I LOVE YOU

“I Love you” when you hear this statement, can you explain yourself today, what do you feel? A melodious musical string, playing only for you. A cool breeze where you are floating. A lovely playback song in the atmosphere transporting you in a different fantasy world.

No, hmm.. Something is wrong with you.

Yes…. Oh. Absolutely something is wrong with you.

The answer could be wrong in both ways, if you don’t know WHY it is happening.

One day I was standing in front of the mirror, and I felt, I wanted to do something, some action, and some activities, just to please myself. And then I started frowning, I was really enjoying, the next step was to do some steps like you are doing some exercises in Gymnasium, or some dancing poses. Literally, I started enjoying it a lot.  

I was in a discussion with Mr. Nirmal Joshi, a renowned editor, in Delhi. Why I was feeling like this? Why it happened to me, but I enjoyed it a lot. Am I getting mad”? He laughed a potbelly laugh.  He told me, it is your new incarnation. I could not understand the meaning of this. “What does it mean”? I inquired, my curiosity was in full swing. He described, “To reach this stage, a person needs to take a thousand birth, but you realized it in this birth only, so I use the word “Incarnation”. I still could not understand then he further stated. “When you are frowning who was happy”? I said. “I was happy”. ‘When you are trying to dance who was happy”? I thought about why the same question. I replied, “I was happy”. Suddenly he became serious.

Then he directly came to point. “Who are you to be happy”? I simply replied, “I am Neeraj Bhatia”. He pointed out to the fan running exactly top of us. “Can you identify what is running?” I smiled “It is a Fan”. His next question surprised me “Where is a fan?” I pointed out towards fan. He ordered to switch off the fan to an office boy. Now his question is, “Can you tell me the breakups of the fan?” I started, “it has three blades, one motor in center, two cups in a different direction, there are a lot of electronic products inside, and I cannot identify”. “There is a rod, in which it is hanging, a capacitor, I can see, who control its rpm”. Then I point towards the switchboard, “There is a regulator, to control its speed”. I stopped describing, then he asked again, “But where is the FAN?”

Now the first time I realized FAN does not exist anymore, and the whole of our life, we are thinking that we are using FAN. Then he taught me the lesson of divine knowledge. “Remember my words, NEERAJ does not exist in this world”. “This is the name we have given you to identify you, else you are no more”. “You are a cage of flesh and bones only”. “Try to identify yourself, you will find you have a heart, two kidneys, one skull, two hundred six bones, and one lever and so on…. But where is Neeraj, Neeraj does not exists.

 I murmured, “Then who is Neeraj”, who was happy when I was frowning?”. He smiled and answered, “this is your SOUL”. “Today you identified yourself”. “You are not a body, you are a soul”. “Everyone in this world, cannot reach this stage to understand this”. “You understand today”. “When you hurt someone, you hurt his or her soul only, when you make someone happy, that is his or her soul only”. “People in this world can not realize, but few people know this and they work whole life to make them understand, but nobody has time to get this divine knowledge”. “And if you will try to tell someone deliberately, they will laugh at you”. “And this is continued from last six thousand years and this will continue, till this world exists”.

I was bewildered, at loss of words. But I understand, when we love someone, we have direct interaction with the soul, not with the body. It can be any relation: mother, father, brother, sister, wife or children.

The person could be of any color, creed or religion. It could be red, black, and white, brown. It could be of any religion. But our interaction is with souls only.

There is only two types of people in this world either “GOOD or BAD”, else there is no discrimination exists. Divisions did by us by using the cast, the creed & the religion, etc. GOD does not divide us. We made the division.

Everyone has a first love in life. Love at first sight. Generally, when we are in “Teens” it happened. We never understood it is infatuation or love. But frankly speaking, it is actually a real love, because even you itself don’t know, what is happening. “The phrase ‘love is blind’ is a valid notion because we tend to idealize our partner and see only things that we want to see in the early stages of the relationship. In this stage, you are unable to see any issue, any social problem.

Most people give the name “Infatuation” to their first love because ninety-nine percent fails to react, and a failure person knows how to satisfy himself by giving false arguments. The main reason it fails majorly because no one understands what is happening and how to respond to feelings. Well, I can use the word “Inexperience”, here because later when a person becomes experienced, then they know how to play this game. Yes, then this becomes a game for them. Some people get frustrated and some people become clever and then crooked enough to try the same tactics on others to grab the second chance, then third then forth and so on.

In first love you are a pure heart person, you don’t know the feeling of a cheat. You find everything positive in it. You cannot see the shortcoming of your partner. And the most important, even if it fails, you remember this in your whole life. Love is spontaneous, it happens. You cannot make it. It is not a recipe, jotted in the kitchen book.

What does the statement “I Love You “means? Most people do not know or do not want to know the actual use of the full statement.

The full statement is “I am falling in Love with you”. We are habitual of finding short cuts in our activities and here also, we use short cut “I Love You”. Because the real form or nature of the statement is clearly telling that the couple in love, should be first admitted to surrender to each other. Then only the relationship starts. But if this is lacking from either side, believe me, one person will suffer most time and then the relationship will come to an end abruptly.

Now I am coming to the main point, why this BLOG starts and how we need to understand these human behaviors.

Do you know, besides Science and human behaviors, what is working behind to reach this stage?

You know, actually this is an IDEA only.

Now you will say no way, what is the relationship between a human relationship and idea?

Okay, let me explain further.

Man is a social animal. It means you are a family man. If you are staying in a family, this means in a home, you have at least, a mother, a father, a sister and a brother (younger or elder), and absolutely a wife and your children.

Now sit straight….

When you hug your mother? What is your idea behind? You are humble, you are soft. You have an idea that you should feel the warmth in the relationship. She has no hesitation to grab you in her hands because she has given you birth and nine months you have spent in her stomach. This hug is full of love without any self-interest.

When you hug your sister, what is your idea behind? If she is younger than you, you are full of responsibility, care, and love, but if she is elder then you, then you are feeling respect, love, and care for her. Overall, your hug has responsibility, love, and care for your sisters.

When you hug your girl child, what is the idea behind? You are full of love and enthusiastic. You want to see a seed to become a plant, you are caring, full of love.

But what is your idea, when you hug your wife? Obviously, all types of scientific chemicals inside your body heads up and you are a person of a different world. The same is happening with your wife also. You both are in a fantasy world. Full of Love. I am talking here only for a truthful relationship, not for lust or attraction. This is called a real attachment.

Its time to summarize, what we talk so far in the above lines? You hug everyone in your family, the most common feeling in all the hugs was LOVE. But for all relationships, you didn’t borrow new hands from another person? Agreed. You have used your same hands, but the mind is getting relationship ideas from an idea generated in the brain. I am not talking about chemical chemistry here. I am talking about IDEAS, and that is the most important part of all the relationships. This is called your personal feeling for every relationship.

Do you feel something alike, sometimes it happens? When you are walking and getting a feeling, that someone just behind you is a very important person. You move your face back and it surprised you, yes, you are correct, he is here. Sometimes it happened, you see one face and getting the negative feeling, even you do not know him, and you never see him or her before. Sometimes you are getting very positive vibes to see a person, the same again you never met earlier, but the feeling is pure. You don’t know why and how?

Love is a feeling, it is not an emotion. Emotion is a mental state associated with the nervous system brought on by chemical changes variously associated with thoughts, feelings, behavioral responses, and a degree of pleasure or displeasure. There is currently no scientific consensus on a definition.

Feeling is enjoyed by your soul, not your body.

When you touch anybody, through your hands, then only, it becomes a relationship. Your touch describes the name of a relationship and this could be Mother, Sister, Wife or children, brother, Father, etc. otherwise love is only love a feeling only.

Does it mean a person has no hands, can’t describe its love for their relationship?

To answer this, I will say, please go deep a little more, a step further, where you find real love is always silent. it never speaks. Real love does not require recognition. Real love knows no boundaries. And the most important, without speaking real love understand each and everything.

When you get feelings for somebody, do you think, you can describe any relation? No, feelings are only feelings and I would recommend to live with your feelings, not with relations. Relations are fragile, but feeling is forever. And this is the only reason, people remember their first love forever, till death.

Now, when you say “I Love You” to someone. Ask yourself first. Do you really mean it what are you saying? Do you faithful in this relationship? Do you ready to surrender yourself? If anyone of the answer is “NO”, then it is a “BIG No” for you. You are not serious enough. You are not committed. Stay away. This is the only game for you. And you will get similar players from both genders everywhere in this world. Find out and enjoy it.

Thanks for reading. Send your reviews as usual. I will reply as soon as possible.

Bye-bye. Take care of you, yourself, your relations and near and dear ones.

Always yours,

Neeraj Bhatia {direct email: neeraj.bhatia@aaradhyagroups.com}


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