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If you can’t measure it, it doesn’t exist

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Professor Joan Freeman, Ph.D., Middlesex University, UK is a distinguished British psychologist working for the development of human abilities to their highest levels. When I was looking for an article published on 30th Jul 2007 I came across a quote written by her “If you can’t measure it, it does not exist”.

I found this quote resemblance with the quote given by business management expert  Peter Drucker -“If you can’t measure ityou can’t improve it.” Both quotes have the one-line in common “If can’t measure it“.

It was a really interesting thought to pave my way to explore further. I remember the habit of intellectuals, I heard a story in my childhood, the story of King Akbar and his courteous Birbal, when Akbar wants to find the most intelligent person in his kingdom, King Akbar ordered one pot of milk to be poured into a pond by every person for all of his courteous at one night. And all the intellectuals thought in the same way that everybody will pour pot full of milk, what if I will pour water. It will mix in hundreds of poured milk and nobody can recognize his identity.

The next morning King Akbar found that the pond was full of water, even not a single person poured milk in it. What is the takeaway from it? Everybody who thinks he is intellectual thinks, in the same way, irrespective of others. Their parameter of measurement is the same. Let us take an example of a corporate word. If you tell something very specific to a member of your team and make him responsible to communicate the same to other members, you may have an experience that purpose and meaning of message loss in between communication because everyone tries to add his/her own words in the same message. Here again, the parameter of measurement is again the same, all are over smart thinking I can communicate in a better way. We got the same teachings in our classroom from our teachers in academics, but remember the takeaway is always different. I took something and my classmates took something else. When you analyze the reason, you will get that

              “The knowledge weighs upon the wisdom, the simple words lost in the quicksand of experience.”

I have posted the same quote “If it can’t measure it, it doesn’t exist” to my Facebook post. I got a number of phone calls, and everyone was asking for clarification. “What does this statement mean”? I simply asked “Tell me what do you understand”? My purpose was to reach their takeaway context. I was not surprised to get that, everyone was thinking differently.

Let us take one common question, the maximum people want to clarify is “GOD can not be measured, but it exists“, how will you justify this?

Well, to my experience, people always play with the existence of GOD, this is a favorite topic in the whole world.

Let us assume, ask a simple question in public “How big the GOD is?”. I bet you will get different answers. For some people it is 6ft, for some, it is 60ft, 600ft, and go on. Why they are giving answers like this? Because this is the image they are carrying with them. It could be a statue they are recalling from any nearest temple where are visits daily. It could be any other big statue generally they used to see from their daily office route from the office bus from the flyover. It could be their assumptions. But that is for sure, everyone is carrying one measurement.

Their mind fed up about GOD’s identification in their memories since childhood through Calendar pictures, framed pictures, clay statues, etc. Religion wise their statues of their GODs are different, but they have some measurement in their mind for sure. In some specific religion GOD could be on the seventh sky and for some people it could be only limits up to their religious book. Measurement could be different, but their faith is intact. Come what may you should not play with their faith. Because faith does not have any religion, but every religious person has faith.

I remember one incident, one day I was sitting in a large playground, many groups were playing different games. Then suddenly one group came and started flying kite. Soon after some minutes we can see a number of kites are flying in the sky and everyone was looking at their own kite only. They want to take care of their own kite only.

A small question came into my mind and I went to that group introduced myself and ask the question “How big the sky is? In a sudden spike, unknowingly there were a number of fingers pointing towards their kites. I got my answer. People say there is one sky in the universe, but a fraction of seconds before, I have seen hundreds of skies through children’s fingers. Every child had one sky. Their sky had their limitations it is not limitless. The limits of their skies were up to the maximum height of their kites. I understood every child had a measurement of the sky. A Million dollar question? Who is giving instructions to give these types of answers? Obviously our mind. So what if I want to get rid of my mind. How could it be possible?

Once I heard somewhere film director Shekhar Kapoor said    

                           “Panic is the great access to creativity, this is the only way to get rid of your mind”

Initially, I could not understand, why he quoted like this, but soon I realized he is right. Everything evolves and revolves around the mind. Our limits start from the mind and extents up within the mind.  Who makes the decision within you? You, yourself, or someone else? Well, everyone says “MIND”. We use our minds to make decisions, in maximum situations. And what about your heart? Sometimes people want to make decisions from their hearts, but it is always overlapped by the mind. Isn’t it?

Sometimes you really want to get rid of your mind. Because the mind has the knowledge, a library of information so it weighs upon wisdom. It means it will not allow you to take a fair decision, then what we need to do?

I will repeat the same activity “Get rid of your mind“, and to do this “Push yourself in a panic situation“. It is not a joke, it happens regularly with us, but we don’t realize.

Analyze a situation:

When you have not done anything wrong and everyone tries to blame you for any specific decision. You are crying internally, but unable to cry in public, you are in a situation where you need to maintain decorum. you are trying to convince everybody one by one, but nobody ready to be convinced. At this time you are in a panic situation. You want at least support of one person, who can stand up for you, by you. You do not want to take a decision from the mind, you want to deal with it with your heart. you want to talk heart to heart. But when you find yourself failing in all situations, then only you start thinking about GOD. you want to pray. You want to access of universe, you want to send your feeling to them through the universe. You want to tell them you are honest, you are pure. you do not have malafide intentions.

             “When you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.”  – Paulo Coelho

You heard the above-mentioned statement earlier. But this time you do not want to read this statement, you do not want to be heard this statement again, now, you only want to feel it. Let the universe give you access and help you.

Here is the only solution for you. You should not hold yourself, you are already in a panic situation, let chaos come and go, that moment would be the honest and pure moment of your life. If you try to hold again, it means you are using your mind, you are obstructing the universe to helping you. Let all of them free, the truth will come out organically. Let’s wait and enjoy the moment.

When everything is done and somebody is asking you what happened to you. You don’t have an answer, you could not be able to answer, because you do not remember anything, something happened automatically. you could not understand what happened, but it happened.

The situation could be in a cricket match; six-run hits on the last ball by a cricketer. It could happen with a football player, a goal that happened in the last 20 seconds. It could be you are saving somebody from an accident just nick of time. It could be your destination arrival one second before the door closes. It could be cracking the interview with the last question, win the quiz without knowing the answer, just by choosing an option from given options. it could be anything, which you think beyond your limits.

Let us take another example:

Suppose you are a musician ( I am taking an example of a professional, where one is an expert in his profession). You are ready for a big concert. All the preparations are done. Till yesterday night you were full of confidence. Today morning you are feeling something is missing, but you have not lost your confidence. The entire team is your responsibility. You are giving instructions and everything is running smoothly. The concert timing is from 8 O’clock in the evening.

Since evening you started feeling panic. You are a confident person, you have so many successful concerts stories with you, but now you are feeling panic. And in this panic situation, you start praying to the universe, “Give me Courage”. “You have chosen me to complete this task, but I do not know how it will complete, help me to complete this task”. Now you bring yourself in a panic situation. Now you are expecting something to happen and you will be through.

Someone can say, you surrendered yourself in front of the universe. I am not using the word “Surrender” here, because when you know that you have the ability to do something and you believe that you are a chosen one, you are not in a surrender position. The reason is simple because you remember that you are the presenter of this concert. To surrender yourself you have to forget completely, who you are, you should become slave, you should become a puppet. You will obey an order without raising any question. The concert could be successful, or it could be hit by the worst situation, you should accept it. Only then you could be eligible to surrender. So here if you know that you are doing the task and you are chosen, it means at this point you are in a panic situation and you are accessing the universe to ask help. It is your trust which makes you successful.

I do not want to use word faith here, because faith is always unconditional, but trust is conditional. Here you are asking help from the universe because you trust your instincts and you want to make it successful so the whole universe will help you to succeed. Most probably at any age of yours, you have asked a question from yourself. How far this universe go? The answer you found was very simple “Forever”. And then you started finding the meaning of the word “FOREVER”, and I believe the journey of your search is still going on till date. Isn’t it?

Can’t you think here, who has created the Universe? If the universe is so powerful and it can answer our prayers then how powerful the source would be, who is giving source to the entire Universe. Suppose a woodcutter is going to cut a tree with his own capacity. He is full of confidence. He is using his full energy in every shot, but after some time, he feels low. He thinks to cut this tree alone is not possible, he should bring manpower. Before leaving he wants to take last chance. He prays to the universe and asking for help. Suddenly in the next shot, the tree dashed to the ground. Has he got some extra power from anywhere?

Do you think a woodcutter alone can cut a tree with his own axe without any help from the universe? No, absolutely not. But which type of help the universe provides? From where this extra poser comes? When all the sources of the universe and the master source, who is giving source to all sources of the universe allow only then the whole universe becomes the atom of the axe for that moment when the final cut happened.

We always wait for that “Moment“, because only that moment is the most powerful moment in the whole universe. At that moment the whole universe stands still for a moment and all forces in this universe started helping you only and only for your task.

Master source always helps you, it is the same source who made the universe, and when you connect with the source, you are eligible to get that moment from the universe. And this moment is the measurement of his existence. It is within yourself, people try to find him outside themselves, it is within the universe, but people try to find him outside the universe, it is alone and it is all in one. It is endless, it is infinite.

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Want to Retire @ 50? Now Impossible is Possible

  • A person asked: “Money, Money, where are you honey; I want to retire with your fire”.
  • Money Smiles, “Catch me, if you can” Gold spreads everywhere, I am there; I am here”.

So, you want to retire at 50? Let us calculate it between 45 and 50 somewhere, so you will get five more extra years to enjoy. But just remember, retirement does not mean, no work, It means enough combination of active and passive income in your kitty to relax and easily covering emergency and all types of unseen unavoidable circumstances while you are enjoying your luxury life.

Some days ago, I met with a middle-aged couple, who could not gather enough money in their whole career life to be able to purchase their own residence. They both lived a well-maintained luxuries life, with a high profile job. They visited so many places in the world, but never think of to purchase their own home. They thought, they would be earned enough money at the time of retirement, so they can purchase their own home, wherever and whatever they want.

Now, what actually happened:

  1. The real estate price continues up. So whenever they want to purchase, start to bargain and every time they felt that property is a little bit costly.
  2. The inflation rate went up every year
  3. Their savings were not enough to beat the pace of inflation.
  4. They want residence matching with their lifestyle, which seems not possible now
  5. Financial institutions denied a home loan to them because of their overaged factor.
  6. Their children were well settled and they prefer a nuclear family, so they left both of them.

There was an incident that happened personally with me when I need money in an emergency. I sold all of my Shares, stocks at half of the price from the price I have purchased 10 years back. I thought I mistook myself as a great financial managed person. For the last 10 years, I was thinking that I was managing money, but actually money was managing me. It was an eye-opener for me. I am failed to manage it, but I learned a great lesson and that was priceless.

So here we will discuss only two points “How to make money” and then “How to manage money”?

Let us start:

What are Your Only Options?

After completion of our schooling, we have three options for earnings:

  1. Become an Employee
  2. Become a skilled Professional
  3. Become a businessman, an employer and provide jobs to others

But what actually we are missing in your school days, we will discuss further in the same blog.

Our Normal Reactions to Purchase

Let us analyze a situation:

I am offering you to buy something very costly. You have below options to give answers.

  1. I can’t afford it, I can’t buy it, I am not so rich, I can’t think even dream of it. (Helpless)
  2. How I can afford it? (Denial mode with a little surprise)
  3. How can I afford it? (Thoughtful process to find the way, to get it, to own it)

In the first two statements, you blocked your road of growth. The only third one is practical because it forces you to think over it, to find ways to fulfill your dreams.

Common Attitude about Money

You can find a lot of persons saying, “What is in the money”, “Money is not everything”, “GOD gave us a lot of wealth, so why to worry for the money?” Another one, “I literally not interested in money”. “Money is secondary in my life”. “Money does not matter for me”.

One more example, “Job! I have enough parental money, I am doing the job just to spend my time”. A very enthusiastic person is stating, “I am working, because I love my job.”

This is the fact of the life that “You can not avoid money”, but similar you should not be attached to money as a real thing. Money is power, if it is in the wrong hand, it could be enough to mess-up. But if it is in the royal hands, every single buck will become gold.

These all rubbish statements. Without money, no one can survive. Only blessings from elders and from GOD cannot fulfill your appetites. Just remember Money is a Power and you have to work hard to earn it. Here we will talk about Work Smart instead of Work Hard.

Every person has a weak and needy part of the soul and that can be bought, and every individual also had a part of his soul, which is strong enough that it could never be bought. It is the only question of which one is stronger?

Are you writing your own Fate or depends on your Karmic Fate?

Do one exercise with me. From today onwards ask yourself one question daily, “Where is this daily activity taking me”? “Am I doing all the right things in my life, and if yes, then the million-dollar question, “Why all odd happened to me only”.

Analyze today. “If life is pushing you or you are pushing life”. Generally, life does not tell you anything it always pushes you, throw you, and break you, just to stand up.

If you think your senior, your superior, your boss is a problem, then try to show them your best part of working, and even if there is a problem, then you don’t have an option, just to change them.

Else, if they are right and your problem is only yours, then you are in a problem. You have to change yourself. Then you need to understand the problem is within you, and the solution is also within you.

Change is Inevitable: Either for you or for Situation

This is a universal truth that it is not easy to change others, but this is also true that to change yourself is also not an easy task as we think of.

You cannot teach a new trick to the old dog unless he wants to learn. But this is not for others, just apply this idiom up to yourself. It is not easy to change habits either if it is laziness, or indiscipline or the love to get a salary check at the end of the month after doing minimum work.

This is also a bitter truth that most people become the slave for money and then curse their superiors or bosses always. You need to realize this truth now or never.

The world is filled with talented people, but why they are poor because they don’t want to use their talent or maybe this is also true that they don’t know they have talent.

If really you want to learn a lot in a single life, within a single organization then move yourself department to department to learn more new things, not only for the job or to get a hike, but to be self-sufficient one day.

Because a job cannot be a long term solution for all of your needs, it is only a short term solution for time being.

When you are short of money, you always started thinking and talking about money while eating, wandering, sleeping, playing, etc. Many are working just to get over the fear that if they will not work, they will lose the salary or wages, then what about expenses, who will pay for them?

What is Money?

The money is not real, the more you think real, you will work harder for it. Don’t work for money, let money work for you. Some people work for money but for some people, money works for them.

Run for money is nothing but fear pushes you out of the door and desire calls to you to come in the door.

Our Mind is a powerful asset, and this is real money for us. We need to train it, so it can earn for generations. If you have a problem with money, and you are running behind money to collect more, than, more money will not solve your problem.

The more you will get money, the more you will find yourself in debt. Sometimes money can solve some problems for the time being, but intelligence solves all types of problems at the root level.

Emotions for Money:

Use your mind and emotions in your favor, not against you.

Most people have a price just because of emotion. And emotion is nothing but fear & hunger. Fear of insecurity of money. It could be a loss of a job or no money at the end of the month to pay bills. So just to overcome this fear, they work hard. And then hunger to get all things, bring pleasures in life. Well, hunger can be changed with another noun i.e. desire. People do more work to full fill their desires. Isn’t it?

To spend your life living in fear and never exploring the dream is like punishing yourself. On another side to working hard for money and thinking that it will buy all the things, which will make you happy, is also punishing yourself for nothing.

Learn to use your emotions to think, not think with your emotions.

The best example of fear and hunger is the Stock Market. If you are trading in share market and putting your hard-earned money in different deals and started praying then you are making fool to yourself. It is not business, it is a gambling.

Buying stocks with a long term vision with financial literacy is good, but when you sell it out just for a fear of market declining, it will not work. And if you are in profit and you are looking for more and more, that is greed. And both are harmful.

The difference between Informed and Uninformed

Investing is not buying, it is more knowing, what to buy, when to buy and how to buy. People think we will earn money while we will sell, but actually investing is to know, you should be in profit, before investing in it. So in a layman language cut your cost before you buy.

                                        Human life is a struggle between ignorance and illumination.

Who are your public relations officer? You yourself. You should search for Information & earn self-knowledge, only then you can understand what you do not know and what you know.

Recognize Yourself:

Workers work hard so they do not get fired from the job, and employers pay just enough so a worker does no quit. Ask any colleague “I am going to quit”, do you want to come with me”. Only the honest person will speak out, “yes I want to but what about my job, who pays my salary, next month my promotion is due. So I want to, but I am not”.

How to Manage your Money

Learn to Manage Yourself:

Need to learn 3 Management aspects to win yourself:

  1. Management of Cash Flow
  2. Management of System
  3. Management of People

When I was in the job, I faced the same issue. As soon as the month completed, salary credited to my bank account, the first day of the new month, all money shows outflow. I can see only all debits in my bank account? Where had the money gone? Finish. Cash In-and a Cash-Out took only 24 hours. So money was with me only for 24 hours. I never understand the point number two. What is the system? Actually, it is nothing but to understand the logic of demand and supply, not for any specific thing or item, for all types of things in the world, even this is applied to humans also. The third point is interesting that who is people to be managed? None, but you, yourself. Learn to sell yourself, learn to market yourself. You as your skills are actually salable commodities.

If you think you are lacking some specific skills, just learn to work with a person more than knowledgeable than you. It is called the synergy of a professional specialist. If you will learn nothing, do not worry, you will have a bright skill to learn indirectly and that is, your communication skills will improve, and you will become a Subject Matter Expert. Doesn’t it priceless?

You could be a good learner only if you could become a good seller, you could become a good marketer, and after all, if you could become a good teacher.

Be Honest Today & Ask Yourself:

  1. If you have purchased your house, or planning to purchase your house. What do you think about it? Will your house is a liability to you or it would be a good investment for you.
  2. At what date you are paying you monthly expense bills? Is it the first day of the month or the last day of the due date?

Don’t Chase Money, Let Money chase you

In the previous section, you answer for point number 1 is, “An Investment”, then you are pretty good, but if the answer is “Liability”, you have already missed an opportunity to become rich.

In the previous section your answer for point number 2 is, the first day of the month, it means as soon as your salary credited, you start paying you expenses, and won’t allow your money to grow. If you are paying it before one day of the due date, you could have at least earned bank interest for some days. If you are a businessman, do not pay your taxes first, pay your taxes before the last day.

Don’t become what school making you, try to be what you want to be, what you should be.

Intelligence solves the problem and produces money. To understand this let us dig a little bit more about active and passive income.

Active income is nothing, but income coming from your day to day work, it could be salary, commission, business income, etc., which needs your presence.

But passive income is income generated by you, and it does not require your presence, for example, bank interest, etc.

What are the business categories where you can earn passive income?

  1. Rental Income
  2. Income from Fixed Deposits, Bonds, Promissory Notes
  3. Income from Royalties like music, book writings, bloggers income, story writing, scriptwriting, etc.
  4. Income from Stocks
  5. Income from investments to a small business as a partnership or equity sharing etc…etc…etc.

Recognize Your Powers:

Every person should learn and understand three powers:

  1. How to save yourself in all type of emergencies
  2. How to earn money when you don’t have any support from others
  3. To learn Who I am, what you know, what you don’t

No doubt, you are a born Intelligent person, but it is possible that other side of this world, somewhere one more person already born, is more intelligent than you. Find him and give him employment and learn from him.

Join schools not to design yourself as a good employee, let school proud of you by producing an employer, who can give the job to many employees.

No one is stopping you from making money, but this is always an emotional decision. Don’t trap yourself in it. You should not work for money, let money should work for you. 

Losses come in life to give you a learning experience:

Do not count your losses with a single word. For example: When you buy a house and it becomes your liability then it means: It is Loss of time, Loss of additional capital, Loss of Knowledge, Loss of Information, Loss of opportunity cost.

The first house should come up with a planned way so it can become your asset and it generates income. This house will bring the second house as your residential house.

Networking is for Giving not to take:

From my parents, I always learn one thing, “You should part a little percentage of profit for charity” So earn then you give. But life shows me help those who cannot help you in return, this ends up your expectations and only then it counts in Charity, else this is a business. So it is reverse now, “Give without any expectation and then you will earn.”, and this is not only for money, that is true in all sense of worldly affairs. Try it from today.

Pick up BAD HABITS within you and KILL them forever

  1. Fear: Losing money is a phobia. Learn to cross the line. Don’t bury your failures. Convert disaster into an opportunity.
  2. Cynicism: Uncheck Doubts and fear creates Cynic. Cynic person criticizes and winner analysis. Find a good superior Boss/Manager/Professional/Agent etc. Who are masters in his skill? Learn how to stop and then when to stop, your fear will remove. Don’t focus on I do not want, instead focus on what you want
  3. Laziness:  Become greedy, you will never feel laziness. Ask yourself “what is in it for me?” and then your mind starts to exercise to find something. Be hungry, your mind is enough smart to get you in.
  4. Educate yourself: Do not use your arrogance to hide your ignorance that you are not educated enough to understand financial jargon. Start educating yourself today.

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Regards,

Neeraj Bhatia

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“Nowhere” is “Now-here”. Is It?

There are two famous quotes given to this world by a famous person Andrea Bocelli.  “Nowhere. is…. Now Here” and  “All that counts in life is intention“. The person, who went through pain in life, only that person can understand the happiness of life. He born September 22, 1958, an Italian operatic pop tenor and a classical crossover singer who has also performed in operas. He recorded seven complete operas (La boheme, Tosca, Il trovatore, Werther, Pagliacci, Cavalleria rusticana and Carmen) and some various classical and pop albums.

He born with congenital glaucoma, total blindness came to Bocelli at the age of twelve, after a football accident. He saw the darkness of the life and then for him “Life was “nowhere”. When he understood the aim of his life and become successful with God gifted skills then this quote comes from somewhere inside “Life is now here”.

This quote was misused by a lot of people in this world, just for their vested interest. Somewhere I find an advertisement quoting that the career life was nowhere but it is now here. Smartest people use these words successfully misleading a large crowd by saying that  “GOD was nowhere for you but GOD is now here for us.”  Don’t you feel surprised to hear this?

Nov 20, 2019, 05.22 AM IST, now the date is memorable and recorded in history, when Supreme Court of India clearly mentioned in the Ajodhya verdict that “God is not a juristic person, but idol is

Some important part of “The verdict” is written as below

NEW DELHI: God or ‘Supreme Being’ may be omnipresent, omniscient and omnipotent but has no juristic personality, but an idol, worshipped by believers as a physical incarnation of God, is a juristic personality, the Supreme Court has said.

“Legal personality is not conferred on the Supreme Being. The Supreme Being has no physical presence for it is understood to be omnipresent —the very ground of being itself. The court does not confer legal personality on divinity,” ruled a bench of then CJI Ranjan Gogoi and Justices S A Bobde (now CJI), D Y Chandrachud, Ashok Bhushan and S Abdul Nazeer in its landmark judgment settling the 70-year-old Ayodhya land dispute.

Divinity in Hindu philosophy is seamless, universal and infinite. Divinity pervades every aspect of the universe. The attributes of divinity defy description and furnish the fundamental basis for not defining it with reference to boundaries — physical or legal. For this reason that it is omnipresent, it would be impossible to distinguish where one legal entity ends and the next begins,” the bench said.

The SC said in contrast, an idol was identifiable by its physical form and hence could have juristic personality. “The idea of a legal person is premised on the need to ‘identify the subjects’ of the legal system. An omnipresent (God or Supreme Being) being is incapable of being identified or delineated in any manner meaningful to the law and no identifiable legal subject couldemerge,” it added.

The bench further explained the legal difficulty in conferring legal personality on God as “the narrow confines of the law is ill suited to engage in such an exercise (delineating boundaries of a God who is omnipresent) and it is for this reason that the law has steered clear from adopting the approach”.

“In Hinduism, physical manifestation of the Supreme Being exists in the form of idols to allow worshippers to experience a shapeless being. The idol is the representation of the Supreme Being. The idol, by possessing physical form, is identifiable,” it said.

The bunch of above statements stated in verdict by Supreme Court of India clearly mentioned that GOD or Supreme Being does exist. And the definition is clearly referenced as omnipresent, omniscient and omnipotent.

So there are two major takeaways:

  1. GOD does exist and GOD is Omnipresent (Present everywhere at the same time), Omniscient (Knowing everything) and Omnipotent (Unlimited Power). At last the supreme power of India’s legal framework could not deny from its existence. 
  2. GOD is top most authority, which is incapable of being identified in framework of Indian Law. So whatever judgement is given by judges are with in framework setup by GOD and Judges are not GOD, but they also comes under GOD same as other human beings. Judges only obey them and doing their duties honestly. 

The saints from all over the world knew this truth, the divine knowledge in early stages of their life and whenever they trying to distribute this truth to common people, they have been killed or ruined or disowned by some religious contractors. Now public know WHY? I do not need to describe more.

I am sure that you are fed up now by listening the same statements in particular i.e. Who made this nature? Who made us? Who is providing a breath to us every second? Why we cannot able to see him? If there is such person exists, please produced in front of everybody?

Well, we will discuss this for a while, before that, I want you to do some exclusive excercise, irrespective of you are theist or atheist, irrespective of you are follower of any religion, irrespective of your gender, irrespective of you belong to any sect of the world’s society, any cast, any color or any creed or so on. So on…

Bring one small size stone and install it near your door. Now do this exercise daily to wash it and throw some fragrance or scent on it. Now start begging. Yes begging like anything. Ask this stone to fulfil your wishes. It will not. You know very well. But you need to continue this exercise daily in morning, before going out for you regular office work or business. Now after some days you can see that if you are asking for 5 wishes, you will get at least one completed. Then suddenly you realize counting is going up. How come? But really you don’t care about that till any one of your wishes are completing on regular basis. You start believing in that stone. It seems it is GOD for you. It has power, a supreme power. Now you start respecting that stone and stone get some valuable place in your home. The actual fact is stone is same stone, there is no change in it, but your criteria of thinking changes, you view point against this stone is completely change. You stated believing in the stone. But eventually you should believe on yourself.

Now this exercise is revealing that whatif another person doing the same exercise is a Muslim brother, Christian brother, Sikh brother or Jain bother etc…etc… Does stone prayer is restricted only to Hindu brother? Obviously not. So if this stone is fulfilling your wishes so the same for other also. It means GOD statue or stone stature or only stone does not need any specific form of prayer to fulfil their wishes. Then why we do prayers in front of any statue? Any answer? I am not restricting here any one to do so, after all this is your life, you can free to do, but my curiosity crossed peak level to find the answer “WHY”?.

The prayer could be in any form and it can be done by any person in this whole world, it goes to GOD, no medium required, no postman required, no WIFI, no Cable and no Internet required.

So the discussion has a direct conclusion. Do not find GOD, find what is not a GOD? Don’t run behind those nouns (a person, a place or things), these nouns, GOD has provided us, to live peacefully.  GOD has direct connection with you, and you have direct connection with those things which is created by GOD, but those are not GOD.

Another way to reach to GOD is, to find the person, who knows who is GOD or where the GOD is? He or She could be only a True Master. And he or she would have one great ability to introduce you face to face with GOD.  

Well now the million dollar question. How can you trust who is a True Master?

The symbol of True Master is very simple. He or She does not connect you with the “Creation” (again Noun), but connect you with the “Creator”, only that person could be a True Master.

And the second most important symbol is that True Master will take only seconds to show you who is GOD.

If any person who is telling you stories or trying to gain some time from you to make you busy in useless activities, it is very clear that he or she cannot be True Master and hundred percent he or she do not have any divine knowledge. 

So now do not explore Who is GOD. Start exploring, what can not be GOD? Well even then if you can’t find satisfactory answer then, try to find the True Master, who can show you GOD within seconds. Then only you can say GOD was nowhere, but GOD is now-here.

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Neeraj Bhatia

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Trust builts slowly but destroys quickly

A famous saint used to live his livelihood by weaving cloths. He has to work many days and nights to prepare one sheet of cloth. Everybody knows that whatever the situation maybe he will not get angry. He was famous to analyze the situation find the problem and then try to find the solution.

One day a mischevious person bet among his friends and took up a challenge. He told all of his friends, “Today I will show you, how fake he is and how he will get angry today?”

When the saint reached to market, that person immediately approached him and started asking price of the full sheet of cloth. The saint told him the price, but that person insisted, “I want to see the whole sheet before purchasing”. One of the pupils accompanying with the saint, open the sheet of the cloth. That person asked for a pair of scissors and started cutting the cloth into two-part, then again he asked,” What is the price now?”.

The saint immediately understood his intentions but replied calmly the half of the price.  That person immediately picked up the pair of scissors and tore the cloth again into two parts. And again asked for the price. The saint smiled and told him again half of the price from the previous price. That person again picked up the pair of scissors and again started doing the same process.

The pupil was surprised to see that the buyer was tearing his sheet of cloth again and again into half, without the intention of purchasing and the saint was smiling and was telling him price every time. When the process completed and now there was no scope left to tear off the cloth one more time in half, that person stood up and told to the saint, “I am sorry, I do not want to purchase your cloth” The saint smiled again and replied “Its Ok. No issues. As you wish”.

When the person left the place, the pupil asked surprisingly, “You know that he was a mischievous person and he was playing with you. But why you have not reacted? He has destroyed your hard-earned money” The saint smiled that there are two things, “First, he came here with one strong trust on me that I will not become angry in any situation”. “And I tried to build his trust stronger”. “And second, you told right that he destroyed my two weeks hardworking and I have nothing left for next two weeks as an earning. He destroyed my today, but actually, today, he destroyed his future by showing his upbringing.”

Trust can not be enjoyed alone. It is a bilateral relationship. There should always be two parties to start with. When you read in your text bok the friction between two stones can bring fire out from stone. Had you believed that? No, not at all, at least at first time. But when your subject teacher told you the same story, you trust him a little bit but not on the full story. But when you have seen first time by himself or herself, then only, you immediately trusted on the textbook, and the words told by your teacher. The reason is you experienced himself the same you read. so the Trust is calculative. Trust needs proof.

The main difference between faith and trust is that the trust is conditional and faith is unconditional.

You can have faith in GOD, but before starting an airplane journey, you try to get maximum information from all sources about the pilot, about his past experience in flying a Boeing Plane. especially the number of successful journies completed and reason for unsuccessful journies. Actually, you want to be more sure, that you have trust in him.

There are two major dimensions, in front of people before they make decisions on trust. Preconscious, where a person already made half decision with his own beliefs, or experiences or stories heard in childhood. So, in that case, fifty percent decision is already taken by his brain. 

Second is a conscious decision, means calculative and conditionals. It is a slow process. If the condition is agreed to calculation, only then trust starts, but as soon as one condition fails, the trust started shaking and started dropping very quickly.

Trust is built with consistency. Like drops coming in a bucket through tap can fillup bucket only after consuming one whole day, and if the bucket has one hole in it then, in that case, it can take up to one month, and sometimes even the feasibility would be it maybe or maybe not.

In today’s world, trust is used as one of the most valuable currencies among humans. Can you assume to build any relationship without this with anyone? Obviously not?.

Among every relationship, trust is working somewhere in between. People do business, just because of the trust factor. We get married, we pay online payments, we purchase some items, you pay to expensive services, etc..etc… just because of the trust factor.

Well, whatever you want to achieve in your life, don’ start with developing networking, start with building trust among your network. The network will automatically develop.

As earlier said, trust can not work with a single party, it needs two to make four. It takes a lot of time to build. The whole process of gaining trust starts with understanding first. If you do not know a person, how can you trust him?

But this is also the part of the process that a single wrong or unmatured action can ruin any relationship you’ve built over a period of time within seconds.

To understand this you need to understand human behavior.

  1. The human needs to be caring even if he does not want to care.
  2. All humans are internally wired for connection but they disconnected deliberately.
  3. All humans want to feel important.
  4. Most humans like the same things.
  5. Most humans want to trust the same things.
  6. Most humans don’t want to initiate, they prefer to wait.

These are some common behaviors, you can find more.

Every new trust-building process will convert existing trust into a strong belief.

Don’t trust me, trust yourself, believe in yourself only.

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Neeraj Bhatia

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Nothing is Everything

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Recently, during my stay in Bangalore, India. I used to go to have my breakfast between 7:00-7:30 a.m. in my favorite restaurant “New Flavor”, which is just near my place where I was staying. I noticed at the same time three young smart guys used to join me almost every day, dressed lightly blue color shirt and dark blue jeans. Initially, I could notice one thing only that without asking their orders, a similar type of breakfast served to them by restaurant staff daily. I never found them talking to each other.

One fine day, I found there was some discussion going on among three, but the language they were using was sign language. In multiple cities I have seen people serving NGOs, trying to learn sign language to enhance their skill to interact with people having such issues. Generally, I found then practicing this in public places only.

My first thought was the same for all these three young chaps. But when I enquired the same with restaurant staff, then only I could get the information that they all are deaf and not able to speak. But they are quite comfortable in their life. They all were in jobs and enjoying life. They don’t have any complaint from life.

Those who have the only complaint from life was, “Can anyone of us assume to spend only one day in our life with these deficiencies? And the answer is well known, “Can’t think of it”. Right?

After groping in the dark, if you see the light, you know the value of light, because you know the pain of darkness. But what happened if you well equipped with light since birth, then the value of light is obviously do not have value to you. This is the time when you should force yourself to understand the pain of darkness, then only you can understand the value of light.

Today people know the price of everything and value of nothing.

Second and very important thought came into my mind is, “How a language can become a barrier for global development when it is the most important means for all of us to communicate with each other?”

In general, the people of the whole world is divided by ourselves through useless barriers like geographical demarcations, gender, language, color, caste, creeds, body structure, skin, etc. But when we look into deep in our heart, we all are same.

Well, we cannot say that every thought process done by our ancestors were wrong. They have done a wonderful job, but manipulators won easily when a large group of people becomes a toy of a handful of diplomatic people.

After the division of India & Pakistan, a Sikh family came from Lahore to Delhi. They were refugees. At that time a lot of promises done by Government for all refugees, but it never fulfilled due to the unreliable source of database. Real refugees never get their piece of bread, they understand that they have to earn it by themselves.  The family was completely shattered. They were having two boys and two girls in the family. Somebody suggested the groom from Punjab living in Delhi, for their elder daughter. Head of the family immediately agreed, even the girl was minor. The rationale behind was simple that she can at least get the full-time meal for the rest of her life.

The elder daughter was very hard working. She adjusted with everyone in the family, even she came to know later that her husband was daily drunker. The day came when she purchased a piece of land and then she started dreaming to develop her own home, sweet home on it. In between, she gave birth to her four children. All grown up and happily living life. When one day they shocked to get the information that their father is no more now. Their mother got a huge sum of amount because their father was having some deals finished a few days back and got a huge profit from it.

Mother of four immediately started constructing a two-story building named “Prem Sadan” (A house where love dwells). Building constructed and she allotted each one portion to all fours children and kept one portion in middle for her. Everybody was happy. Then she has decided to marry all of her children one by one.

And the doom days started. Eldest son was about to marry, then the news came the second son has already selected his bride and if his elder brother delayed, he was ready to marry before him. On those days, it was treated as a bad omen. So the mother decided to go for a quick marriage for his eldest son first. Both got married. Everything was running smoothly until the decision taken for the marriage of her third son. Soon after the marriage of her third son, trifles started in home front about pity issues among all three daughters-in-law. Mother tried to resolve the issues, by distributing the day to day household work at home among all, but the third son’s wife knows very well that how a mole can be converted into a mountain. She knows how to manipulate all the words in front of her husband and how to play tricks to raise disputes.

And then the final bout faced by mother direct on her face, when informed by her third son that he wants the division of property legally. Mother knew that somebody was smiling from her back. She tried to convince all her sons that she has already given to them their portions of the property, where they are living happily, then why they want division legally? But this time nobody wants to listen to her. And she did not want to fight anymore, she was growing old now. This was the last day of her life when she saw the boundary walls are being raised in “Prem Sadan”. Prem, the LOVE vanished among all and it was clubbed in the cage again. The effort did by her, the whole life, to make a beautiful home was destroyed and the home was converted into a house, some walls, some boundaries some windows, some doors, just by some meaningless, crooked ideas and greed and a big EGO.

Now come to the point, you can assume our earth as a whole sweat home, where the demarcations done by our ancestors to live a happy life. It was a geographical division. We never understood when this geographical division become the basis of partition among our hearts.  Just because some people want to satisfy their ego, just to show their presence to the whole world, started eating our independence with their meaningless provocative words and became our leaders. Thinking that they are our well-wishers, some of us followed them and today everywhere we can see fights, arsenal, hate, apathy, just because they want to rule on the world through us. The beautiful home is converted into chaos, and everything is messed up. We wanted to live our dream, but in reality, we became the victim and till today they are using us to living up their own dirty inspirations and dreams.

There is a thumb rule, to live, and to leave this world is that whatever you possess either to use it or distribute it. There is no way to take away from this earth any single piece or item.

I personally wanted to write a book on the topic “Peace of Mind”. When I was thinking about, it was very clear in my mind that people should satisfy somewhere with what they have in their hand. They should try hard to get whatever they want to achieve, but should not connect their failure with the final outcome of the result. But suddenly I got the vibes, “If we have peace of mind, why should we run for materialistic things”. Then another vibe ran into my mind, “why should not? Why one should make himself satisfy, with what he possesses?. We are living in this world, where a lot of people do not have what we have, so better to do something for them. And to achieve this goal, we have to make ourselves dissatisfied. Do something good for those. And only then we will get a final “Peace of Mind”, within us.

Sometimes when we run behind a specific task, but unable to achieve something satisfactory. Then we feel like we have finished a long marathon just for nothing. And this is time, when the first time we feel, we have to do more specific research to understand our failures. After gearing up, again we start running behind our task wether we face failure again and again.

“There is no failure except in no longer trying”.

Sir James Dyson failed 5126 times within 15 yrs. before he succeeded to invent bagless vacuum cleaner. Thomas Edison was told by his teachers he was “too stupid to learn anything”. Theodor Seuss Geisel, known to “Dr. Seuss”, much-loved children author has his first book rejected by 27 publishers.

 There are thousands of examples all over the world present today for us, and we are following blindly. But you know, there is one more truth behind that, is, those who completed their tasks, are in limelight, but thousands are those, who never come into the picture.

Failures do not have any counts, but a successful person gets limelights.

  What the purpose is behind to mention above is very simple. There is a very thin line between “Lets Go” and “Let it Go”.

Once you are ready to accept that, life becomes easy for you. You don’t learn to grab anything since birth, but you need to learn to let it go. And this is not a science, this is a practice, and to do this you need to learn, what you know and what you don’t know?

The problem starts only when “Knowledge” converts into “Ego”. If you are thinking that you are the doer and you are the only person, who can do it, then your ego pulls you behind. The person surrounded by you immediately senses that you are pulled by ego and they started trying to make a distance from yourself.

When you surrender by accepting, you are nothing, but you are chosen to complete this task and this task is not benefited only you, but this will be benefited to entire mankind, then every person, who may be more knowledgeable or less knowledgeable and including every particle in this universe starts serving you and support you.

In my recent air trip, I got a window seat in airbus and when the landing started, I peeped out from the window. The earth was looking like a city of a small fairy tale, where we have small decorated houses, clean black roads, trees were flourishing alongside, small milky color lights were spreading from the center of the roads. Small vehicles like car, truck, bikes, scooters, etc. plying on the road.

And then I started thinking about where we people are? Oh yes, got it. A small creature like entity, moving slower than an ant on the pavement. And my mind flashed with thoughts. When we are looking at ourselves from the top, we can see we are nothing. Actually we are smaller than a mosquito. But as soon as we are coming closer to our land, we start to compare ourselves with existing entities. Then we become “Something”. Go a little more deep in these thoughts with me. When we found ourselves surrounded by other entities, then we started comparing ourselves and this thought generates superiority complex. And this superiority complex is a generator of our EGO.

If we are far from our earth, our properties, our relationships, our wealth, our positions, we fly high, when we are connected with nothing. But we grounded ourselves when we are connected with all of them and forget how to live and how to leave.

So enjoy with nothing. Because in a real sense nothing is everything.  

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Seriously, I don’t have time?

From 2nd October 1988 to 15th July 1990, the 94-episode Hindi series had its original run on DD National TV channel. It was produced by B.R. Chopra and directed by his son, Ravi Chopra. I remember those days and its airtime, you would find rarely a single person on road. Everyone stuck to its television screen during that time. It generally aired on Sunday morning. And the name of the TV serial was MAHABHARAT. This was an Indian television series based on the Hindu epic of the same name.

The specialty of this series was, it always starts with a unique round running wheel, on-screen, personification of “Time”, having a great voice-over of “Harish Bhimani” with dialogue “Main Samay Hoon”, in the English language its translation is “I am the Time“.

This was the first time, I started thinking, “Does time exists?”

Once I was listening to a Mushayara (poetry session) and I listened to one beautiful “Sher”, which forced me to write this blog. The lyricist (Shaayar) is giving an answer to a beautiful question. “What is Time”? He gave an answer by reciting only one line.

He recites “वक़्त क्या है”? “हाथों की कलाईयो से चूड़ियां ले जाता है और चेहरे पर झुर्रियां दे जाता है “In the English language it means “What is time”? “It takes bangles from the wrist and returns wrinkles on face”. Obviously, this is indicating towards women but this is a fact for all human in this world. We heard a lot of statements in our day to day life like: “Time is running out”. “Time is critical’ “Time is good” Time is not so good”. “Where is time left for me”. “Race against time” etc. The so-called “Time” leaves nothing in our hand. But who is running behind whom? Time is running, or we are running? 

I started thinking, “If I will call somebody today just for a simple reason, the answer is always the same and that would be, “I don’t have time”. Doesn’t it seems, we are becoming a laughing stock for everyone. We do not want to take any responsibility? We have found an escape route. Well if nobody has time, then who has time?

If somebody is giving you that statement, that he or she does not have time to listen to your or for your work, I bet, just watch carefully his or her activities for some time. You will easily find that that statement was just to find an escape route to get rid of you. He or She has had enough time to waste on useless activities or gossips with others. In short, this becomes our habit now, to showcase others that he or she is the busiest person, but actually, they are busy with no business. It is simply a hight of mismanagement.

My question from everybody in this world is “What is time”? Where it comes from? Where it goes? From where it started? Who invented it? Please don’t give me the theory of physicist Albert Einstein showed that time is an illusion; it is relative — it can vary for different observers depending on your speed through space.

If time is an illusion, why we are quoting the statement, “I don’t have time”, It means you are accepting that you have a control on the time and it is in your hand and for a specific moment you do not have time. And alternatively, we are also accepted by saying, “Yes tomorrow we have some time, you can come for discussion”.

The main question here is. “Do we accept time is an illusion? or Do we accept the theory that time is physical and we have an ability to control it?

Do you know, the normal respiration rate for an adult at rest is 20 breaths per minute. So, how many breaths we are having in a day, i.e. 28,800, actually which we are losing every day. When a person is admitted in the hospital within the critical condition of a heart attack. Doctor’s says only one statement. “We will try our level best, the rest is in the hands in GOD. So, if you think between the lines, the doctor is saying that we will try till the patient is breathing, else you have to accept that his time comes now”. means ready to hear “He is no more”. He has completed his journey in this world.

Do you think, can we reverse time? Again please don’t give me fiction stories. I am sure, you will agree that dead man can not take a breath, even we have multiple oxygen cylinders with us. We need to accept, the only truth is that time can not be reversed. But the same question again here is “From where it comes, how it comes to an end?”.

Somehow, here we need to accept that when a person takes his or her first breath at birth in the womb, we can say, his or her time starts, and when he or she takes his last breath, we can say his or her times comes to an end. So at least we are able to connect time with a human body successfully, even agreed on the point that time does not exist.

Do you know, without understanding the virtual existence or nonexistence of time, how much we actually dependent on time? Let us take a few examples:

If you want to understand the importance of time, ask:

  1. From a student, who reached late for a minute in the examination hall.
  2. To a traveler, who missed the scheduled train or bus or airplane.
  3. From a son, who lost his mother, not able to reach hospital due to traffic-jammed in the city
  4. From a pregnant woman, who keeps life in a womb for some months and could deliver only dead child.
  5. From a student, who studied full year and failed from one number.
  6. From a sports person, who lost race just for .0001 seconds.

Above mentioned are some examples, which shows how important the time is in our lives, even it does not exists, but we can not assume for a second, that it does not exist.

We need to remember, in our life if we lost health, it can be regained, if we lost wealth, it can also be regained, but if we lost the time it lost forever. Every second count.

We knew that we do not have control over time, so we tied ourselves with the time machine, and we invented its measurements.  But ironically everybody till today thinking that we have control on time, but actually, it is not. We humans actually created calendars, years, moths, day, hours, minutes, seconds and microseconds, not to tie up time, but to tie up ourselves against time.

Next time when you are telling to somebody that “You do not have time”, just remember you do not have control over time. Time is controlling you. Time makes you “ON” or “OFF” at any time, but you can’t.

Remember: Time and Tide wait for none.

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Take care of yourself, family, friends, relatives near and dear ones.

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Neeraj Bhatia

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