Ashok Mehra, a well-known film artist, producer, film director, met me last winter season in 2018, in Delhi. I spend approximately one month with him, but then I didn’t know anything about him, before Mr. Chaman, one of my Video Editor friend introduced me officially that what is his profession.
We met, we spend a good time along with each other, we took so many times lunch and dinner together. We share jokes, incidents, our viewpoints on any particular topic. I was busy in studio work, but whenever he visited the studio, the atmosphere of the studio changed every time like an entertainment mood. He came close to the heart with everyone because he was living his real life. When I came to know about his profession then only I realize how can an actor be.
I realized if a person has really a reality in his behavior in day to day life or you can say real in nature, nothing unnatural, nothing fake in behavior, then it is very easy to live a reel life with real-life amicably without any difficulty. He carks jokes with any dialogues, which relates to his any of the movie or play, we felt that it was never to show-off, it was real, direct come out from heart, not from the mind.
One of my blogs, I referenced you about Mr. Joginder Singh Puri, a great Professor from the USA and one of my mentors, once told me that whenever you get an opportunity to meet any person, meet like this is the very first time you are meeting with him. And when you leave the same person, leave him like, this is your last visit and you will never meet with him at least in this life. This is a philosophy of life. We do not have command on our birth as well as our death.
Once I got a clipping of a lecture delivered by Mr. Ratan Tata, and his one statement from his speech was very practical and very touchy. He stated,” You have seen ECG machines near hospital beds. When it is showing curved lines, up and down, it means life is still alive, but when it is showing a straight line, it means life is no more”. Life has similar ups and downs for each person. A person stands up, fell down, again stands up, again fell down. it means life is still there, his will power is forcing the person to stand up and fight with all ills. But when the person quits, the lifeline becomes straight. No ups and downs, no life anymore.
The philosophy to live a life is,
“Live your real life like an actor is acting in reel life, and acting in reel life like living a real-life”.
Sometimes it seems, how fake is this definition, but if you go in-depth, you will feel this is the only definition that is near a fact nowadays. If you try to find nearby, you will surprise to realize that you are surrounded by fake relationships and fake relations. It is very rare you can find true love near you. You will surprise to see that in adverse situations, your true relations are among the very first person to left you alone.
Once I attended funeral proceedings, there was a custom to speak some words for the decease. Everybody was using selected great words for him. I was thinking that if he is very good in nature, very polite, very helpful and energetic in his behavior, then why he was living in such a miserable condition. Why he died because of short of medicines. People of this world have two faces. Or you can say there are multiple faces behind one mask.
Once I was reading the book written on Swami Vivekanand. He stated somewhere, “if your life is cool, it means you are on the wrong path”. This does not mean that we do not need a cool life. He wanted to indicate, if everyone is praising you, there could be two reasons behind it. First one, you are really a very good person and the second is that you never come out from your comfort zone. you never took the risk in your life to do something challenging. And then only you will live a cool life. The struggle is a part of our life, do not avoid it, instead of enjoying it.
In short, if I bring out me from myself, then masks will be removed forever automatically. Confused?
Take one live example from day-to-day life. If my manager is asking a report from me immediately, and I am asking for two days to prepare it, what does it means? There are two possibilities, either I am not working preparing a report on a day to day basis, so I want more time to prepare it, it is called laziness. But if I want to play with the numbers and aksing two more days to prepare the strategy, how to crooked the report, how to manipulate it before presenting it before my manager.
In the above situation, either I need to accept I am a lazy person or maybe I am busy with other engagements, so the report is not prepared so far. Or in another situation, I used to wear a mask on my face and tell my manager that the report is ready, but this is not in a presentable mode, so It will take time to prepare it. Or maybe I can crook some more ideas to make him fool. But actually I am making myself a fool, and this is a hidden truth lies between the lines.
In the reel life, the viewer, hero, heroine, characters and even the villain are well defined, hence, it is very simple to understand and in some movies, if the artist is doing similar roles when they already did in any previous films then, it becomes simple to recognize in advance. But in real life, it is like a suspense movie, where hero and villain are unknown but there is no viewer. I may mistake the hero for a villain or villain for a hero etc.. In the real-life, we require more understanding than usual to understand what is good and what is bad, then who is good and who is bad, in which circumstance he/she is good and in which circumstances he/she is bad.
Sometimes, it is seen that young minds are often carried away by what they see in the movies, without judging, what is true and untrue. In the movies, often obsession is justified in the name of love, violence in the name of revenge against injustice. And a fresh mind or young mind taking it as real. Do you know why it happened? Because the actor who is living his role in that movie is so honest with the character, that he/she mistook as real. But this real-life acting actually becomes successful in his/her reel life.
The clown lives a public life as real as he can but just think for a while, doesn’t he has issues any issue in his life. He does, but his real acting makes us feeling like hat we laugh a lot and actually forget our personal issues for a while. This happens only because he justifies his character honestly, he understands his responsibility.
Once a person asked me a beautiful question. Tell me, “Who is a more genuine person? A film Actor or a Cricketer.” The question was very practical. I could not give the correct answer on that day, because I could not give the right logic behind it. But today I can. Even today I can compare a Clown also with a Cricketer. Now you may have a question, if a Clown and a Cricketer both are the same, then why there is a lot of difference between their monetary conditions. I can not compare both in moneywise, but yes, both are playing real characters. A Cricketer plays a natural game and a Clown plays an honest character. And both have one special common feature while playing their roles in their characters. And that is. They don’t get a second chance or they don’t get the option of RETAKE. But when we are thinking of film actors, they can go for ‘n’ numbers of retakes. A Film actor can be different in nature in real life and reel life. Only that film actor can be famous who has no difference between both the lives.
A fake person doesn’t have a long life. Either in his life or afterlife.
In summary, we can say that “Luxuries and lies have huge maintenance costs, but truth and simplicity are self-maintained without any cost”. So better not to work with mix emotions. Emotions should be pure to attract another emotion.
It is possible that working for success will make you a Master for your skills, but working for satisfaction will make you a legend.
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