo Tolstoy “How much land does a man need?” If you have not read the story, I will suggest to go through and understand how greed can make the life of a man hell.

Once I asked on phone one of my childhood friends Rajendra, “So, how is Lucknow?’. He answered without any new thought, “My wife is happy, my children are happy, I am happy”. “If my family is happy, means Lucknow is growing and very good”.

In a small statement, he enlightens me on the moral of life. Why we are earning? Just to be happy with family. Then why greed, and lust? Sometimes billion dollars give us the sleepless nights but a hardworking farmer or labor never misses his sleep. And they found them always happy because they do not have anything to lose. And for sure, money can not buy happiness. Agree….???

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Be happy, with you, yourself, family, relatives, friends and near and dear ones.

Regards, Take care.

Neeraj Bhatia

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Bonding or Burden

7th Nov 2009, the first time, I got an opportunity to visit San Francisco, United States of America, for a client visit. It was a great opportunity for me because that was the first county, which opened new opportunities in my career, and later I visited approximately twenty-seven countries in a row.

One thing was common in all the people of those countries, everybody ready to say “Thanks” and “Sorry”. I was surprised that did they really mean it? Yes, they were. Whenever they realize somebody has done something good for them, or you can say, in their feeling, it was out of the way and generally, people don’t to that, they never take a moment to say “Thank You”. And if they feel they have done something wrong intentionally or unintentionally, they say “Sorry”, immediately.

I remember in my teenage, I boarded in a DTC bus, (Delhi Transport), and got one seat easily because that route was not a busy route. Suddenly I saw that at the next stop there was a huge crowd on-boarded. Everybody got a seat easily, except for one young girl. When I saw nobody is offering a seat to her, I offered my seat to her. She smiled and seated quietly.

But to my surprise, on that bus, everybody started laughing. I was from a different city and I always learned one thing from my culture that if possible, help always to a lady, children or a weak person. So, this act was not new to me. But in Delhi, why it was different? I could not understand the reason for a laugh, but this memory was still alive with me. Till today I could not figure out the genuine reason, whey they laughed.

When our previous Prime Minister of India, Mr. Manmohan Singh came from a trip to a foreign country, he got an opportunity to deliver a speech immediately after his arrival. He said, “I could not understand when Indians are in India, they never use these two words “Thank you” and “Sorry”, but when the same persons are in a foreign county, they use these words frequently”.

It is a very famous saying that there is no “Sorry” and “Thank you” among friends. It may be correct up to some extent only, but how can you leave your culture, your upbringing, your sacrament. I think the people of the entire world is our friend, till then they do not show that they don’t. Does it mean that we will not use these words to the people of the entire world? Not true. No way. If we feel gratitude or pain, these words come out automatically from our heart and this touches others’ hearts also. In my observation, In foreign countries, these two words are frequently used among friends also, why our country is exceptional? Do we really love each other up to this extent, where the sky is the limit? Where these words become useless or senseless.

Your first best friend is your Mother. Do you think you recognize her effort to make your day-to-day life easy? I am sure, so far you have never think of it. Lets us visualize again for all of your family members. Try to remember their sacrifices. I am sure, you are taking all of them granted. because if we did not develop this habit in our life, it seems to us, these acts come in their duty to do that. And our thinking is “What if they are doing”? We will talk further on this in our next blog.

This is my experience, if we use these two words with everyone including strangers, they feel closer, they feel more affinity.

The entire world will say that Open and Close are opposite words, but in real life, we feel close only to those whom we are open with. Or you can say, we open only with those, to whom we are close. True?

This is my feeling that the entire world learned divine knowledge from Indian, it is our heritage. But actually, we forget it. The intruders invaded our country took this knowledge from us, they are using it frequently and we feel ashamed to use this.

Why we take it casual? Because generally when we feel, we are not getting expected response from the opposite side, we become tortoise and if it is reverse we become the fastest runner rabbit.

A few weeks back, it was Saturday, a holiday, somebody visited my office and he was looking for some deal. I saw him, very perplexed because the receptionist was not well trained. He was looking to me for help. I asked him, “Can I help you”? He told, “My name is Ravi, I am here for a deal” and then he asked a lot of questions about the deal, but even though I was not the right person, I tried to give all the answers patiently and completed one tour with him for the entire office. He promised to come back on the coming Monday. After one month he came with his CFO & CTO and the deal was done.

The same day, I was sitting in my usual place in the office, when I have seen someone is standing nearby and staring at me. I moved my face toward him, he extended his greetings and introduced himself by making me remember, about his first meeting with me on that Saturday. Frankly speaking, I was completely forgotten about that meeting. Even then when he was asking me ‘Do you recognize me?” I could not.

He called his superiors who were CFO in his organization and introduced me and told him that he was a person whom I met first. Then he introduced me to CTO of that organization. A beautiful bonding generated within some minutes. I simply asked him, “How did you remember me”?

He smiled and told me, “Initially, I thought, you are the main person, whom I need to deal with. but later when I came to know that you are not part of this organization, even then you given your time and patiently given all the answers to my queries”. He said, “Fifty percent of the deal was completed on the day itself, your gesture works for me”. Further, he added, “When you help me to get the elevator, your last two words “Thank You”, made the final deal on that day itself”.

I helped him selflessly, this made day for both of us. I believe, this is nothing to do with that how you got your upbringing, it is something, we need to learn from our school and society. I got these gestures from my parents and my friend circle who practice Indian culture in their practical life.

Multiple times we have seen the photographs shared on social media that foreign doctors bowing their heads in front of the body of the patient who donates their organs after death. Do you really think it works? Well, you can say that a person who left the world, don’t know what respect he is getting after that, then what is the use of it?

Well, think again, actually, they are not giving any tribute to the body of the person, who is no more, they are paying respect to his or her soul. They are paying respect to his or her wish of “Donation”. As well as they are also setting up an example for the next generation.

Don’t you think, we always have a habit to complain, but if we started thinking that what we already have or given by GOD, then we will start thankfully.

8 November 2016, the date is recorded in Indian economics history, the day of demonetization. I am not going to discuss here the merit or demerit or consequences of this event. But I remember one thing that people started saying “In the previous government, everyone is telling one statement that “We do not have anything. And after demonetization Mr. Prime Minister Narendra Modi government made everybody realized that they have a lot of things, now learn the tricks on how to conceal this from the government”. But this joke was really pointing to one important point of our life, and that was “Instead of always complaining. Be thankful for what you have”.

Once a person used to visit the nearby temple for his daily prayers. Every day he used to complain to GOD, that you have not given anything to me. What is the use of his life, if you have not given me a job, I do not have family, I do not have money to survive?

The priest of the temple was very wise. He planned to talk to him. The next day, when he came to the temple, the priest called him and told there is a patient struggling for life, in a hospital and he needs kidney transplantation. Please accompany me to the hospital for a test, if it matches, they will give you a lot of money. That person furiously shouted, “It is not for sale”. Next day again the priest told him that this time the price offer is double, whatever a figure, you have in mind. In no time, that person started cursing to the priest. That was the time, when the priest given him divine knowledge that he should start calculating the price for each and every organ of his body, he could understand easily how much rich he is today. It was an eye-opener for the person.

Not for that person, this is an eye-opener for all of us, who daily curse to themselves and their lives. Besides our body, organ, life, GOD has provided natural resources to use, and that is free of cost, GOD has provided fresh air, which is essential to living, that is also free of cost, GOD has provided water, mandatory to live life, and again this is free of cost. GOD has provided earth to live, and again this is free of cost. etc. tec. etc. Well, start calculating and ask yourself, what if GOD suddenly visible to you and start asking rent for all of those. Any answer?

A child was asking for new shoes, but the father was trying to convince him, that it is impossible for him to purchase this month because the entire salary has been consumed. But the child was adamant. Then the father convinced him to go to school today, in the evening he will try to get a loan from his friend and will able to purchase it.

In the same evening, the father offers his child to visit the market to purchase shoes. But to his surprise child was not ready to go. The child refused to go. After repeatedly requested, the child told that today while returning from school, he saw a child, who does not have his legs. then only he realized that at least GOD has given him beautiful legs, so he can wear shoes, but what if it would not have been. He understands at least he should thankful to GOD, what he has instead of a complaint about what he does not have.

Bring these two words in day-to-day practice. Thanks & Sorry these two words have magic in itself. It will definitely make your life easy and build a strong bonding, which works forever. The burden will become bonding for sure.

Thanks for reading. Send your reviews as usual. I will reply as soon a possible.

Best Regards and take care of you, yourself, family, friends and near and dear ones.

Bye-bye.

Neeraj Bhatia

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Which side of the GOD is?

 

In Punjab, the Majha region, Gurdaspur is a district, where one of my farmer friends residing with his family. He has two daughters. Both got married. One day he thought I need to visit both of my daughters today. He visited his elder daughter first. Her husband was having the business of making clay pitchers and selling it in nearby markets. When he was about to leave, he asked her daughter, “Do you want anything”? She told, “Only one thing, please pray to GOD, that rains should be delayed, so at least our raw clay pitchers get dried”. To sell them in the market is only our earnings”.

On the same day, he visited the younger daughter’s house. Her husband was a farmer. Everything was okay. He was very happy. He asked the same question to her younger daughter “Do you want anything”? She told “Nothing, but, please pray to GOD, that rains should be on proper schedule time, else, our plants get dried and we can not earn anything this year.

My friend was confused, which side the GOD is? How is it possible that GOD can help both of my daughters.

Are you facing the same issue, in your Life? Can you give me a solution? whose side GOD will be?

In the year 2005, I was in Mumbai. Generally, I used local trains for destinations. Because to go long routes through road and stuck in a traffic jam for hours was always a foolish decision. I used four-wheelers only for night drives or for my trips outside Mumbai.

I was staying in Malad (West), the day when havoc happened in Mumbai, unfortunately, I was there. It was 26th July 2005, when the rain started and for the next 10 days, it never decreases its speed. I never kept so many eatables in my refrigerator or storage. When it started, I thought it will take maybe the next 24 hours to stop. or rain will slow down and shops will open. And I will get something to eat.

But I was wrong, it continued for a couple of days. Mumbai was on a halt. Everybody was stuck where they were. Offices started to drown, homes melted down like anything. Thousands for Mumbai people were on roads or spread on railway tracks because all the local trains were on a halt. Public transports including private taxi drivers increased fare prices multi-folds. Public Buses were stuck in the middle of the road, all are half-drowned in water. Television was airing information minutes by minutes and after some time electricity failed for the entire city. ATMs run out from currencies, dried out. Some machines were out-of-order with error description “non-functional”. I was feeling hungry, but can not go out, because of heavy rain and lashing wind. Online or mobile orders for food were rejected. Then slowly mobile charging got off. Communication was halt completely. The whole of Mumbai was at the mercy of GOD.

The same situation continued for the next 9 days. Thousands of people were drowned. Many parts of the Mumbai was half-drowned. One of my friends trying to save another friend pulled down by the water. I forget my hunger for those days. If I could hear anything on those days, that was only crying. for all of those, whom I was never familiar with. But I was melted down by their heart-throbbing cries.

I found myself always lucky, and this time also I was. The floodwater reached only till Goregaon station and before it reached to Malad station, the rain stopped. On that day as soon as the rain stopped along with my friend. I rush towards nearby places to collect the stock of the situation.

I was on my two-wheeler. I do not want to tell a lie here, my first preference was to see if any hotel, any shop is started preparing food, or can we get anything which can be eaten immediately.

Wandering to find food, we reached near Goregoan(W) station. Everywhere water and water. All roads were flooded with water. Home dashed to grounds. We can see utensils, clothes, electric and electronic appliances, money, educational certificates were floating on the water.

And then I have seen first dead body, swollen with water. And then second and third and so on. I cried aloud. “What the hell is it? How can GOD do that? Suddenly, I have seen some more dead bodies but they have cuts on their bodies. Some bodies didn’t have hands, some didn’t have fingers. I was shocked to see that. Then I have seen dead bodies of children floating on water.

My friend was a local resident of Mumbai. I asked him how it is possible? How can rain cuts somebody’s hands, or neck or fingers? He kept his eyes down. I understand he had an answer but he is hesitating. And then, when he started telling the truth, my eyes getting wide opened, with surprise and anyone can see the combination of anger, pain, and sorrow in it.

He told me there are some people who are so selfish, that they never leave any opportunity to loot. I believe as soon as these houses dashed grounded and people started crying for help. These goons took advantage and tried to pull out their ornaments from their bodies. Everyone can not be a good swimmer. But these goons are well trained in it. Here you can see, some necks and fingers are cut down because maybe bodies are old more than 24 or 48 hours and are swollen, they found it very hard to get their ornament to be pulled out, so they cut their hands, neck, ears or fingers. But in some cases, this is also possible that when somebody is asking for help, then instead of giving the help they cut them from throats, so they can collect their ornaments, etc.

What an inhuman and insensitive act? Disgusting…My emotions were so high that If I could have a sword in my hand and if I could get them in front of me, definitely I would cut these goons in pieces, to make sure they are not alive.

But the question here is again? Which side the GOD is?

One day I did catch my train from Dadar station. It was late evening. It was a harbor lane. I saw a group of ladies entered in second class compartments having big cane baskets on their heads. They were having some fruits in them, and most probably they return after selling it in another station market.

I observed all ladies put their baskets on the ground of the compartment, but one lady kept it on her head only. Curiously, I asked, “where are you going?”. One of them told the name of the station. I wondered, it is too far, and it will take approximately 35 more minutes. I simply asked, “You know how much time train will take to reach there”, they told the same estimated time. Then again I asked, “why she is not grounding her basket”, “why she is keeping it on her head”. Other ladies laughed at her and said, she will not. My surprise was increasing second by second. I asked again, “Why?”. Another lady said because she is thinking that she should not increase the load on the train. And she is reducing a load on the train by keeping his burden to herself. I never heard that logic before. I wanted to convince her, she is wrong, but somehow kept quiet. They were speaking in the Marathi language, which I was not well versed.

But I started thinking, for the public it is a foolish act, but in my senses, it was an innocent act. She is so kind by heart, she can not give trouble to anyone in her life.

But the takeaway from this incident was remarkable. The same situation is happening with us on a daily basis. We are taking all the loads on our heads, but not leaving it to GOD. Maybe we have a doubt, which side the GOD is?

On the rout of my office, generally every morning I can see a huge rush of the public waiting to board on public or private buses. As soon as, the bus arrives, a huge bunch of crowd started struggling to enter from the entry gate. They tried to push others backward, so they can get inside, and the haste is only because they want to grab a seat. There is no mercy for old people and ladies or children. But when they were pushed back by others, they again started trying but at last, when they are stuck in the crowd and pushed back again and again, then they leave it on GOD, felting helpless, there all efforts get failed just due to others overpower them. Similarly, in our life, we try hard to use all of our power to be fulfilled our dreams, but when we failed repeatedly then only we leave everything on GOD.

In my view, this concept should be reversed now. Leave everything on GOD and then try hard. I am sure, you will be succeeded.

A student usually entering from the front gate of the college, find side gate open today, this was restricted but just to save her time, she entered from that gate swiftly as no attendant was there to stop him. Suddenly, she realized all other students are exchanging greetings. She was surprised. She was thinking of what happened today? Am I different today? I come to college every day, but nobody recognizes me, but what happened suddenly, I am famous overnight. Everybody has a single sentence today “Good Morning Mam”. And suddenly she realized, I have taken different paths today, maybe side lane is especially for VIP type of students or something else. Anyways, she felt proud and try to show that she is VIP. Sometimes she waved her hand and accepted greetings from the student by slightly bowing her head down.

She became conscious when she realized the senior teachers also bow their heads and said “Good Morning Mam”, and then the first time she moved towards the backside to see if there is anyone, who is walking along with her. And to her surprise, it was her College Dean, who is walking behind her. And in a surprising situation, she bowed her head to exchange greetings with her.

This was her time to understand, that all greetings were for College Dean Mam, and she was thinking that it was for her.

We are doing the same mistake again and again in our life, thinking that we are the doer for all types of acts in our life, but actually, the doer is GOD and we are taking all the credits.

When we surrender our all efforts to GOD, then suddenly we started getting all, what we never think of our dreams.

I was sitting in my office on my desk, and in front of my desk, one of my senior colleagues was sitting. One of our office colleagues entered from the main door in our room and she bowed the head and threw her smile towards us. My senior college has exchanged greeting by saying a long “Hi”. Simultaneously I smiled at her. She smiled but I realized only when a strong voice swims in the air from my backside with greeting “Hello”, that she is exchanging her greeting to her boss, who was sitting just behind me on the sofa set. It was neither for me nor for my senior colleague. But actually, she got three smiles when she was expecting only one from his boss only.

Now come to the main point, from where this BLOG started.

Which side of GOD is? We have seen in all of our above-mentioned incidents, we don’t have any direct interaction or communication with GOD.

Well, from where you will get a direct mobile, or cell number of GOD, who will give you? Do you have any agent’s contact number?

I was a very weak student in the 5th class. And especially in Geography subject, I never understand the difference between latitude and longitude. I need to write a class test on a monthly basis. And the day of the result, my class teacher calls the name and announces the marks obtained. I was the only person who knew his obtained marks in advance. So it was my developed habit, that I need to call all the names of GOD, and requested them multiple times, to give me just pass marks this time only and promised them that I will work hard for next time.

But every time my prayers spins in the air without any results. Every time I felt ashamed and murmurer that GOD is helpless and can not do anything.

It was class eighth, when first time, I heard the statement, “GOD helps those, who help themselves”. And this was the first time I started thinking in a different way. I have had experienced multiple times that all the prayers are of no use. GOD never replied either an affirmative nor negative. Actually, he never answers and my all prayers were unanswered to date.

That was the turning point of my life when I started believing in myself. I started working hard on me and till today, that boy who was very very weak in Geography subject has already completed his visit for the 27th country last year. So, at last, GOD started helping me, when I started helping myself.

Now, summarize the whole article. In spiritualism, it is very clear that we are surrounded by supreme energy. And those who know that, what it is? They understand life. Those who know the definition of GOD, can understand very smoothly, where is GOD, and whom I am talking about here.

In religious places, have you ever seen GOD speaks? No, I am with you. But actually when we heard a statement that “He is the person, from whose body, GOD speaks”. Why GOD need any other body to speak? Agreed. This statement is nothing but showing the experience of life for the person in the subject.

GOD is omnipresent. GOD is LOVE. GOD never favors or disfavor. GOD knows only justice.

A person, who is asking GOD, to help others, don’t have self-interest behind this prayer. And he is a pure heart person. He has nothing to do if GOD fulfills his wish or not. Because he is not asking for himself. He is asking for another person. He doesn’t care.

From today onwards, if you start asking help on any issue from GOD, always ask for all mankind, and just leave the decision on him that if this is good for us or not. The request would be simple, “I don’t know what is good and bad for me, I don’t know, how to pray, and I don’t know which is good for me, so if this is good for me please fulfill it, else you know better what is good for us.

Do you know what happens actually here? Simple, you and your family also counted in whole mankind. So do not be self-interested by asking GOD to favor you only. If it will good for the entire mankind, it will be fulfilled, if not then leave it to him. Have Faith.

Now, if anyone asking you to pray for his or her best. Start to pray for the entire mankind. How can you ask a favor for anyone, when GOD don’t like favoritism.

Thanks for reading.

Please send your reviews, as usual, I will answer as soon as possible for all of your questions.

Bye-bye,

Take good care of you, yourself, relatives, friends, and all near and dear ones.

Regards,

Neeraj Bhatia [ Direct Email ID: neeraj.bhatia@aaradhyagroups.com]

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I LOVE YOU

 

“I Love you” when you hear this statement, can you explain yourself today, what do you feel? A melodious musical string, playing only for you. A cool breeze where you are floating. A lovely playback song in the atmosphere transporting you in a different fantasy world.

No, hmm… Something is wrong with you.

Yes…. Oh. Absolutely something is wrong with you.

The answer could be wrong in both ways if you don’t know WHY it is happening.

One day I was standing in front of the mirror, and I felt, I wanted to do something, some action, and some activities, just to please myself. And then I started frowning, I was really enjoying, the next step was to do some steps like you are doing some exercises in Gymnasium, or some dancing poses. Literally, I started enjoying it a lot.  

I was in a discussion with Mr. Nirmal Joshi, a renowned editor, in Delhi. Why I was feeling like this? Why it happened to me, but I enjoyed it a lot. Am I getting mad”? He laughed a potbelly laugh.  He told me, it is your new incarnation. I could not understand the meaning of this. “What does it mean”? I inquired, my curiosity was in full swing. He described, “To reach this stage, a person needs to take a thousand birth, but you realized it in this birth only, so I use the word “Incarnation”. I still could not understand then he further stated. “When you are frowning who was happy”? I said. “I was happy”. ‘When you are trying to dance who was happy”? I thought about why the same question. I replied, “I was happy”. Suddenly he became serious.

Then he directly came to point. “Who are you to be happy”? I simply replied, “I am Neeraj Bhatia”. He pointed out to the fan running exactly top of us. “Can you identify what is running?” I smiled “It is a Fan”. His next question surprised me “Where is a fan?” I pointed out towards the fan. He ordered to switch off the fan to an office boy. Now his question is, “Can you tell me the breakups of the fan?” I started, “it has three blades, one motor in center, two cups in a different direction, there are a lot of electronic products inside, and I cannot identify”. “There is a rod, in which it is hanging, a capacitor, I can see, who controls its rpm”. Then I point towards the switchboard, “There is a regulator, to control its speed”. I stopped describing, then he asked again, “But where is the FAN?”

Now the first time I realized FAN does not exist anymore, and the whole of our life, we are thinking that we are using FAN. Then he taught me the lesson of divine knowledge. “Remember my words, NEERAJ does not exist in this world”. “This is the name we have given you to identify you, else you are no more”. “You are a cage of flesh and bones only”. “Try to identify yourself, you will find you have a heart, two kidneys, one skull, two hundred six bones, and one lever and so on…. But where is Neeraj, Neeraj does not exists.

 I murmured, “Then who is Neeraj”, who was happy when I was frowning?”. He smiled and answered, “this is your SOUL”. “Today you identified yourself”. “You are not a body, you are a soul”. “Everyone in this world, cannot reach this stage to understand this”. “You understand today”. “When you hurt someone, you hurt his or her soul only, when you make someone happy, that is his or her soul only”. “People in this world can not realize, but few people know this and they work whole life to make them understand, but nobody has time to get this divine knowledge”. “And if you will try to tell someone deliberately, they will laugh at you”. “And this is continued from last six thousand years and this will continue, till this world exists”.

I was bewildered, at loss of words. But I understand, when we love someone, we have direct interaction with the soul, not with the body. It can be any relation: mother, father, brother, sister, wife or children.

The person could be of any color, creed or religion. It could be red, black, and white, brown. It could be of any religion. But our interaction is with souls only.

There is only two types of people in this world either “GOOD or BAD”, else there is no discrimination exists. Divisions did by us by using the cast, the creed & the religion, etc. GOD does not divide us. We made the division.

Everyone has a first love in life. Love at first sight. Generally, when we are in “Teens” it happened. We never understood it is infatuation or love. But frankly speaking, it is actually a real love, because even you itself don’t know, what is happening. “The phrase ‘love is blind’ is a valid notion because we tend to idealize our partner and see only things that we want to see in the early stages of the relationship. In this stage, you are unable to see any issue, any social problem.

Most people give the name “Infatuation” to their first love because ninety-nine percent fail to react, and a failure person knows how to satisfy himself by giving false arguments. The main reason it fails majorly because no one understands what is happening and how to respond to feelings. Well, I can use the word “Inexperience”, here because later when a person becomes experienced, then they know how to play this game. Yes, then this becomes a game for them. Some people get frustrated and some people become clever and then crooked enough to try the same tactics on others to grab the second chance, then third then forth and so on.

In first love you are a pure heart person, you don’t know the feeling of a cheat. You find everything positive in it. You cannot see the shortcoming of your partner. And the most important, even if it fails, you remember this in your whole life. Love is spontaneous, it happens. You cannot make it. It is not a recipe, jotted in the kitchen book.

What does the statement “I Love You “means? Most people do not know or do not want to know the actual use of the full statement.

The full statement is “I am falling in love with you”. We are habitual of finding short cuts in our activities and here also, we use short cut “I Love You”. Because the real form or nature of the statement is clearly telling that the couple in love, should be first admitted to surrender to each other. Then only the relationship starts. But if this is lacking from either side, believe me, one person will suffer most time and then the relationship will come to an end abruptly.

Now I am coming to the main point, why this BLOG starts and how we need to understand these human behaviors.

Do you know, besides Science and human behaviors, what is working behind to reach this stage?

You know, actually, this is an IDEA only.

Now you will say no way, what is the relationship between a human relationship and idea?

Okay, let me explain further.

Man is a social animal. It means you are a family man. If you are staying in a family, this means in a home, you have at least, a mother, a father, a sister and a brother (younger or elder), and absolutely a wife and your children.

Now sit straight….

When you hug your mother? What is your idea behind? You are humble, you are soft. You have an idea that you should feel the warmth in the relationship. She has no hesitation to grab you in her hands because she has given you birth and nine months you have spent in her stomach. This hug is full of love without any self-interest.

When you hug your sister, what is your idea behind? If she is younger than you, you are full of responsibility, care, and love, but if she is elder then you, then you are feeling respect, love, and care for her. Overall, your hug has responsibility, love, and care for your sisters.

When you hug your girl child, what is the idea behind? You are full of love and enthusiastic. You want to see a seed to become a plant, you are caring, full of love.

But what is your idea, when you hug your wife? Obviously, all types of scientific chemicals inside your body heads up and you are a person of a different world. The same is happening with your wife also. You both are in a fantasy world. Full of Love. I am talking here only for a truthful relationship, not for lust or attraction. This is called a real attachment.

Its time to summarize, what we talk so far in the above lines? You hug everyone in your family, the most common feeling in all the hugs was LOVE. But for all relationships, you didn’t borrow new hands from another person? Agreed. You have used your same hands, but the mind is getting relationship ideas from an idea generated in the brain. I am not talking about chemical chemistry here. I am talking about IDEAS, and that is the most important part of all the relationships. This is called your personal feeling for every relationship.

Do you feel something like, sometimes it happens? When you are walking and getting a feeling, that someone just behind you is a very important person. You move your face back and it surprised you, yes, you are correct, he is here. Sometimes it happened, you see one face and getting a negative feeling, even you do not know him, and you never see him or her before. Sometimes you are getting very positive vibes to see a person, the same again you never met earlier, but the feeling is pure. You don’t know why and how?

Love is a feeling, it is not an emotion. Emotion is a mental state associated with the nervous system brought on by chemical changes variously associated with thoughts, feelings, behavioral responses, and a degree of pleasure or displeasure. There is currently no scientific consensus on a definition.

The feeling is enjoyed by your soul, not your body.

When you touch anybody, through your hands, then only, it becomes a relationship. Your touch describes the name of a relationship and this could be Mother, Sister, Wife or children, brother, Father, etc. otherwise love is only love a feeling only.

Does it mean a person has no hands, can’t describe its love for their relationship?

To answer this, I will say, please go deep a little more, a step further, where you find real love is always silent. it never speaks. Real love does not require recognition. Real love knows no boundaries. And the most important, without speaking real love understand each and everything.

When you get feelings for somebody, do you think, you can describe any relation? No, feelings are only feelings and I would recommend living with your feelings, not with relations. Relations are fragile, but feeling is forever. And this is the only reason, people remember their first love forever, till death.

Now, when you say “I Love You” to someone. Ask yourself first. Do you really mean it what are you saying? Do you faithful in this relationship? Do you ready to surrender yourself? If anyone of the answer is “NO”, then it is a “BIG No” for you. You are not serious enough. You are not committed. Stay away. This is the only game for you. And you will get similar players from both genders everywhere in this world. Find out and enjoy it.

Thanks for reading. Send your reviews as usual. I will reply as soon as possible.

Bye-bye. Take care of you, yourself, your relations and near and dear ones.

Always yours,

Neeraj Bhatia {direct email: neeraj.bhatia@aaradhyagroups.com}


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Is Ignorance Blissed?

Professor and Philosopher Mr. Joginder Singh Puri, United States, was a great personality and most knowledgeable person, I ever met in my life. Unfortunately, I could not get multiple chances to meet him, but whatever chances I got, all were memorable and in my mind so far. His speeches transported me to another world. The first time, I met with him in Delhi, it was a small introduction, but when he came to Lucknow, my home town, I got the chance to spent time with him for two days. One day in Lucknow and another day in Kanpur.

When he was leaving for the United States via Delhi, I still remember the day, I was the last person, who got a chance to talk to him face to face.

My question was very simple but complicated: I never try to hurt anyone intentionally, but always got hurt by others. Why?

He always used to hold a white shawl around him. He smiled and open his shawl with both hands, and told me to enter inside. I did not want to left the chance to embrace him. He was a father figure to me. He answered in a soft voice just near my ears. “Don’t be too good with others, as a result of you become bad for yourself”. After a pause, he whispered, “But I am sure, you can not be able to practice this in your whole life, because you are different from others”

I am feeling no shame, to say that, he was correct because till today, I am trying to practicing his first statement in my life and every time I failed to do so, and his second statement becomes true.

Below mentioned two statements, which can change anybody’s life, I heard from his speech the very first time in Delhi.

  1. One who knows that he knows, he knows not
  2. One who knows not that he knows not, how can he learn?

It is a Persian saying with 4 meaningful lines, but I think life could get a new meaning, if anybody, compelled himself to accept only these two lines mentioned above.

First point is describing clearly, that nobody in this world is perfect. And if anybody thinks that, messages go directly to him that just wait another person is coming behind you, to prove that you are wrong.

The second point is interesting, where the author clearly mentioned, if you do not know that you are living in dark, then you do not know the values of light, so before started thinking out of the box, you need to understand what is in the box.

What you don’t know, can’t hurt you? Now you can see that the second point has another positive aspect. But this directs us towards the complexity of relationships.

Before coming to this subject, I want to touch an interesting topic here. My office is on the 13th floor and I can see direct traffic from huge glass windows. One day I was having my cup of tea and standing there. Traffic in all four lanes is running continuously, all are moving properly. I could realize that all are running on the same road, and there is no conflict, because, all are obeying traffic rules, running their vehicles in the discipline.

As an observer, I can see that half of the traffic is moving in the right direction and half of the traffic is moving to the left direction, but actually, both are in the RIGHT direction. There is no surprise in it. This is the same road, but the movement of the traffic could be the opposite side, one way is wrong for one person, which is the right way for others. What if the right direction vehicle driver thinks that the left direction traffic is going wrong? And left direction vehicle driver thinks the same. Does it impact? No, because from their point of view, both are correct and as well as both are wrong also.

So, What is the takeaway from this? The same statement can have multiple meanings because our viewpoint could be different from person to person. In a particular class, teachers or preachers can give you the same lecture. but the takeaway could be different.

A butcher is allowed to give death to certain creatures if he has a professional license but what if he murdered a man, the viewpoint differs again here. Army person can kill hundreds of enemy persons, but if he killed any civil person, the viewpoint differs.

There are a lot of people, who says that if we are addicted to drinking, drugs or cigarette, what harm in it? Your viewpoint is different and then ours, we are right and you are wrong. My request to everyone is very loud and clear. Give me one benefit of consuming this? By giving the lame excuses of STRESS, you are only trying to find the escape route because you know yourself very well that if addiction is controlling you, you yourself better know the consequences. Smoke in or smoke out cannot solve your issues. You have to find the source of stress and find the route to resolve this. Please don’t give lame excuses to themselves.

Today you are participating in a rat race, and do not want to lag behind, so accepting it as a status symbol and you are trying to use addiction against earning money or status. The day is not far away when you will realize your mistake. Diseases will burn your today’s earning. So the future is: “Status” will burn, “Money” will burn, “Health” will burn, “Relationships” will burn and at last, You will be burned. Then what’s left, ASHES only. So your journey starts with ashes and ends up with ashes. Smoke will merge with smoke.

Now I return, to the point of the complexity of relationships. Do we need to avoid the truth and apply ignorance? I think yes, not all, but definitely in some cases. Willful Ignorance or willful blindness can resolve a lot of issues.

If I know the truth and also know that if the truth comes out, there would be massive chaos, don’t you think I need not disclose it? There are thousands of other ways and different timing to disclose it. I should wait until then. Sometimes lingering on the issue, provides marvelous solutions.

Truth is always bitter, but if you will say without appropriate words, without proper timings, only you will be blamed.

When I was studying at my graduation, I attended a class from my economics professor, Mr. N.K. Mishra. He pointed out a very beautiful point, which I never forget and always use in my day-to-day life. He wrote on the blackboard that “Old Currency throws out the new currency from circulation”. Frankly speaking, I could not understand the value of this sentence then. But when see it in practice, I understand that most corrupt people in the system, throw an honest person out of the system.

I do not want to use the “Corrupt” word here for any specific community. My intentions relate it to all the spheres or areas of life, where our thought and our ideas have already been junked up badly. It needs purification of Ideas, purification of our thoughts.

Do we know, why people give a milk bath to the huge status of their GODs, which wastes hundreds of liter of milk? No, even I don’t know. We do not need to send purification messages to our idols, instead we need to purify our ideas, our thoughts.

Inventions are always for the benefit of mankind, but, we always able to find its disaster side. For example, Can a missile starts without manual intervention to kill thousands in a single shot? You will say yes, it can be programmed to an automated setup. Agreed, but who is behind it to set up as automated. Obviously, an only single idea generated in anybody’s mind to kill thousands. So missile is not bad, its invention is not bad, its application is also not bad. How, when, where and whom against it is planned to use, could be bad, because here IDEA is bad, that thought is bad. Intentions are slaves of our ideas, and this needs purification, obviously.

A beggar, who was blind, sits near the pedestrian road, where hundreds of people crossroad daily, but nobody extends his support to him. Hardly he could get enough money to survive. A lady used to go to the office from the same route, always give some money to him. One day she picked up his board and read aloud “I am blind, please help me”. She thought a while and in the back of the board, she wrote something and left for her office. The next day she was passing by and saw enough money in front of the board. She started smiling and left for office.

What else she wrote on the board? How this change happened? Simple, she reverse the perception of the thought. She wrote “It is a beautiful world, but i can not see it”.

People want to be positive, want to hear positive, want to speak positively. You know why? Because they do not have guts to hear the truth. This only depends on the perception to see the situation? Why can’t we accept that negativity is also a part of our lives. We need to overcome, that’s all. To ignore negativity and only hear positivity slogans, is not going to solve the problem.

It is a very old story when electricity was not reached in all villages. In one of the villages, as soon as the sun sets, people picked up the vessel from the kitchen and starts throwing darkness from his house to the roadside. Whole night all the members of the family have to practice daily the same thing. As soon as the sun rises, they all start to cheer up and give congratulations to each other that they win. They have thrown out darkness from their house Now the darkness is out for the day.

This is the height of ignorance. They need only one candle to remove the darkness, but to get that candle, they need the light of knowledge. The same practice is going on nowadays in the whole world. We do not want to hear straight forward truth, but yes, if the truth comes with beautiful packaging of fake stories, it is always welcome.

I am not sure, why should we ignore the truth? We should realize that all roads going upwards, coming downwards also. If you will throw a ball upward with your strongest power, even then it will come down. Earth has gravitational power.

The same happens to us. Whatever heights we can grab in our life, status, money, power, etc. At last, the earth will bring us down and we will be buried down to the earth only. So can you see any reason to become a balloon for some days with malpractices?

At last, I will say only one thing, that, not always, but occasionally in some of the circumstances, to accept ignorance is bliss, but only, if and if, you have knowledge that you know the ignorance, and you have a proper plan to tackle this in the future.

Just remember “To kill ignorance, you should know that you know the ignorance, else before you can kill it, it will kill you”

Thanks for reading…..

Bye bye and take a good care of you, your family, your relatives and friends and your near and dear ones.

Neeraj Bhatia

Email ID: neeraj.bhatia@aaradhyagroups.com

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Father’s Day?

I want to start this circle from my childhood. My existence in this world is because of my parents. My parent’s existence? obviously because of their parents. Then why Father’s day is separate and Mother’s day is separate? What is the confusion?

Let us make it simple now. If both were not present in my life, my existence was impossible. In Indian culture, we always used to speak in a single word for our parents ‘MATA-PITA”, “MAA-BAAP”(Mother-Father). And here also you can observe that the female name is always in front of a male name. For example: “Siyapati Ramchandra” (Siya means Sita), “Radhe-Shyam” (Radhye for Radha).

So I am trying to analyze here when we were acustomed to respect too much to our females, then who made them separate?

It seems to me that events are the main culprit, they separated them. Mother’s Day? Father’s Day? Then a new event comes into existence “Parents Day”. Funny? Beautiful business model by business organizations: First Divide and rule and then makeover with a new one and rule again. So here 1+1=3 instead of 2. Three new events and all are emotional, connected with brisk business.

We will not talk here about, these events and their purpose to start with. We will go one step ahead and try to find what should we learn from these opportunities, what we missed so far.

Late Mr. Niramal Joshi, Renowned Editor in Delhi, once asked me a question: Suppose a father is beating his child when a child is asking for a costly toy, which father’s pocket can’t afford it. what do you learn from this? Why? What is the reason?

I answered respectfully that “he is not beating his child, actually, the child is an only medium for him to bring out his frustration about his poor condition.” I felt obliged when he blessed me a lot. My answer was not a very big achievement for me, it was simply reading between the line. And this is possible only when you know what is LIFE.

Nowadays, we realized the new generation is running behind a fake world. Their heroes are those, who can do impossible things within seconds. Even they do not have any relationship with their Hero’s, even they accept them blindly. All their heroes are artificially branded, which pushed them to run behind them and then they try to use those products, what their heroes are using notwithstanding their heroes have never used it actually.

Have you tried to find a hero in your father? If your father has enough money or resources to fulfill your demand, he will definitely do it. But if he is not able to, even then he will try to go out of his comfort zone to fulfill your wish. Just believe me, parents are equally important. Both amicably can able to provide you Love, Care, and Security (Internal or external).

In a plane journey, during strong turbulence, when all passengers started crying and calling GOD, to help them to survive. Passengers noticed a boy was sitting peacefully and playing video games. They asked if he doesn’t have a fear of death. The boy replied peacefully, I know, nothing is going to happen. How come? passengers surprised. He told that I know the pilot is my father, and he will survive me anyhow. This is called real bonding between the duo and confidence between parent and child, which no dictionary in this world can explain.

Let me introduce “Aaradhya” today, my only daughter. As a Father, I can see myself as a “Hero” in her eyes, when, she runs to open the door, on reaching my home from the office. When she cries and with tears in her eyes, she is looking for my shoulder, I know she is confident, she will get a safe place. When she wants to grab my lap to sit and feel she is sitting in Maharajah’s Seat. For her, it is like heaven. She closes her eyes on my chest and gives a feeling, I don’t need more, I am lying down on the rose bed. When I toss her in the air, she doesn’t afraid, instead, she laughs, because she is confident that she is in a secured hand.

When I accompanying her anywhere, she poses as a queen, because, she realizes that father is next to her. She feels her all dreams are going to be true. She thinks all the toys in a shop is hers only. I have seen sprinkling eyes when she introduced me to her friend by saying “Ye Mere daddy Hain”, ( He is my father). You can see the hight of possessiveness and love. When I am not in a good mood, only she realized first and try to reach to my cheeks through her little fingers and embrace me around my neck to give a supportive lovely hug, which obviously brings tears in my eyes.

I am a whole world for my daughter Aaradhya and she is a whole world for me.

In this world, everyone has a right to keep a relationship or break relationships anytime. But this is a fact that relationships never end. When the next generation surpasses the older generation, only then they understand the issues faces by their parents.

In the upbringing of their children, parents can ready to lost every penny, what they earned in their life, but nowadays, this is a bitter truth that people don’t care about their elders.

A father had two sons. Both got married. After some days, they started quarreling. Then one day, the proposal comes from sons, the division of property. Father finds himself unable to find the solution and accepted the solution. But due to this incident, he faced a severe shock and left the world after a massive heart attack. Both sons decided, that they can not afford the expenses of their mother’s living, so for 15 days the mother will stay with the elder son and another 15 days mother will stay with the younger son.

At this stage, you will not get any wrongdoing in this story and you will not get any message instantly, because this is a story of every home, nowadays. Let me conclude it now. Due to this decision, Mother has to go for forced FAST, for all the months having days more than 30 in a year. Doesn’t it seem shameful? And believe me, this is a reality of today’s smart generations.

Lemony Sniket wrote somewhere that ‘Sad truth is that the truth is Sad.

Maybe, those of us having our parents with us, can’t take this subject seriously, but I will urge everyone to give a thought once, what would if we haven’t? Realize for those, how they feel, who don’t have parents or one of them.

If moral values were the part of our upbringing, and we are following it till today and this is still in our practice, please keep it up.

But if we are still not realizing, please have a visit to nearby Old Age Home, and realize once. We can not deny the truth that at last, we have to reach till this age and if this stage? then what? What we will sow, will reap the same, Isn’t it?

Please respect the elders and pass your love to youngers.

Happy Father’s Day to all my readers.

Thanks for reading..

Bye and take good care of yours and your families and relatives.

Email: neeraj.bhatia@aaradhyagroups.com

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Love – A Healing Touch

I was sitting in my room, and reading a book, suddenly, heard a loud voice, with a authoritative tone, instructing to some one named “Alexa”, to do something and maybe she was not doing in a best manner, it was expected. The voice become louder and louder with instructions, and after a while, i heard a hard noise, like something thrown out of house.

Curiously, I stood up, picked up, checked and saw this was an electronic device. I was thoughtful, who threw it. But it did not take much time, when I heard the same voice, asking me to throw it from my hand, but this time far away.

When i inquired, i found that was “Alexa”. This was first time, i have heard or seen and understand the new world, whose dependency increasing swiftly on virtual assistant devices. Human made these devices, but they want all these virtual devices to work as human, which is not possible, at least till now. Devices do not have heart and emotions, they are programmed, they will understand what we instructed. But our expecations from them to work as human.

When I was in school, in my studies, I got the knowledge that Japan has made a robot, who is working as a waiter. In robots stomach, there was a huge cabin to keep plates inside. Nowadays, we can see a very advanced form of robots, who can do many things.

Most robots today are used to do repetitive actions or jobs considered too dangerous for humans. A robot is ideal for going into a building that has a possible bomb. Robots are also used in factories to build things like cars, candy bars, and electronics.

Sofia, a humanoid like a robot, that’s capable of holding a conversation, became quite famous. Sofia is also unusual in that she’s been given official citizenship in Saudi Arabia and the United Nations title of “Innovation Champion”. 

There could be thousands of fields, where technologies are more useful and definitely they will leave a man behind with its programmed artificial intelligence, where the machine can learn human moves and save it for future use.

But when we are talking about emotions, we are programming our machines to show us how to love. After all, machines are learning from our behaviors, our day to day activities being captured by them and they are adding every move day by day and we are loosing all our real moves because of our dependency on them.

A young guy presented a manlike robot to his ailing father. The robot took care of his father by remembering all his day to day activities. That’s OK, but when the guy does not feel any need to visit his father, to see him a person for long. Do we have any excuse for this? Can’t we see, we are losing human touch?

GOD has given material to use and people to love, and we are loving the material and using people.

We grownup reading and watching play Romeo-Juliet, Laila-Majnu, Shiri-Farad, the symbol of Love, they are still as a living legend for those, who know the human values and believe in a human touch.

I was watching the movie “HER”, screened the first time in 2013, based on artificial intelligence. At the end of the movie, the human doesn’t have any choice, just to return back to humans.

My takeaway from the movie was different. Machine (Operating System) took all the things from humans and then return the same to a human, the only difference was TIMINGS. The machine was appropriate. We as a human makes mistakes, we cannot be so perfect.

Relationships are breaking nowadays because we are comparing everything with machines. Our expectations are on rising, but our patience levels are decreasing day by day.

We need to exercise again, we made machines for our facilities, but now we expect machines to work as humans and our expectation from a human is to work like a machine.

The machine can show us the repetitive action of Love, but the machine can not really love you. We may be loving machines, because of its efficiency, but it can not be the replacement of humans.

We meet someone, somewhere, some day and fell in love with him or her, that become history, we could live our whole life, just to rewind those memories. Every time memories repeats, in our mind, our ties strengthen. This is natural.

Love is a feeling, it touches our heart. Nobody knows when it starts conveying our messages to other people. These messages are not stored in a computer hard disk, it is always spontaneous.

If a person staying a thousand miles far away from us, gets the message that someone is remembering him or her, it is a natural mechanism, it is naturally programmed by GOD. We can give the name of this process like “Telepathy” etc. but can we challenge it? Obviously not.

In this mechanical world, a person does not know the difference between having sex and love. People are programmed to make love. Because they are reading books “How to Make Love”, which is a joke only because these books are giving the education to have sex, not love.

Actually nobody can make Love, because it happens naturally, it can not be prepared. It can not be cooked, it is not a recipe.

The word “Love”, should not be restricted with only one relation i.e. Couple only. The difference between caring and loving is simple, to care you need to remember the activities. But when you are in love, care happens automatically, you do not need to remember anything.

When a person is distracted and reached to his or her mother. A mother understands the situation, without saying a single word. How does this happen? Do we need any machine to be programmed?

A single embrace of a mother is enough to bring peace in our hearts immediately. We feel we are in safe hands. We feel that this”Jaadu Ki Jhappi (Magical Hug)”, is sufficient for us to overcome all prevailing issues. This is called “A HEALING TOUCH”.

Again it is not restricted to any specific relation. It is natural because behind this only one programming is working everywhere and that is called “TRUST”.

We trust on a person in relation and person trust on us and this HEALING TOUCH can be from either side.

Remember, as a human, we are making relations with the machine. Machines are not making any relationship with us. As a human, we need to understand, we need relations with human, which is a natural phenomenon. We need to take care of them. We need to love them and loved by them.

Thanks for reading

Bye and take a good care of yourself and your family.

Neeraj Bhatia

https://aaradhygroups.com/

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