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Mirror Never Speaks Lies

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In our childhood days, we use to see mask worn clown, always become a laughing stock for us. But now In today’s Global COVID19 situation, everyone is bound to wear a face mask.

A face mask covers our nose and mouth. This legal order will continue for some time, and after that again people will allow roaming without face masks.

But what about the mask a person wears behind a face mask. Yes, you understood well, I am discussing here a person behind a person.

No doubt, we have multiple personalities, we are multitasking people, but when we use these features to satisfy evil within ourselves, then we know very well that we are misusing the virtues.

This is a true statement that we speak lies in front of the mirror, but the mirror, never speaks lies.

Even if we are wearing face masks. “The only sensible way to live is without rules”.

Remember, rules are to make life easy to live in society, but this is not true for your life. You are given your life to enjoy, why it should bound in rules. You are a free spirit. Live like whatever ways you want to.

There are some important points, I want to share with you, which I have learned from my life

1. Everyone does not get the opportunity to get a second chance to meet life. So enjoy the life utmost. Life is precious. We should always have greed for lovely moments. Life has chosen you, you have not chosen life. Even you could not want to take birth in this world, but you are here and enjoying that is the truth. So value it.

2. It could be a funny incident, but when initial days, we face any problem with our computer, we learned to switch off for a while and it starts working again.  Why can’t we use the same trick with our life?  Well If you face issues, mental stress, depression, just switch off for a while. Try to rejuvenate your mood with other activities. If you stick with it, it is not going to resolve, but sometimes if you do not care, it comes in the right way.

3. Generally, we run to get in peace outside the world, but actually it is within us, nothing is outside. You have heard some preaches about hold horses of your mind, but I will suggest, never hold. Let your mind travel. wherever it wants to go, whatever it wants to do. Do it with it. I bet, you will feel calm and peace within you. Do not try to buy serenity and peace of mind, it is already within you. you never care for it, so you are thinking that it is gone somewhere, but this is not true.

4. Well if you are a parent, you are blessed. You can enjoy your childhood again with them. so don’t disrespect them. You need to make your children free. Again, I am not telling to accept every demand raised by them, but you need to be a child with them to understand to read their mind. You can enjoy your memories with them. Life is just to see your past and smile, but do not regret, what you could not able to do then, try now to do all you want to do and could not able to do.

5. This is a bitter truth that you cannot make happy everyone. Do not try to become good for all. If you are good, you will do to help them whatever you want to do. You will not ask anyone if you do or not. Well,  if someone has a problem and you don’t have an answer, just pray, you can not do more than it. Sometimes our Help is usually not helpful, it makes them toxic. You need to understand the difference between “help, helpless, helplessness “and “good with goodness”.

6. Never compare your inside world with other people’s outside world, it makes you worse. Comparison is a poison. It never comes alone, it will bring along all types of misfortune, which you never expect.

7. Sometimes, you want to produce your views on any topic. But you think it is not in presentable mode. It is ok, start writing. When you start writing, you will be surprised to see that you can write not only your views, your truth, your vision, instead, you can write your songs, your stories, etc. etc.  Do not write to please someone, write to please yourself.

8. God has given us so many things free of costs, like air, water, land sky, and this earth. When a farmer starts farming, it needs to tear if land in many parts, and then it sow seeds. But if you realize, even then land always gives us beautiful fruits and grains to eat. Land does not take revenge, it forgives us about our deeds. Earth is a forgiveness school, we can learn forgiveness from it, but this is always helpful to begin it with forgiving yourself.

9. Start realizing every moment of this life. The earth is moving every second, but we never realize, it does not mean it stopped moving, we realize only with feeling when day and night replaces by the sun, we realize when the weather changes. Realize every movement of grace, which changes us and heals of our world.

10. Try to go for roaming outside, if possible, I will suggest roaming the whole world once. Meet with all types of creatures. Learn different languages, meet thousands of emotions, learn to live within the jungle, learn to live alone, learn to live in-crowd. learn to dance, learn to show your happiness. enjoy your depth of the heart.  We have only one life, but there are a huge number of people and spices, we can not gain knowledge of all in one life. Try to lean worship from nature. It is endless.

In last, I will say, start living at least now. Don’t wait for a moment, take a moment in your hand to enjoy.

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Neeraj Bhatia

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What Is Your Story?

Do you remember stories heard from your Grandma, in your childhood? Have you ever surprised where it comes from? Let me tell you, every story has a story. Let us discuss how?

During a course in Film Direction at Film and Television Institute of India, Pune, I taught by my faculty about the various levels of a story. The lesson was “How we choose stories to make films?”.

Obviously, there is a huge difference between real life and reel life.  There should always some criteria, else everyone could make one film at least for himself or herself. He taught, a story is judged by below four levels :

  1. Plot Level
  2. Psychological Level
  3. Political Level
  4. Mythological Level

Every Friday, we get information that multiple new films are screening this weekend. Now OTT platform is also established, for example, Netflix, Jio Studio, Amazon Prime, etc. These all are approx 250 in total numbers. Hundreds of newspapers are publishing daily. Thousands of books are publishing every year.

I started thinking, from where these people get stories on a regular basis. “Is there, any treasurer of stories somewhere exists?” “How can it being produced?”

My mind blinks, “The formation generates in our MINDs”. But the question is, if everyone can produce a story, so all are story makers and storyteller.

Is this possible? Well, I think I am on the right path.  Yes, we all are producing stories every day. Not every day, every hour, every minute, every second. We all are actually story writers. That is a different story that actually we don’t know that we are doing because it is not deliberately, it happens automatically.

When we are in conversation with anyone, something is cooking in our brain very fast, maybe it is as fast as, sometimes our mind could not able to read it compare to the speed it is generating. At the same speed, sometimes we forget a lot of things. Isn’t it?

Once I asked my mentor Professor Joginder Singh Puri (US), “GOD has given us a beautiful mind for learning, judging, and invention, but don’t know why GOD has given us the habit to forget”. He smiled as usual and told me “Actually we are lucky that we can forget a lot of things, think about the situation, where you remember all the things, can you easily forget your insult done by your very close friend. I bet you can not, so, in that situation, you should be thankful to GOD to give you the gift of forgetting things”. I got the point, he made me unanswered. If you haven’t read so far, I will suggest reading my blog No-where is Now-here”

Our mind is so hardworking, that even it works while we are asleep. It takes care of our dreams.

Expert says that we want to do a lot of work in one life, but everything is not possible, so our subconscious mind produced stories every night. A lot of stories.

It is rare we remember all the dreams, but if it is, just allows me to say, you will laugh a lot at yourself.

Our brain cooked a lot of unusual stories. Have you heard the word “Day-dreaming”, yes, you are thinking right, we can cook up stories any time, even in days also?

The question is why we cook stories?

The answer is very simple, we cook stories for our existence. Maybe you don’t believe it, but this is a real truth that we live because our stories want us to live.

I have heard a lot of stories from my Grandma. And all are live visible before my eyes to date and they will end with the end of my life.

Well, the fact is she never told me the stories of fairy tales, instead it was real stories from our history. You know, I realized it the first time that history is also a story only when I heard a lot of stories about warriors, sacrifices, bravery, slavery, Independence, etc.

I still remember my childhood days, when I insist on my father to buy a horse for me. He laughed and assured me that it would be available on my coming birthday as a gift. It never happened. It was a joke for him, but it was a reality for me. I was living in on those stories somewhere in my mind. I remember I felt very bad on that day when my father missed the promise. This is the impact of stories, we love to live it.

If you recollect the childhood of all famous people in this world, you will find one thing in common in their life and that is they heard a lot of stories in their childhood.

Bhagat Singh becomes martyr because he heard stories of slavery, torture by English people upon Indian civilians, he heard stories of brave soldiers, he understood the difference between slavery and independence.

The great Alexander wanted to conquer the whole world because his mother always told stories to do so. She told him that you are born only to win.

Stories make us alive, else we are a dead person.

The story could be heard by you in your past or you are playing any role in any story at present or you have weaved a story for the future in your mind. But that is for sure, you are a part of a story.

Everyone exists because there is a story behind it.

Scientists make a story and start pursuing it, sometimes it reaches its end, or sometimes his end himself ends his story. But that is for sure that every innovation in this world has a story behind it. Only then this proverb can be correct “Necessity is the mother of invention”. Necessity brings a story and then invention starts.

Issac Newton reached its gravitational theory because there was a story of fallen apple behind it.

Why we create stories?

We create a story to prove our existence. And because we exist, so again we create stories.

Believe me, if we will not create stories we will die, we will feel helpless to do anything, our brain will die, and sooner we will no more. And if we would be there, we will become mad.

We exist because the story exists and the story exists because we exist.

One of my friends and a beloved personality Mr. Dilvar Singh Chugh was the owner of the GRAND HOTEL, at Grant Road, in Mumbai, India. Once I visited his hotel to have a cup of tea. Then the very first time I came to know that he is a great poet, lyricist, and writer.

On those days, I wrote my first poem in the English language, I thought this is the right time to have a discussion on that. I recited my poem, but he cut me short and started asking why I used the word “Harmony” here. He was a professor of the English language and conduct classes in his spare time at weekends.

The discussion started between us about the correct use of the word ‘harmony’. He was trying to convince me that harmony is like all strings come to one place and producing a piece of music. The combination of simultaneously sounded musical notes to produce a pleasing effect.

By his version harmony is to bring different colors together and to prepare a piece of art. As another example: his logic was about the garden full of flowers, where are different colors of flowers exist, and produces harmony.

I was not ready to buy his logic, for me, he was telling the meaning from the dictionary, but the dictionary can not understand emotions. 

My definition of harmony was completely different from his version. In my version, I want to go into the depth of the heart and want to bring out the real meaning. 

For me, the only artist can understand the meaning of perfection.  A musician, or an actor, or any artist can not work properly if we will not make him free from all boundaries. Well, boundaries could be anything like, our thoughts, our budgets, our limitations of instruments, etc.  Let them free and allow them to fly, let them get drench in their art, definitely, they will come up with their best, else it would be compromised.

Now for a second, assume the condition of an artist, who is trying to prepare a piece of his art, with his full skill. You know, multiple times he gets into a situation in which inconsistent elements are present. He knows very well, there is a contradiction of statements, a contradiction of ideas or features, they are opposing each other.

He knows everything but actually he is enjoying the contradiction and this is his real art. He does not want to get rid of them, he wants to enjoy with them. They are not obstacles for them, they are supporting them. Because contradiction suggests harmony.

Look at an example of our home, there are multiple members staying with us having different ideas, if this becomes obstacles for us then it will become chaos, it will mess up everything, but the intelligent senior person in the home will find harmony in these contradictions. Only he knows how to handle this situation, how it turns adversity into an opportunity.

Harmony is not a disciplined or professional note, explained in the textbook, it is not given to us by a teacher and we need to follow it as it is suggested. the whole idea behind it is to accept the contradiction and enjoy it.  

We are looking for harmony in men and women, we try to find harmony in day and night, but actually harmony exists in the poet’s minds with confliction of words in his poem, it exists in a musician melody, it exists in a storyteller’s plot.

The whole idea of contradiction or acceptance of contradiction is telling a story, but this is not a resolution.

Now look at, all the discussed ideas earlier, in a new way:

Day and night meet at horizon, this is not a harmony, this is a contradiction and we need to accept it to generate harmony.

A story is a contradiction, the universe is a contradiction. Everything is a contradiction. If you accept it then it becomes harmony.

So these are not producing harmony, instead, you are producing harmony by accepting the contradiction. And we should not confuse harmony with a resolution. It is absolutely not.

You can only understand the contradiction, accept it, and enjoy within a single piece of a song, within a piece of the story, within a piece of any skillful art. And this is actually harmony. Resolution is finite and harmony is infinite.

I will suggest more reading my previous blogs:

Is Negative Positivity worst?

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Take care, Bye Bye

Regards,

Neeraj Bhatia

Direct email: neeraj.bhatia@aaradhyagroups.com