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Trust builts slowly but destroys quickly

A famous saint used to live his livelihood by weaving cloths. He has to work many days and nights to prepare one sheet of cloth. Everybody knows that whatever the situation maybe he will not get angry. He was famous to analyze the situation find the problem and then try to find the solution.

One day a mischevious person bet among his friends and took up a challenge. He told all of his friends, “Today I will show you, how fake he is and how he will get angry today?”

When the saint reached to market, that person immediately approached him and started asking price of the full sheet of cloth. The saint told him the price, but that person insisted, “I want to see the whole sheet before purchasing”. One of the pupils accompanying with the saint, open the sheet of the cloth. That person asked for a pair of scissors and started cutting the cloth into two-part, then again he asked,” What is the price now?”.

The saint immediately understood his intentions but replied calmly the half of the price.  That person immediately picked up the pair of scissors and tore the cloth again into two parts. And again asked for the price. The saint smiled and told him again half of the price from the previous price. That person again picked up the pair of scissors and again started doing the same process.

The pupil was surprised to see that the buyer was tearing his sheet of cloth again and again into half, without the intention of purchasing and the saint was smiling and was telling him price every time. When the process completed and now there was no scope left to tear off the cloth one more time in half, that person stood up and told to the saint, “I am sorry, I do not want to purchase your cloth” The saint smiled again and replied “Its Ok. No issues. As you wish”.

When the person left the place, the pupil asked surprisingly, “You know that he was a mischievous person and he was playing with you. But why you have not reacted? He has destroyed your hard-earned money” The saint smiled that there are two things, “First, he came here with one strong trust on me that I will not become angry in any situation”. “And I tried to build his trust stronger”. “And second, you told right that he destroyed my two weeks hardworking and I have nothing left for next two weeks as an earning. He destroyed my today, but actually, today, he destroyed his future by showing his upbringing.”

Trust can not be enjoyed alone. It is a bilateral relationship. There should always be two parties to start with. When you read in your text bok the friction between two stones can bring fire out from stone. Had you believed that? No, not at all, at least at first time. But when your subject teacher told you the same story, you trust him a little bit but not on the full story. But when you have seen first time by himself or herself, then only, you immediately trusted on the textbook, and the words told by your teacher. The reason is you experienced himself the same you read. so the Trust is calculative. Trust needs proof.

The main difference between faith and trust is that the trust is conditional and faith is unconditional.

You can have faith in GOD, but before starting an airplane journey, you try to get maximum information from all sources about the pilot, about his past experience in flying a Boeing Plane. especially the number of successful journies completed and reason for unsuccessful journies. Actually, you want to be more sure, that you have trust in him.

There are two major dimensions, in front of people before they make decisions on trust. Preconscious, where a person already made half decision with his own beliefs, or experiences or stories heard in childhood. So, in that case, fifty percent decision is already taken by his brain. 

Second is a conscious decision, means calculative and conditionals. It is a slow process. If the condition is agreed to calculation, only then trust starts, but as soon as one condition fails, the trust started shaking and started dropping very quickly.

Trust is built with consistency. Like drops coming in a bucket through tap can fillup bucket only after consuming one whole day, and if the bucket has one hole in it then, in that case, it can take up to one month, and sometimes even the feasibility would be it maybe or maybe not.

In today’s world, trust is used as one of the most valuable currencies among humans. Can you assume to build any relationship without this with anyone? Obviously not?.

Among every relationship, trust is working somewhere in between. People do business, just because of the trust factor. We get married, we pay online payments, we purchase some items, you pay to expensive services, etc..etc… just because of the trust factor.

Well, whatever you want to achieve in your life, don’ start with developing networking, start with building trust among your network. The network will automatically develop.

As earlier said, trust can not work with a single party, it needs two to make four. It takes a lot of time to build. The whole process of gaining trust starts with understanding first. If you do not know a person, how can you trust him?

But this is also the part of the process that a single wrong or unmatured action can ruin any relationship you’ve built over a period of time within seconds.

To understand this you need to understand human behavior.

  1. The human needs to be caring even if he does not want to care.
  2. All humans are internally wired for connection but they disconnected deliberately.
  3. All humans want to feel important.
  4. Most humans like the same things.
  5. Most humans want to trust the same things.
  6. Most humans don’t want to initiate, they prefer to wait.

These are some common behaviors, you can find more.

Every new trust-building process will convert existing trust into a strong belief.

Don’t trust me, trust yourself, believe in yourself only.

Thanks for reading, do send your reviews as usual.

Bye-bye, take care

Regards,

Neeraj Bhatia

neeraj.bhatia@aaradhyagroups.com

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SUFISM – A way to union with GOD

Yesterday, I was sitting in my office when I got a message for a request to call back from a phone caller. I dialed the number, I could guess the caller was between 18 to 25 yrs of age. From his hesitation, I could understand that he is actually not sure about the authentication of his question if he is asking a relevant question or not.

I tried to make him comfortable first and then asked the question. He asked,” I came to know that, you people are organizing a “Sufi Musical Evening” on 4th August 2019. I said, “yes, you are correct”. “Are you facing any issue in booking the ticket, then I can help you?

“No”, he said, “I have a different question?”. And then he asked the question, what I was not expecting from a person of his age. He asked, “Well, Is this a religious program? Are you people organizing something related to one religion”? I asked, “What makes you think like this”. He told, “To me, the Sufi musical program means something relates to a religion.” To conclude its eagerness, I simply asked him, “What happened when you listen to music at home, do you start following the religion of the singer?”. He answered, “No”, I again told him, ” To be judgemental to early is not good and if you are coming to our Musical Program, remember only one thing that MUSIC does not have religion. It airs across the border without bounding”.

The conversation finished with a satisfying note, but I got a feeling that it is very common, these types of questions are prevailing in the mind of people all over the world, at least of this age of people, who are confused in these jumbled words like “Religion”, “Spiritualism”, “Sufi”. But somehow they are not asking these questions to the right person either they are trying to find it through Google searches or in other social media, which does not have any authentication their answers. And somehow they become a victim of fabricated answers, those are far from realities. This caller asked, so he got clarification. But again, if you are a victim of the situation where you do not know, what you do not know, then how can you learn.

Well, What is Sufism?

Sufism means the mystical system of the Sufis. Now here are two major points. One who is “SUFIs” and what does MYSTICAL means.?

Sufi is someone who attempts to be united with God through prayer or you can say that a person who tries to communicate directly with God. Who claims to attain, or believes in the possibility of attaining, insight into mysteries transcending ordinary human knowledge, as by direct communication with the divine or immediate intuition in a state of spiritual ecstasy.

Mystical is relating to the belief that there is hidden meaning in life, and that each human being can unite with God.

mystic is just someone who tries to establish a direct, unmediated connection with a divine force, usually through spiritual practices or hallucinogenic substances. A mystic is made by knowledge, by the opening out of the way whereby the inner splendor may escape.

Now A Billion Dollar Question: Does Sufism connected with any specific Religion?

The answer is “NO”. But to understand this you should know what religion means?

Religion is a fundamental set of beliefs and practices generally agreed upon by a group of people. These set of beliefs concern the cause, nature, and purpose of the universe, and involve devotional and ritual observances.

Interestingly, do you know where the word Sufi populated? The word SAF means a carpet. Since the SUFIs meditated upon GOD on a carpet., Sufism took its birth i.e. pure people who meditated on a carpet. 

But if you look from an Arabic point of view, the word ‘SUFI’ derives its name from another Arabic word ‘SUF‘, which means wool. The Muslim saints who wore garments of coarse wool began to be called SUFI saints.

Religion can not be a religion, which emphasized the theory of division. Now youths are losing faith on religion because they understood that “Religion unites never divides” (धर्म जोड़ता है तोड़ता नहीं) and if religion favors division means it is not a religion, what it is meant to be.

Sufis rejected outward religiosity and emphasized love and devotion to GOD and compassion towards all fellow human beings. They often rejected the elaborate rituals and codes of behavior demanded by religious scholars. They seek union with GOD.

नमाज़े हक़ अदा होगी, खुले मैदान में हमदम, हक़ीक़त को जरूरत है, ना मंदिर की ना मस्जिद की

Sufis are spiritual people. They love the creator, not the creation.

Sufi music is the devotional music of the Sufis, inspired by the works of Sufi poets, like Rumi, Hafiz, Bulleh Shah, Amir Khusrow and Khwaja Ghulam Farid.

To me, music doesn’t have any discrimination, any demarcation, any boundaries. Music does not create any division among religion, caste, color, creed, and languages. Music understands only one language and that is “LOVE”. Music does not have any specific name, we have given a lot of names to it which creates a lot of differences also. But the truth is music is the only way to transport yourself to another world. It relaxes you and if music, lyrics, and voice combination have great command in any of the performances, you can feel heaven on earth.

I will urge all youngsters, you can not deny the existence of GOD, a universal truth, a supreme power. So rather become religious, be spiritual and be feel connected to GOD through music.

Join us in our upcoming event happening on 4th August in Bangalore and we will feel obliged. Book your free passes through the given link. http://go.eventshigh.com/yfjyg

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Love you, Bye-Bye. Take care of yourself, friends, relations and all dear and near ones.

Regards,

Neeraj Bhatia

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99….& Counting Starts Again

When I was in class 5th in my school named Bal Vidya Mandir, Lucknow. There were two books in Hindi Syllabus. “Bal Sahitya Mala” and “Saral Bhasha”. Today I don’t remember the name of the book in which I read that story named “Kuber ka chakra” (The wheel of KUBER). Well, Kuber is famous as “GOD of Money” in India.

I don’t want to discuss here the existence of GOD Kuber. But I want to point out, what I could not understand at that time, but when I saw all this story practicing in practical society, I could understand that our ancestors were really very wise and they knew that how to save the next generation. This purpose is invisible now. Everyone is living his own life. Nuclear families are increasing day-by-day. Today’s generation does not care about their parents, then, how can we think that they will care for the next generation.

Some years ago, I was in Delhi, and I have seen an old richest lady of a posh colony, was busy with some of her workers in her garden. I was curious to know what is going on. When they identified me there, they called me to come and see what is going on. To find that I am curious enough to understand the whole process, they told me that we are sowing “Walnut Tree”. I was inexperienced in agriculture so my straight question was, “When it will give fruit?”. That lady laughed and said. “Your generation always looking for results in the next minute.” I felt ashamed. But I again asked the same question. One person told me,” It will take 7 to 8 years”.

I was surprised to hear that. “How can you assume that you will alive to enjoy its fruit”, that was my direct question to that lady. But when she asked me, the same question in the same tone, I could not give an answer. She asked,” How are you sure, I will not be alive to enjoy its fruit.?”

Since childhood, I was a very curious person. I quickly started looking for a person, who can give me the answer. Then I visited one of my mentors, and a great philosopher “J.R.D. Satyarthi”. He generally called me with the nickname “Young Blood”. When he saw me, he simply asked, “You will not be here alone, what is your question”. I really always appreciated his gesture. I put my question in front of him.

He smiled and asked, “What is the time of happiness?”. I laughed and thought this is a very simple question, and the answer is also simple. I answered, “For me only two times in a year”. “First in ‘Diwali” and second in “Holi”. Now this time he laughed, and asked “Have you understood the question?”, “I am not asking for festivals”, “My question is different”.

I understood, his definition of happiness would be different. But suddenly I remember something and shouted, “I know that”. He curiously looking for an answer. His voice was calm, “Yes, I am listening”. I told “Today”. I was thinking that I have given a philosophical answer to a philosopher and my answer is perfectly right. But he nodded his head in negative, and told “No”.

He said, “You can not catch today alone”. “Today is always a mixture of past and future”. You learn from the past, live in present and plan for the future with some goals.” “Isn’t it?” “Is it possible you can happy today with these two burdens on your head”?

I nodded my head left and right and surrendered, “I don’t know the answer”. He smiled and said politely, “One second before death is the happiest moment of our life”. Now I almost jumped, “But how will I know, the next second is the moment of my death”. He smiled again and reiterated and said: “Even I don’t know”. “Then”, I was adamant to understand the reason behind this answer. And then he gave me a divine knowledge, which is difficult to get in books, you can get only from your experience or from any experienced person only.

He told, “When that old lady was sowing walnut, even she didn’t know if she will be alive or not, but the fact is that you are also not sure if she will be dead or not”. Because birth and death are not in our control.

Ironically, this definition is challenged by some people who nowadays going for cesarean delivery for the birth of their child, and majority decision is just to ensure about their child should take birth in specific day or month and also you can say that people murder people or un-timely death is rising to take control of birth and death of their hand instead of GOD’s hand. This is nothing but living against natural life and also this is like that some people are intruding GODs territory. Well, we will discuss the impact of this later in our other blog.

He emphasized, “I am giving you two-point to live a real-life “Always remember”,

  1. “When you meet someone, the greeting should be like that your greeting with this person is the first time in your life”. And maybe you will never get a second chance in this life for this greeting”
  2. “When you leave anyone, leave as you will never meet with this person anymore in your life and this is your last day or last moment of your life”. You need to practice it on a daily basis, even if you are meeting with the same person the next day.

I was cold frozen. These two statements are easy to read but much difficult to practice in one’s life. You can follow only if you believe in the existence of GOD and also if you accept that all acts are driven by GOD, you are not a doer. Do you know the difference when a person is in “Love” and when he is in an “Enamored” state?

Now come to the point, where this blog starts. The story of “Kuber ka chakra ” goes like this:

A person was passing from a lane, but suddenly he saw that another person is sitting on a hill, which is quite far from his lane. But surprisingly, a wheel was running on his head and that wheel has a pointed sharp piercing nail, a big nail. Which pierced into his head and blood was flowing continuously from his head. He was bleeding badly. His all cloths were blotted and filled up with bloodstains.

He was sitting too far, up on the hill. It was very difficult to reach him, the way was not straight. It was slippery and full of curves. But at last, he reached. He saw that the person was silent. He was not speaking any word. He is bleeding, but there were no marks of pain on his face.

He thought this is strange, he is bleeding but having no pain. He decided to ask him questions. He reached near him and started asking, “What is your name?”. That person told, “My name is Satya Prakash”. Second question, “How many days you are here?”. The person answered, “From last 40yrs”. The third question, “How you survive here means what do you eat?”. The person told, “Nothing, I don’t feel hunger or thirst”. Fourth Question, “I can see that the wheel is piercing and it is continuously running round and round, and in every round, it throws a lot of your blood from your head”. “How this is possible that you spend 40 yrs in this condition and blood is not finished from your body. The person answered,” I will never die and I will never get a shortage of blood.” The fifth question, “Do not you feel any pain?” The person answered, “Yes, only headache”. The sixth question, “Can I help you in any way?” The person said, “No, you can not”, you can leave now, No one can help me”

Now he is completely confused. And he decided to ask the last and very important question. He avoided this question a lot, but now he decided to ask at last. He asked, “How this happened to you?” As soon as he asked this question, the wheel flew to him and placed on his head and started taking rounds. He started feeling a headache. He started bleeding from his head.

He shouted perplexedly, “Why it happened to me?” “I just wanted to help you”. The person told, “I warned you to leave the place, but you did not”. He asked, “How can I get rid of it? The person told, “Only when any person the same as you, will come to you and ask the same question, you asked from me, then you will be free. Now you will not feel hunger, thirst and you will never die, your age will be stopped here only. Ok bye bye thank you, you made me free” And the person left.

It is a very painful story at that age for me. I could not understand it. But, I got its answer only when I started practicing with society and become a part of society. Now try to understand between the lines. It is really very interesting.

In our career or our business, we always try to follow those, who are better than us. Those who already became rich, or living luxuries life, always fascinates us. We fascinate by increasing numbers of USD Dollar. And nowadays social media add fuel to our aspirations by flashing big numbers. but actually, maximum news is fake news or such type of advertisement, where a user forced to believe that everything is fact.

And here the problem starts. When we see anyone, becoming rich, we try to follow him ( In the story he is on the hill for us, very difficult to reach to him). We try to approach him, to understand, how he becomes rich (Questions asked). From his experience he tried to make us understand, don’t fall in the trap. It is a painful process. (the bleeding head and wheel). But when we could not understand and adamant to understand the process, then he explains everything and the money wheel jump on us.

We become our victims ourselves. While you are busy with earning money, you will not get sleep, you will not feel hunger and thirst. You get always a headache. You will not die, because first of all your aspirations need to die, only then you will die. You just want to do the same process again and again to earn more money and more money. This is called a money trap, you earn money and count till 99 and some unexpected expense suddenly comes which consumes all of your savings(99) and then again you start from 1 (In the Hindi language it is called “99 Ka Fer”) just to pursue 100. And this continues till death.

I remember the story written by Leo Tolstoy “How much land does a man need?” If you have not read the story, I will suggest to go through and understand how greed can make the life of a man hell.

Once I asked on phone one of my childhood friends Rajendra, “So, how is Lucknow?’. He answered without any new thought, “My wife is happy, my children are happy, I am happy”. “If my family is happy, means Lucknow is growing and very good”.

In a small statement, he enlightens me on the moral of life. Why we are earning? Just to be happy with family. Then why greed, and lust? Sometimes billion dollars give us the sleepless nights but a hardworking farmer or labor never misses his sleep. And they found them always happy because they do not have anything to lose. And for sure, money can not buy happiness. Agree….???

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Be happy, with you, yourself, family, relatives, friends and near and dear ones.

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Neeraj Bhatia

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Bonding or Burden

7th Nov 2009, the first time, I got an opportunity to visit San Francisco, United States of America, for a client visit. It was a great opportunity for me because that was the first county, which opened new opportunities in my career, and later I visited approximately twenty-seven countries in a row.

One thing was common in all the people of those countries, everybody ready to say “Thanks” and “Sorry”. I was surprised that did they really mean it? Yes, they were. Whenever they realize somebody has done something good for them, or you can say, in their feeling, it was out of the way and generally, people don’t to that, they never take a moment to say “Thank You”. And if they feel they have done something wrong intentionally or unintentionally, they say “Sorry”, immediately.

I remember in my teenage, I boarded in a DTC bus, (Delhi Transport), and got one seat easily because that route was not a busy route. Suddenly I saw that in the next stop there was a huge crowd on-boarded. Everybody got a seat easily, except for one young girl. When I saw nobody is offering a seat to her, I offered my seat to her. She smiled and seated quietly.

But to my surprise, on that bus, everybody started laughing. I was from a different city and I always learned one thing from my culture that if possible, help always to a lady, children or a weak person. So, this act was not new to me. But in Delhi, why it was different? I could not understand the reason for a laugh, but this memory was still alive with me. Till today I could not figure out the genuine reason, whey they laughed.

When our previous Prime Minister of India, Mr. Manmohan Singh came from a trip of a foreign country, he got an opportunity to deliver a speech immediately after his arrival. He said, “I could not understand when Indians are in India, they never use these two words “Thank you” and “Sorry”, but when the same persons are in a foreign county, they use these words frequently”.

It is a very famous saying that there is no “Sorry” and “Thank you” among friends. It may be correct up to some extent only, but how can you leave your culture, your upbringing, your sacrament. I think the people of the entire world is our friend, till then they do not show that they don’t. Does it mean that we will not use these words to the people of the entire world? Not true. No way. If we feel gratitude or pain, these words come out automatically from our heart and this touches others’ hearts also. In my observation, In foreign countries, these two words are frequently used among friends also, why our country is exceptional? Do we really love each other up to this extent, where the sky is the limit? Where these words become useless or senseless.

Your first best friend is your Mother. Do you think you recognize her effort to make your day-to-day life easy? I am sure, so far you have never think of it. Lets us visualize again for all of your family members. Try to remember their sacrifices. I am sure, you are taking all of them granted. because if we did not develop this habit in our life, it seems to us, these acts come in their duty to do that. And our thinking is “What if they are doing”? We will talk further on this in our next blog.

This is my experience, if we use these two words with everyone including strangers, they feel closer, they feel more affinity.

The entire world will say that Open and Close are opposite words, but in real life, we feel close only to those whom we are open with. Or you can say, we open only with those, to whom we are close. True?

This is my feeling that the entire world learned divine knowledge from Indian, it is our heritage. But actually, we forget it. The intruders invaded our country took this knowledge from us, they are using it frequently and we feel ashamed to use this.

Why we take it casual? Because generally when we feel, we are not getting expected response from the opposite side, we become tortoise and if it is reverse we become the fastest runner rabbit.

A few weeks back, it was Saturday, a holiday, somebody visited my office and he was looking for some deal. I saw him, very perplexed because the receptionist was not well trained. He was looking to me for help. I asked him, “Can I help you”? He told, “My name is Ravi, I am here for a deal” and then he asked a lot of questions about the deal, but even though I was not the right person, I tried to give all the answers patiently and completed one tour with him for the entire office. He promised to come back on coming Monday. After one month he came with his CFO & CTO and the deal was done.

The same day, I was sitting in my usual place in the office, when I have seen someone is standing nearby and staring at me. I moved my face toward him, he extended his greetings and introduced himself by making me remember, about his first meeting with me on that Saturday. Frankly speaking, I was completely forgotten about that meeting. Even then when he was asking me ‘Do you recognize me?” I could not.

He called his superiors who was CFO in his organization and introduced me and told him that he was a person whom I met first. Then he introduced me to CTO of that organization. A beautiful bonding generated within some minutes. I simply asked him, “How did you remember me”?

He smiled and told me, “Initially, I thought, you are the main person, whom I need to deal with. but later when I came to know that you are not part of this organization, even then you given your time and patiently given all the answers to my queries”. He said, “Fifty percent of the deal was completed on the day itself, your gesture works for me”. Further, he added, “When you help me to get the elevator, your last two words “Thank You”, made the final deal on that day itself”.

I helped him selflessly, this made day for both of us. I believe, this is nothing to do with that how you got your upbringing, it is something, we need to learn from our school and society. I got these gestures from my parents and my friend circle who practice Indian culture in their practical life.

Multiple times we have seen the photographs shared on social media that foreign doctors bowing their heads in front of the body of the patient who donates their organs after death. Do you really think it works? Well, you can say that a person who left the world, don’t know what respect he is getting after that, then what is the use of it?

Well, think again, actually, they are not giving any tribute to the body of the person, who is no more, they are paying respect to his or her soul. They are paying respect to his or her wish of “Donation”. As well as they are also setting up an example for the next generation.

Don’t you think, we always have a habit to complain, but if we started thinking that what we already have or given by GOD, then we will start thankfully.

8 November 2016, the date is recorded in Indian economics history, the day of demonetization. I am not going to discuss here the merit or demerit or consequences of this event. But I remember one thing that people started saying “In the previous government, everyone is telling one statement that “We do not have anything. And after demonetization Mr. Prime Minister Narendra Modi government made everybody realized that they have a lot of things, now learn the tricks on how to conceal this from the government”. But this joke was really pointing to one important point of our life, and that was “Instead of always complaining. Be thankful for what you have”.

Once a person used to visit the nearby temple for his daily prayers. Every day he used to complain to GOD, that you have not given anything to me. What is the use of his life, if you have not given me a job, I do not have family, I do not have money to survive?

The priest of the temple was very wise. He planned to talk to him. The next day, when he came to the temple, the priest called him and told there is a patient struggling for life, in a hospital and he needs kidney transplantation. Please accompany me to the hospital for a test, if its matches, they will give you a lot of money. That person furiously shouted, “It is not for sale”. Next day again the priest told him that this time the price offer is double, whatever a figure, you have in mind. In no time, that person started cursing to the priest. That was the time, when the priest given him divine knowledge that he should start calculating the price for each and every organ of his body, he could understand easily how much rich he is today. It was an eye-opener for the person.

Not for that person, this is an eye-opener for all of us, who daily curse to themselves and their lives. Besides our body, organ, life, GOD has provided natural resources to use, and that is free of cost, GOD has provided fresh air, which is essential to living, that is also free of cost, GOD has provided water, mandatory to live life, and again this is free of cost. GOD has provided earth to live, and again this is free of cost. etc. tec. etc. Well, start calculating and ask yourself, what if GOD suddenly visible to you and start asking rent for all of those. Any answer?

A child was asking for new shoes, but the father was trying to convince him, that it is impossible for him to purchase this month because the entire salary has been consumed. But the child was adamant. Then the father convinced him to go to school today, in the evening he will try to get a loan from his friend and will able to purchase it.

In the same evening, the father offers his child to visit the market to purchase shoes. But to his surprise child was not ready to go. The child refused to go. After repeatedly requested, the child told that today while returning from school, he saw a child, who does not have his legs. then only he realized that at least GOD has given him beautiful legs, so he can wear shoes, but what if it would not have been. He understands at least he should thankful to GOD, what he has instead of a complaint about what he does not have.

Bring these two words in day-to-day practice. Thanks & Sorry these two words have magic in itself. It will definitely make your life easy and build a strong bonding, which works forever. The burden will become bonding for sure.

Thanks for reading. Send your reviews as usual. I will reply as soon a possible.

Best Regards and take care of you, yourself, family, friends and near and dear ones.

Bye-bye.

Neeraj Bhatia

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Which side of the GOD is?

In Punjab, Majha region, Gurdaspur is a district, where one of my farmer friend residing with his family. He has two daughters. Both got married. One day he thought I need to visit both of my daughters today. He visited his elder daughter first. Her husband was having the business of making clay pitchers and selling it in nearby markets. When he was about to leave, he asked her daughter, “Do you want anything”? She told, “Only one thing, please pray to GOD, that rains should be delayed, so at least our raw clay pitchers get dried”. To sell them in the market is only our earnings”.

On the same day, he visited the younger daughter house. Her husband was a farmer. Everything was okay. He was very happy. He asked the same question to her younger daughter “Do you want anything”? She told “Nothing, but, please pray to GOD, that rains should be on proper schedule time, else, our plants get dried and we can not earn anything this year.

My friend was confused, which side the GOD is? How is it possible that GOD can help both of my daughters.

Are you facing same issue, in your Life? Can you give me the solution? whose side GOD will be?

In the year 2005, I was in Mumbai. Generally, I used local trains for destinations. Because to go long routes through road and stuck in a traffic jam for hours was always a foolish decision. I used four wheelers only for night drives or for my trips outside Mumbai.

I was staying in Malad (West), the day when havoc happened in Mumbai, unfortunately, I was there. It was 26th July 2005, when the rain started and for the next 10 days, it never decreases its speed. I never kept so many eatables in my refrigerator or storage. When it started, I thought it will take maybe the next 24 hours to stop. or rain will slow down and shops will open. And I will get something to eat.

But I was wrong, it continued for a couple of days. Mumbai was on a halt. Everybody was stuck where they were. Offices started to drown, homes melted down like anything. Thousands for Mumbai people were on roads or spread on railway tracks because all the local trains were on a halt. Public transports including private taxi drivers increased fare prices multi-folds. Public Buses were stuck in the middle of the road, all are half drowned in water. Television was airing information minutes by minutes and after some time electricity failed for the entire city. ATMs run out from currencies, dried out. Some machines were out-of-order with error description “non-functional”. I was feeling hungry, but can not go out, because of heavy rain and lashing wind. Online or mobile orders for food were rejected. Then slowly mobile charging got off. Communication was halt completely. Whole Mumbai was at the mercy of GOD.

The same situation continued for the next 9 days. Thousands of people were drowned. Many parts of the Mumbai was half drowned. One of my friends trying to save another friend pulled down by the water. I forget my hunger for those days. If I could hear anything on those days, that was only crying. for all of those, whom I was never familiar with. But I was melted down by their heart throbbing cries.

I found myself always lucky, and this time also I was. The flood water reached only till Goregaon station and before it reached to Malad station, the rain stopped. On that day as soon as the rain stopped along with my friend. I rush towards nearby places to collect the stock of the situation.

I was on my two-wheeler. I do not want to tell a lie here, my first preference was to see if any hotel, any shop is started preparing food, or can we get anything which can be eaten immediately.

Wandering to find food, we reached near Goregoan(W) station. Everywhere water and water. All roads were flooded with water. Home dashed to grounds. We can see utensils, clothes, electric and electronic appliances, money, educational certificates were floating on the water.

And then I have seen first dead body, swollen with water. And then second and third and so on. I cried aloud. “What the hell is it? How can GOD do that? Suddenly, I have seen some more dead bodies but they have cuts on their bodies. Some bodies didn’t have hands, some didn’t have fingers. I was shocked to see that. Then I have seen dead bodies of children floating on water.

My friend was a local resident of Mumbai. I asked him how it is possible? How can rain cuts somebody hands, or neck or fingers? He kept his eyes down. I understand he had an answer but he is hesitating. And then, when he started telling the truth, my eyes getting wide opened, with surprise and anyone can see the combination of anger, pain, and sorrow in it.

He told me there are some people who are so selfish, that they never leave any opportunity to loot. I believe as soon as these houses dashed grounded and people started crying for help. These goons took advantage and tried to pull out their ornaments from their bodies. Everyone can not be a good swimmer. But these goons are well trained in it. Here you can see, some necks and fingers are cut down because maybe bodies are old more than 24 or 48 hours and are swollen, they found it very hard to get their ornament to be pulled out, so they cut their hands, neck, ears or fingers. But in some cases, this is also possible that when somebody is asking for help, then instead of giving the help they cut them from throats, so they can collect their ornaments, etc.

What an inhuman and insensitive act? Disgusting…My emotions were so high that If I could have a sword in my hand and if I could get them in front of me, definitely I would cut these goons in pieces, to make sure they are not alive.

But the question here is again? Which side the GOD is?

One day I did catch my train from Dadar station. It was late evening. It was a harbor lane. I saw a group of ladies entered in second class compartments having big cane baskets on their heads. They were having some fruits in them, and most probably they return after selling it in another station market.

I observed all ladies put their baskets on the ground of the compartment, but one lady kept it on her head only. Curiously, I asked, “where are you going?”. One of them told the name of the station. I wondered, it is too far, and it will take approximately 35 more minutes. I simply asked, “You know how much time train will take to reach there”, they told the same estimated time. Then again I asked, “why she is not grounded her basket”, “why she is keeping it on her head”. Other ladies laughed at her and said, she will not. My surprise was increasing second by second. I asked again, “Why?”. Another lady said because she is thinking that she should not increase the load on the train. And she is reducing a load on the train by keeping his burden to herself. I never heard that logic before. I wanted to convince her, she is wrong, but somehow kept quiet. They were speaking in the Marathi language, which I was not well versed.

But I started thinking, for the public it is a foolish act, but in my senses, it was an innocent act. She is so kind by heart, she can not give trouble to anyone in her life.

But the takeaway from this incident was remarkable. The same situation is happening with us on a daily basis. We are taking all the loads on our heads, but not leaving it to GOD. Maybe we have a doubt, which side the GOD is?

On the rout of my office, generally every morning I can see a huge rush of the public waiting to board on public or private buses. As soon as, the bus arrives, a huge bunch of crowd started struggling to enter from the entry gate. They tried to push others backward, so they can get inside, and the haste is only because they want to grab a seat. There is no mercy for old people and ladies or children. But when they were pushed back by others, they again started trying but at last, when they are stuck in the crowd and pushed back again and again, then they leave it on GOD, felting helpless, there all efforts get failed just due to others overpower them. Similarly, in our life, we try hard to use all of our power to be fulfilled our dreams, but when we failed repeatedly then only we leave everything on GOD.

In my view, this concept should be reversed now. Leave everything on GOD and then try hard. I am sure, you will be succeeded.

A student usually entering from the front gate of the college, find side gate open today, this was restricted but just to save her time, she entered from that gate swiftly as no attendant was there to stop him. Suddenly, she realized all other students are exchanging greetings. She was surprised. She was thinking of what happened today? Am I different today? I come to college daily, but nobody recognizes me, but what happened suddenly, I am famous overnight. Everybody has a single sentence today “Good Morning Mam”. And suddenly she realized, I have taken different paths today, maybe side lane is especially for VIP type of students or something else. Anyways, she felt proud and try to show that she is VIP. Sometimes she waved her hand and accepted greetings from the student by slightly bowing her head down.

She became conscious when she realized the senior teachers also bow their heads and said “Good Morning Mam”, and then the first time she moved towards the backside to see if there is anyone, who is walking along with her. And to her surprise, it was her College Dean, who is walking behind her. And in a surprising situation, she bowed her head to exchange greetings with her.

This was her time to understand, that all greetings were for College Dean Mam, and she was thinking that it was for her.

We are doing the same mistake again and again in our life, thinking that we are the doer for all types of acts in our life, but actually, the doer is GOD and we are taking all the credits.

When we surrender our all efforts to GOD, then suddenly we started getting all, what we never think of our dreams.

I was sitting in my office on my desk, and in front of my desk, one of my senior colleagues was sitting. One of our office colleagues entered from the main door in our room and she bowed the head and threw her smile towards us. My senior college has exchanged greeting by saying a long “Hi”. Simultaneously I smiled at her. She smiled but I realized only when a strong voice swims in the air from my backside with greeting “Hello”, that she is exchanging her greeting to her boss, who was sitting just behind me on the sofa set. It was neither for me nor for my senior colleague. But actually, she got three smiles when she was expecting only one from his boss only.

Now come to the main point, from where this BLOG started.

Which side of GOD is? We have seen in all of our above-mentioned incidents, we don’t have any direct interaction or communication with GOD.

Well, from where you will get a direct mobile, or cell number of GOD, who will give you? Do you have any agent’s contact number?

I was very weak student in 5th class. And especially in Geography subject, i never understand the difference between latitude and longitude. I need to write class test on monthly basis. And the day of result, my class teacher calls the name and announce the marks obtained. I was the only person who knew his obtained marks in advance. So it was my developed habit, that I need to call all the names of GOD, and requested them multiple times, to give me just pass marks this time only and promised them that I will work hard for next time.

But every time my prayers spins in air without any results. Every time i felt ashamed and murmurer that GOD is helpless and can not do anything.

It was class eighth, when first time, i heard the statement, “GOD helps those, who help themselves”. And this was the first time I started thinking in a different way. I have had experienced multiple times that all the prayers are of no use. GOD never replied either in affirmative nor negative. Actually, he never answers and my all prayers were unanswered to date.

That was the turning point of my life when I started believing in myself. I started working hard on me and till today, that boy who was very very weak in Geography subject has already completed his visit for the 27th country last year. So, at last, GOD started helping me, when I started helping myself.

Now, summarize the whole article. In spiritualism, it is very clear that we are surrounded by supreme energy. And those who know that, what it is? They understand life. Those who know the definition of GOD, they can understand very smoothly, where is GOD, and whom I am talking about here.

In religious places, have you ever seen GOD speaks? No, I am with you. But actually when we heard a statement that “He is the person, from whose body, GOD speaks”. Why GOD need any other body to speak? Agreed. This statement is nothing but showing the experience of life for the person in the subject.

GOD is omnipresent. GOD is LOVE. GOD never favors or disfavor. GOD knows only justice.

A person, who is asking GOD, to help others, don’t have self-interest behind this prayer. And he is a pure heart person. He has nothing to do if GOD fulfills his wish or not. Because he is not asking for himself. He is asking for another person. He doesn’t care.

From today onwards, if you start asking help on any issue from GOD, always ask for all mankind, and just leave the decision on him that if this is good for us or not. The request would be simple, “I don’t know what is good and bad for me, I don’t know, how to pray, and I don’t know which is good for me, so if this is good for me please fulfill it, else you know better what is good for us.

Do you know what happens actually here? Simple, you and your family also counted in whole mankind. So do not be self-interested by asking GOD to favor you only. If it will good for the entire mankind, it will be fulfilled, if not then leave it to him. Have Faith.

Now, if anyone asking you to pray for his or her best. Start pray for entire mankind. How can you ask favor for anyone, when GOD don’t like favoritism.

Thanks for reading.

Please send your reviews as usual, i will answer as soon as possible for all of your questions.

Bye bye,

Take good care of you, yourself, relatives, friends and all near and dear ones.

Regards,

Neeraj Bhatia [ Direct Email ID: neeraj.bhatia@aaradhyagroups.com]

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I LOVE YOU

“I Love you” when you hear this statement, can you explain yourself today, what do you feel? A melodious musical string, playing only for you. A cool breeze where you are floating. A lovely playback song in the atmosphere transporting you in a different fantasy world.

No, hmm.. Something is wrong with you.

Yes…. Oh. Absolutely something is wrong with you.

The answer could be wrong in both ways, if you don’t know WHY it is happening.

One day I was standing in front of the mirror, and I felt, I wanted to do something, some action, and some activities, just to please myself. And then I started frowning, I was really enjoying, the next step was to do some steps like you are doing some exercises in Gymnasium, or some dancing poses. Literally, I started enjoying it a lot.  

I was in a discussion with Mr. Nirmal Joshi, a renowned editor, in Delhi. Why I was feeling like this? Why it happened to me, but I enjoyed it a lot. Am I getting mad”? He laughed a potbelly laugh.  He told me, it is your new incarnation. I could not understand the meaning of this. “What does it mean”? I inquired, my curiosity was in full swing. He described, “To reach this stage, a person needs to take a thousand birth, but you realized it in this birth only, so I use the word “Incarnation”. I still could not understand then he further stated. “When you are frowning who was happy”? I said. “I was happy”. ‘When you are trying to dance who was happy”? I thought about why the same question. I replied, “I was happy”. Suddenly he became serious.

Then he directly came to point. “Who are you to be happy”? I simply replied, “I am Neeraj Bhatia”. He pointed out to the fan running exactly top of us. “Can you identify what is running?” I smiled “It is a Fan”. His next question surprised me “Where is a fan?” I pointed out towards fan. He ordered to switch off the fan to an office boy. Now his question is, “Can you tell me the breakups of the fan?” I started, “it has three blades, one motor in center, two cups in a different direction, there are a lot of electronic products inside, and I cannot identify”. “There is a rod, in which it is hanging, a capacitor, I can see, who control its rpm”. Then I point towards the switchboard, “There is a regulator, to control its speed”. I stopped describing, then he asked again, “But where is the FAN?”

Now the first time I realized FAN does not exist anymore, and the whole of our life, we are thinking that we are using FAN. Then he taught me the lesson of divine knowledge. “Remember my words, NEERAJ does not exist in this world”. “This is the name we have given you to identify you, else you are no more”. “You are a cage of flesh and bones only”. “Try to identify yourself, you will find you have a heart, two kidneys, one skull, two hundred six bones, and one lever and so on…. But where is Neeraj, Neeraj does not exists.

 I murmured, “Then who is Neeraj”, who was happy when I was frowning?”. He smiled and answered, “this is your SOUL”. “Today you identified yourself”. “You are not a body, you are a soul”. “Everyone in this world, cannot reach this stage to understand this”. “You understand today”. “When you hurt someone, you hurt his or her soul only, when you make someone happy, that is his or her soul only”. “People in this world can not realize, but few people know this and they work whole life to make them understand, but nobody has time to get this divine knowledge”. “And if you will try to tell someone deliberately, they will laugh at you”. “And this is continued from last six thousand years and this will continue, till this world exists”.

I was bewildered, at loss of words. But I understand, when we love someone, we have direct interaction with the soul, not with the body. It can be any relation: mother, father, brother, sister, wife or children.

The person could be of any color, creed or religion. It could be red, black, and white, brown. It could be of any religion. But our interaction is with souls only.

There is only two types of people in this world either “GOOD or BAD”, else there is no discrimination exists. Divisions did by us by using the cast, the creed & the religion, etc. GOD does not divide us. We made the division.

Everyone has a first love in life. Love at first sight. Generally, when we are in “Teens” it happened. We never understood it is infatuation or love. But frankly speaking, it is actually a real love, because even you itself don’t know, what is happening. “The phrase ‘love is blind’ is a valid notion because we tend to idealize our partner and see only things that we want to see in the early stages of the relationship. In this stage, you are unable to see any issue, any social problem.

Most people give the name “Infatuation” to their first love because ninety-nine percent fails to react, and a failure person knows how to satisfy himself by giving false arguments. The main reason it fails majorly because no one understands what is happening and how to respond to feelings. Well, I can use the word “Inexperience”, here because later when a person becomes experienced, then they know how to play this game. Yes, then this becomes a game for them. Some people get frustrated and some people become clever and then crooked enough to try the same tactics on others to grab the second chance, then third then forth and so on.

In first love you are a pure heart person, you don’t know the feeling of a cheat. You find everything positive in it. You cannot see the shortcoming of your partner. And the most important, even if it fails, you remember this in your whole life. Love is spontaneous, it happens. You cannot make it. It is not a recipe, jotted in the kitchen book.

What does the statement “I Love You “means? Most people do not know or do not want to know the actual use of the full statement.

The full statement is “I am falling in Love with you”. We are habitual of finding short cuts in our activities and here also, we use short cut “I Love You”. Because the real form or nature of the statement is clearly telling that the couple in love, should be first admitted to surrender to each other. Then only the relationship starts. But if this is lacking from either side, believe me, one person will suffer most time and then the relationship will come to an end abruptly.

Now I am coming to the main point, why this BLOG starts and how we need to understand these human behaviors.

Do you know, besides Science and human behaviors, what is working behind to reach this stage?

You know, actually this is an IDEA only.

Now you will say no way, what is the relationship between a human relationship and idea?

Okay, let me explain further.

Man is a social animal. It means you are a family man. If you are staying in a family, this means in a home, you have at least, a mother, a father, a sister and a brother (younger or elder), and absolutely a wife and your children.

Now sit straight….

When you hug your mother? What is your idea behind? You are humble, you are soft. You have an idea that you should feel the warmth in the relationship. She has no hesitation to grab you in her hands because she has given you birth and nine months you have spent in her stomach. This hug is full of love without any self-interest.

When you hug your sister, what is your idea behind? If she is younger than you, you are full of responsibility, care, and love, but if she is elder then you, then you are feeling respect, love, and care for her. Overall, your hug has responsibility, love, and care for your sisters.

When you hug your girl child, what is the idea behind? You are full of love and enthusiastic. You want to see a seed to become a plant, you are caring, full of love.

But what is your idea, when you hug your wife? Obviously, all types of scientific chemicals inside your body heads up and you are a person of a different world. The same is happening with your wife also. You both are in a fantasy world. Full of Love. I am talking here only for a truthful relationship, not for lust or attraction. This is called a real attachment.

Its time to summarize, what we talk so far in the above lines? You hug everyone in your family, the most common feeling in all the hugs was LOVE. But for all relationships, you didn’t borrow new hands from another person? Agreed. You have used your same hands, but the mind is getting relationship ideas from an idea generated in the brain. I am not talking about chemical chemistry here. I am talking about IDEAS, and that is the most important part of all the relationships. This is called your personal feeling for every relationship.

Do you feel something alike, sometimes it happens? When you are walking and getting a feeling, that someone just behind you is a very important person. You move your face back and it surprised you, yes, you are correct, he is here. Sometimes it happened, you see one face and getting the negative feeling, even you do not know him, and you never see him or her before. Sometimes you are getting very positive vibes to see a person, the same again you never met earlier, but the feeling is pure. You don’t know why and how?

Love is a feeling, it is not an emotion. Emotion is a mental state associated with the nervous system brought on by chemical changes variously associated with thoughts, feelings, behavioral responses, and a degree of pleasure or displeasure. There is currently no scientific consensus on a definition.

Feeling is enjoyed by your soul, not your body.

When you touch anybody, through your hands, then only, it becomes a relationship. Your touch describes the name of a relationship and this could be Mother, Sister, Wife or children, brother, Father, etc. otherwise love is only love a feeling only.

Does it mean a person has no hands, can’t describe its love for their relationship?

To answer this, I will say, please go deep a little more, a step further, where you find real love is always silent. it never speaks. Real love does not require recognition. Real love knows no boundaries. And the most important, without speaking real love understand each and everything.

When you get feelings for somebody, do you think, you can describe any relation? No, feelings are only feelings and I would recommend to live with your feelings, not with relations. Relations are fragile, but feeling is forever. And this is the only reason, people remember their first love forever, till death.

Now, when you say “I Love You” to someone. Ask yourself first. Do you really mean it what are you saying? Do you faithful in this relationship? Do you ready to surrender yourself? If anyone of the answer is “NO”, then it is a “BIG No” for you. You are not serious enough. You are not committed. Stay away. This is the only game for you. And you will get similar players from both genders everywhere in this world. Find out and enjoy it.

Thanks for reading. Send your reviews as usual. I will reply as soon as possible.

Bye-bye. Take care of you, yourself, your relations and near and dear ones.

Always yours,

Neeraj Bhatia {direct email: neeraj.bhatia@aaradhyagroups.com}


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Is Ignorance Blissed?

Professor and Philosopher Mr. Joginder Singh Puri, United States, was a great personality and most knowledgeable person, I ever met in my life. Unfortunately, I could not get multiple chances to meet him, but whatever chances I got, all were memorable and in my mind so far. His speeches transported me to another world. The first time, I met with him in Delhi, it was a small introduction, but when he came to Lucknow, my home town, I got the chance to spent time with him for two days. One day in Lucknow and another day in Kanpur.

When he was leaving for the United States via Delhi, I still remember the day, I was the last person, who got a chance to talk to him face to face.

My question was very simple but complicated: I never try to hurt anyone intentionally, but always got hurt by others. Why?

He always used to hold a white shawl around him. He smiled and open his shawl with both hands, and told me to enter inside. I did not want to left the chance to embrace him. He was a father figure to me. He answered in a soft voice just near my ears. “Don’t be too good with others, as a result of you become bad for yourself”. After a pause, he whispered, “But I am sure, you can not be able to practice this in your whole life, because you are different from others”

I am feeling no shame, to say that, he was correct because till today, I am trying to practicing his first statement in my life and every time I failed to do so, and his second statement becomes true.

Below mentioned two statements, which can change anybody’s life, I heard from his speech the very first time in Delhi.

  1. One who knows that he knows, he knows not
  2. One who knows not that he knows not, how can he learn?

It is a Persian saying with 4 meaningful lines, but I think life could get a new meaning, if anybody, compelled himself to accept only these two lines mentioned above.

First point is describing clearly, that nobody in this world is perfect. And if anybody thinks that, messages go directly to him that just wait another person is coming behind you, to prove that you are wrong.

The second point is interesting, where the author clearly mentioned, if you do not know that you are living in dark, then you do not know the values of light, so before started thinking out of the box, you need to understand what is in the box.

What you don’t know, can’t hurt you? Now you can see that the second point has another positive aspect. But this directs us towards the complexity of relationships.

Before coming to this subject, I want to touch an interesting topic here. My office is on the 13th floor and I can see direct traffic from huge glass windows. One day I was having my cup of tea and standing there. Traffic in all four lanes is running continuously, all are moving properly. I could realize that all are running on the same road, and there is no conflict, because, all are obeying traffic rules, running their vehicles in the discipline.

As an observer, I can see that half of the traffic is moving in the right direction and half of the traffic is moving to the left direction, but actually, both are in the RIGHT direction. There is no surprise in it. This is the same road, but the movement of the traffic could be the opposite side, one way is wrong for one person, which is the right way for others. What if the right direction vehicle driver thinks that the left direction traffic is going wrong? And left direction vehicle driver thinks the same. Does it impact? No, because from their point of view, both are correct and as well as both are wrong also.

So, What is the takeaway from this? The same statement can have multiple meanings because our viewpoint could be different from person to person. In a particular class, teachers or preachers can give you the same lecture. but the takeaway could be different.

A butcher is allowed to give death to certain creatures if he has a professional license but what if he murdered a man, the viewpoint differs again here. Army person can kill hundreds of enemy persons, but if he killed any civil person, the viewpoint differs.

There are a lot of people, who says that if we are addicted to drinking, drugs or cigarette, what harm in it? Your viewpoint is different and then ours, we are right and you are wrong. My request to everyone is very loud and clear. Give me one benefit of consuming this? By giving the lame excuses of STRESS, you are only trying to find the escape route because you know yourself very well that if addiction is controlling you, you yourself better know the consequences. Smoke in or smoke out cannot solve your issues. You have to find the source of stress and find the route to resolve this. Please don’t give lame excuses to themselves.

Today you are participating in a rat race, and do not want to lag behind, so accepting it as a status symbol and you are trying to use addiction against earning money or status. The day is not far away when you will realize your mistake. Diseases will burn your today’s earning. So the future is: “Status” will burn, “Money” will burn, “Health” will burn, “Relationships” will burn and at last, You will be burned. Then what’s left, ASHES only. So your journey starts with ashes and ends up with ashes. Smoke will merge with smoke.

Now I return, to the point of the complexity of relationships. Do we need to avoid the truth and apply ignorance? I think yes, not all, but definitely in some cases. Willful Ignorance or willful blindness can resolve a lot of issues.

If I know the truth and also know that if the truth comes out, there would be massive chaos, don’t you think I need not disclose it? There are thousands of other ways and different timing to disclose it. I should wait until then. Sometimes lingering on the issue, provides marvelous solutions.

Truth is always bitter, but if you will say without appropriate words, without proper timings, only you will be blamed.

When I was studying at my graduation, I attended a class from my economics professor, Mr. N.K. Mishra. He pointed out a very beautiful point, which I never forget and always use in my day-to-day life. He wrote on the blackboard that “Old Currency throws out the new currency from circulation”. Frankly speaking, I could not understand the value of this sentence then. But when see it in practice, I understand that most corrupt people in the system, throw an honest person out of the system.

I do not want to use the “Corrupt” word here for any specific community. My intentions relate it to all the spheres or areas of life, where our thought and our ideas have already been junked up badly. It needs purification of Ideas, purification of our thoughts.

Do we know, why people give a milk bath to the huge status of their GODs, which wastes hundreds of liter of milk? No, even I don’t know. We do not need to send purification messages to our idols, instead we need to purify our ideas, our thoughts.

Inventions are always for the benefit of mankind, but, we always able to find its disaster side. For example, Can a missile starts without manual intervention to kill thousands in a single shot? You will say yes, it can be programmed to an automated setup. Agreed, but who is behind it to set up as automated. Obviously, an only single idea generated in anybody’s mind to kill thousands. So missile is not bad, its invention is not bad, its application is also not bad. How, when, where and whom against it is planned to use, could be bad, because here IDEA is bad, that thought is bad. Intentions are slaves of our ideas, and this needs purification, obviously.

A beggar, who was blind, sits near the pedestrian road, where hundreds of people crossroad daily, but nobody extends his support to him. Hardly he could get enough money to survive. A lady used to go to the office from the same route, always give some money to him. One day she picked up his board and read aloud “I am blind, please help me”. She thought a while and in the back of the board, she wrote something and left for her office. The next day she was passing by and saw enough money in front of the board. She started smiling and left for office.

What else she wrote on the board? How this change happened? Simple, she reverse the perception of the thought. She wrote “It is a beautiful world, but i can not see it”.

People want to be positive, want to hear positive, want to speak positively. You know why? Because they do not have guts to hear the truth. This only depends on the perception to see the situation? Why can’t we accept that negativity is also a part of our lives. We need to overcome, that’s all. To ignore negativity and only hear positivity slogans, is not going to solve the problem.

It is a very old story when electricity was not reached in all villages. In one of the villages, as soon as the sun sets, people picked up the vessel from the kitchen and starts throwing darkness from his house to the roadside. Whole night all the members of the family have to practice daily the same thing. As soon as the sun rises, they all start to cheer up and give congratulations to each other that they win. They have thrown out darkness from their house Now the darkness is out for the day.

This is the height of ignorance. They need only one candle to remove the darkness, but to get that candle, they need the light of knowledge. The same practice is going on nowadays in the whole world. We do not want to hear straight forward truth, but yes, if the truth comes with beautiful packaging of fake stories, it is always welcome.

I am not sure, why should we ignore the truth? We should realize that all roads going upwards, coming downwards also. If you will throw a ball upward with your strongest power, even then it will come down. Earth has gravitational power.

The same happens to us. Whatever heights we can grab in our life, status, money, power, etc. At last, the earth will bring us down and we will be buried down to the earth only. So can you see any reason to become a balloon for some days with malpractices?

At last, I will say only one thing, that, not always, but occasionally in some of the circumstances, to accept ignorance is bliss, but only, if and if, you have knowledge that you know the ignorance, and you have a proper plan to tackle this in the future.

Just remember “To kill ignorance, you should know that you know the ignorance, else before you can kill it, it will kill you”

Thanks for reading…..

Bye bye and take a good care of you, your family, your relatives and friends and your near and dear ones.

Neeraj Bhatia

Email ID: neeraj.bhatia@aaradhyagroups.com

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Father’s Day?

I want to start this circle from my childhood. My existence in this world is because of my parents. My parent’s existence? obviously because of their parents. Then why Father’s day is separate and Mother’s day is separate? What is the confusion?

Let us make it simple now. If both were not present in my life, my existence was impossible. In Indian culture, we always used to speak in a single word for our parents ‘MATA-PITA”, “MAA-BAAP”(Mother-Father). And here also you can observe that the female name is always in front of a male name. For example: “Siyapati Ramchandra” (Siya means Sita), “Radhe-Shyam” (Radhye for Radha).

So I am trying to analyze here when we were acustomed to respect too much to our females, then who made them separate?

It seems to me that events are the main culprit, they separated them. Mother’s Day? Father’s Day? Then a new event comes into existence “Parents Day”. Funny? Beautiful business model by business organizations: First Divide and rule and then makeover with a new one and rule again. So here 1+1=3 instead of 2. Three new events and all are emotional, connected with brisk business.

We will not talk here about, these events and their purpose to start with. We will go one step ahead and try to find what should we learn from these opportunities, what we missed so far.

Late Mr. Niramal Joshi, Renowned Editor in Delhi, once asked me a question: Suppose a father is beating his child when a child is asking for a costly toy, which father’s pocket can’t afford it. what do you learn from this? Why? What is the reason?

I answered respectfully that “he is not beating his child, actually, the child is an only medium for him to bring out his frustration about his poor condition.” I felt obliged when he blessed me a lot. My answer was not a very big achievement for me, it was simply reading between the line. And this is possible only when you know what is LIFE.

Nowadays, we realized the new generation is running behind a fake world. Their heroes are those, who can do impossible things within seconds. Even they do not have any relationship with their Hero’s, even they accept them blindly. All their heroes are artificially branded, which pushed them to run behind them and then they try to use those products, what their heroes are using notwithstanding their heroes have never used it actually.

Have you tried to find a hero in your father? If your father has enough money or resources to fulfill your demand, he will definitely do it. But if he is not able to, even then he will try to go out of his comfort zone to fulfill your wish. Just believe me, parents are equally important. Both amicably can able to provide you Love, Care, and Security (Internal or external).

In a plane journey, during strong turbulence, when all passengers started crying and calling GOD, to help them to survive. Passengers noticed a boy was sitting peacefully and playing video games. They asked if he doesn’t have a fear of death. The boy replied peacefully, I know, nothing is going to happen. How come? passengers surprised. He told that I know the pilot is my father, and he will survive me anyhow. This is called real bonding between the duo and confidence between parent and child, which no dictionary in this world can explain.

Let me introduce “Aaradhya” today, my only daughter. As a Father, I can see myself as a “Hero” in her eyes, when, she runs to open the door, on reaching my home from the office. When she cries and with tears in her eyes, she is looking for my shoulder, I know she is confident, she will get a safe place. When she wants to grab my lap to sit and feel she is sitting in Maharajah’s Seat. For her, it is like heaven. She closes her eyes on my chest and gives a feeling, I don’t need more, I am lying down on the rose bed. When I toss her in the air, she doesn’t afraid, instead, she laughs, because she is confident that she is in a secured hand.

When I accompanying her anywhere, she poses as a queen, because, she realizes that father is next to her. She feels her all dreams are going to be true. She thinks all the toys in a shop is hers only. I have seen sprinkling eyes when she introduced me to her friend by saying “Ye Mere daddy Hain”, ( He is my father). You can see the hight of possessiveness and love. When I am not in a good mood, only she realized first and try to reach to my cheeks through her little fingers and embrace me around my neck to give a supportive lovely hug, which obviously brings tears in my eyes.

I am a whole world for my daughter Aaradhya and she is a whole world for me.

In this world, everyone has a right to keep a relationship or break relationships anytime. But this is a fact that relationships never end. When the next generation surpasses the older generation, only then they understand the issues faces by their parents.

In the upbringing of their children, parents can ready to lost every penny, what they earned in their life, but nowadays, this is a bitter truth that people don’t care about their elders.

A father had two sons. Both got married. After some days, they started quarreling. Then one day, the proposal comes from sons, the division of property. Father finds himself unable to find the solution and accepted the solution. But due to this incident, he faced a severe shock and left the world after a massive heart attack. Both sons decided, that they can not afford the expenses of their mother’s living, so for 15 days the mother will stay with the elder son and another 15 days mother will stay with the younger son.

At this stage, you will not get any wrongdoing in this story and you will not get any message instantly, because this is a story of every home, nowadays. Let me conclude it now. Due to this decision, Mother has to go for forced FAST, for all the months having days more than 30 in a year. Doesn’t it seem shameful? And believe me, this is a reality of today’s smart generations.

Lemony Sniket wrote somewhere that ‘Sad truth is that the truth is Sad.

Maybe, those of us having our parents with us, can’t take this subject seriously, but I will urge everyone to give a thought once, what would if we haven’t? Realize for those, how they feel, who don’t have parents or one of them.

If moral values were the part of our upbringing, and we are following it till today and this is still in our practice, please keep it up.

But if we are still not realizing, please have a visit to nearby Old Age Home, and realize once. We can not deny the truth that at last, we have to reach till this age and if this stage? then what? What we will sow, will reap the same, Isn’t it?

Please respect the elders and pass your love to youngers.

Happy Father’s Day to all my readers.

Thanks for reading..

Bye and take good care of yours and your families and relatives.

Email: neeraj.bhatia@aaradhyagroups.com

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Love – A Healing Touch

I was sitting in my room, and reading a book, suddenly, heard a loud voice, with a authoritative tone, instructing to some one named “Alexa”, to do something and maybe she was not doing in a best manner, it was expected. The voice become louder and louder with instructions, and after a while, i heard a hard noise, like something thrown out of house.

Curiously, I stood up, picked up, checked and saw this was an electronic device. I was thoughtful, who threw it. But it did not take much time, when I heard the same voice, asking me to throw it from my hand, but this time far away.

When i inquired, i found that was “Alexa”. This was first time, i have heard or seen and understand the new world, whose dependency increasing swiftly on virtual assistant devices. Human made these devices, but they want all these virtual devices to work as human, which is not possible, at least till now. Devices do not have heart and emotions, they are programmed, they will understand what we instructed. But our expecations from them to work as human.

When I was in school, in my studies, I got the knowledge that Japan has made a robot, who is working as a waiter. In robots stomach, there was a huge cabin to keep plates inside. Nowadays, we can see a very advanced form of robots, who can do many things.

Most robots today are used to do repetitive actions or jobs considered too dangerous for humans. A robot is ideal for going into a building that has a possible bomb. Robots are also used in factories to build things like cars, candy bars, and electronics.

Sofia, a humanoid like a robot, that’s capable of holding a conversation, became quite famous. Sofia is also unusual in that she’s been given official citizenship in Saudi Arabia and the United Nations title of “Innovation Champion”. 

There could be thousands of fields, where technologies are more useful and definitely they will leave a man behind with its programmed artificial intelligence, where the machine can learn human moves and save it for future use.

But when we are talking about emotions, we are programming our machines to show us how to love. After all, machines are learning from our behaviors, our day to day activities being captured by them and they are adding every move day by day and we are loosing all our real moves because of our dependency on them.

A young guy presented a manlike robot to his ailing father. The robot took care of his father by remembering all his day to day activities. That’s OK, but when the guy does not feel any need to visit his father, to see him a person for long. Do we have any excuse for this? Can’t we see, we are losing human touch?

GOD has given material to use and people to love, and we are loving the material and using people.

We grownup reading and watching play Romeo-Juliet, Laila-Majnu, Shiri-Farad, the symbol of Love, they are still as a living legend for those, who know the human values and believe in a human touch.

I was watching the movie “HER”, screened the first time in 2013, based on artificial intelligence. At the end of the movie, the human doesn’t have any choice, just to return back to humans.

My takeaway from the movie was different. Machine (Operating System) took all the things from humans and then return the same to a human, the only difference was TIMINGS. The machine was appropriate. We as a human makes mistakes, we cannot be so perfect.

Relationships are breaking nowadays because we are comparing everything with machines. Our expectations are on rising, but our patience levels are decreasing day by day.

We need to exercise again, we made machines for our facilities, but now we expect machines to work as humans and our expectation from a human is to work like a machine.

The machine can show us the repetitive action of Love, but the machine can not really love you. We may be loving machines, because of its efficiency, but it can not be the replacement of humans.

We meet someone, somewhere, some day and fell in love with him or her, that become history, we could live our whole life, just to rewind those memories. Every time memories repeats, in our mind, our ties strengthen. This is natural.

Love is a feeling, it touches our heart. Nobody knows when it starts conveying our messages to other people. These messages are not stored in a computer hard disk, it is always spontaneous.

If a person staying a thousand miles far away from us, gets the message that someone is remembering him or her, it is a natural mechanism, it is naturally programmed by GOD. We can give the name of this process like “Telepathy” etc. but can we challenge it? Obviously not.

In this mechanical world, a person does not know the difference between having sex and love. People are programmed to make love. Because they are reading books “How to Make Love”, which is a joke only because these books are giving the education to have sex, not love.

Actually nobody can make Love, because it happens naturally, it can not be prepared. It can not be cooked, it is not a recipe.

The word “Love”, should not be restricted with only one relation i.e. Couple only. The difference between caring and loving is simple, to care you need to remember the activities. But when you are in love, care happens automatically, you do not need to remember anything.

When a person is distracted and reached to his or her mother. A mother understands the situation, without saying a single word. How does this happen? Do we need any machine to be programmed?

A single embrace of a mother is enough to bring peace in our hearts immediately. We feel we are in safe hands. We feel that this”Jaadu Ki Jhappi (Magical Hug)”, is sufficient for us to overcome all prevailing issues. This is called “A HEALING TOUCH”.

Again it is not restricted to any specific relation. It is natural because behind this only one programming is working everywhere and that is called “TRUST”.

We trust on a person in relation and person trust on us and this HEALING TOUCH can be from either side.

Remember, as a human, we are making relations with the machine. Machines are not making any relationship with us. As a human, we need to understand, we need relations with human, which is a natural phenomenon. We need to take care of them. We need to love them and loved by them.

Thanks for reading

Bye and take a good care of yourself and your family.

Neeraj Bhatia

https://aaradhygroups.com/

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