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Rape can’t stop If….?

When I saw a post from Shubhangi Salvi, a member of the LinkedIn Advisory Team Board, in my newsfeed I was not surprised, because since morning all the newspapers are publishing the voice of resistance after Hyderabad rape incident with “Doctor Bitiya”. I never understand why we always wait for the next incident to raise our voice.

We should accept that we become indifferent against the incidents which don’t belong to us, this includes me, and my family. We want to raise a voice against each incident, where we can satisfy only to ourselves by caress to ourselves by saying to ourselves that, “I tried to raise the voice, but no one cares. What to do?”. And we surrender ourselves in the hand of the situation.

When I left my recent job and started my venture, I was very much clear in my thoughts that I will never work under a helpless person. And the last statement I told my boss is, ” Today you told me that you are helpless and I am sending my resignation to you because I told you that on the day, you will tell me, you are helpless, I will resign from this company. There was a simple reason behind it and that was I can not work under a helpless person, because soon the day will come when I will become helpless and later I will say the same sentence to subordinate that, “Sorry dear, I can not help you because I am helpless”.

Today I can see the same situation in our country. We have a lot of laws, very strict laws but we do not have the political will to implement it. We feel helpless. Can’t we stop incidents of rapes in our country?

On the other side, we as a public have developed a habit to blame on Government, society, and discrimination behavior done by GOD between a rich and a poor and just want to take rest. We have had a history to fire Rawan’s “Lanka Nagari” by “Hanuman”, just a token to showcase that, what can we do to save the honor of a woman. We should understand that just to march with a candle is not a solution to this problem. We need to wake up.

To think out of the box, please start thinking about what is in the box. Can we ask ourselves one question? Who is the government? Who is society? We are choosing government and government is a group of people chosen by us, they are our representatives. That’s all. The same is about society, Where society comes from? We are a part of it. We as an individual is a part of society or in other words, we are society. Then whom we are waiting for, to take a stand to save a human from a human. We have become inhuman in the skin of a human body.

If in our house, someone breaks the rule of the house, there are two types of behaviors. Suppose a jar full of sugar powder slips from the hand of our maid or cook. We start rebuking them. But if the same happens from our son or daughter, we ignore and try to conceal from our elders. Why? Because we learn discrimination between “Inside” and “Outside” person, between poor and rich, between master and slave. A sense of strangeness is the main idea, which starts discrimination in our minds, this can be removed, but I will talk about it a little later.

I took birth in India, and if you calculate many saints took birth. Today we feel shame on us when the people of the world are looking towards us, and saying that this is a country from where the culture spread all over the world. Our so-called famous “BABA”s are in jail. India has given divine knowledge to the world, but today we become a laughing stock and a sample of mockery because of these irresponsible fake so-called irresponsible saints, who were doing the business of “FAITH”, without any divine knowledge.

We as a human need to focus on some very important things:

  1. Raise a voice, when you see something is going wrong with anyone, it could be male or female
  2. Help the police to nab the culprit, be a witness of the incident.
  3. As a parent teach moral science in our home, not only to a female child, also require for a male child
  4. Don’t live life in fear, after all, we have only one life to live, then why in fear?
  5. Start taking strong decisions. It could seem harmful in a short period, but this would be benefited in the long run
  6. Think about, what we are leaving for our next generation, a fearful society or a strong society.
  7. Don’t depend on the Government or Court to come forward to correct everything. We need to come forward to correct ourselves, to correct our society.
  8. Be spiritual, rather become religious. People are playing with our religious sentiments. If they believe in one GOD, they can never do this. Religion unites never divide.
  9. We are human first after that we are Indian.
  10. Do not become mere spectators or puppets of any other’s mind. Remember you are not a dead body, you are a living being with a beautiful mind.

If you want to judge a person, just see that the list of his or her friend. This will tell you about the character of a person has. This is a very clear message given in our ancient historical incidents. In Mahabharata epic, you can read between the lines that Kaurva brothers taking guidance from “Shakuni” but interestingly Pandava’s brothers were taking guidance from Sri Krishna. Didn’t anyone could see the final result was obvious, that who was going to have the last laugh.

Come back to the point, “Is there any solution to kill the rapist? Not sure? Right…Instead you will feel more secure if you will be able to kill his idea. There is a voice all over the world to give the capital sentence to the rapist. Well, somewhat it could seem a solution, but this is not. We need to do something to kill this IDEA. Fear can not be the solution to everything.

We have a knife to be used or to be misused. We have a revolver, to be used for your security or to kill anyone. The idea is working behind it. In the case of rape, that is the idea, who is forcing at that moment to do the wrongdoing.

Well, how can one clean the idea? It is not a one day job. It starts with the birth of a person. His/her upbringing plays a major role to develop his/her character.

Seriously, if we think, what we are giving today to future generations? We are forcing our thoughts on them. Today a child is too far from our own culture. Our parents, Our Teachers, in our society all NGOs are struggling to maintain the decorum in one’s mindset. We are being pushed by our parents always to reach the first line. And to reach the first line, we become hard enough to pull the person, who is crossing my line. so this way, actual violence or ill thoughts start from home itself.

The only solution to kill the idea is that move the idea to positivity and spirituality. And this is possible only if parents, teachers, preachers set up their examples to kill all the ill will and do the right things at the right time in the right context.

My thoughts are, we need to go back to basics, where our culture starts growing step by step, and there only we can learn the first lesson of spirituality from our own home.

True Spirituality is the only solution for ill wills. Why I am using the word “True” before spirituality because now everything is adulterated. Even religion, faith, and spirituality. We need to find the True Master, who can show the path of truth to our generation as well as the next generation.

What we will sow today, so we will reap in the future.

Thanks for reading.

Bye-bye, take care and send me your review, as usual, I will answer as soon as possible.

Regards,

Neeraj Bhatia

neeraj.bhatia@aaradhyagroups.com

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  2. Is a solution itself a Problem
  3. Nothing is everything

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Love – A Healing Touch

I was sitting in my room, and reading a book, suddenly, heard a loud voice, with a authoritative tone, instructing to some one named “Alexa”, to do something and maybe she was not doing in a best manner, it was expected. The voice become louder and louder with instructions, and after a while, i heard a hard noise, like something thrown out of house.

Curiously, I stood up, picked up, checked and saw this was an electronic device. I was thoughtful, who threw it. But it did not take much time, when I heard the same voice, asking me to throw it from my hand, but this time far away.

When i inquired, i found that was “Alexa”. This was first time, i have heard or seen and understand the new world, whose dependency increasing swiftly on virtual assistant devices. Human made these devices, but they want all these virtual devices to work as human, which is not possible, at least till now. Devices do not have heart and emotions, they are programmed, they will understand what we instructed. But our expecations from them to work as human.

When I was in school, in my studies, I got the knowledge that Japan has made a robot, who is working as a waiter. In robots stomach, there was a huge cabin to keep plates inside. Nowadays, we can see a very advanced form of robots, who can do many things.

Most robots today are used to do repetitive actions or jobs considered too dangerous for humans. A robot is ideal for going into a building that has a possible bomb. Robots are also used in factories to build things like cars, candy bars, and electronics.

Sofia, a humanoid like a robot, that’s capable of holding a conversation, became quite famous. Sofia is also unusual in that she’s been given official citizenship in Saudi Arabia and the United Nations title of “Innovation Champion”. 

There could be thousands of fields, where technologies are more useful and definitely they will leave a man behind with its programmed artificial intelligence, where the machine can learn human moves and save it for future use.

But when we are talking about emotions, we are programming our machines to show us how to love. After all, machines are learning from our behaviors, our day to day activities being captured by them and they are adding every move day by day and we are loosing all our real moves because of our dependency on them.

A young guy presented a manlike robot to his ailing father. The robot took care of his father by remembering all his day to day activities. That’s OK, but when the guy does not feel any need to visit his father, to see him a person for long. Do we have any excuse for this? Can’t we see, we are losing human touch?

GOD has given material to use and people to love, and we are loving the material and using people.

We grownup reading and watching play Romeo-Juliet, Laila-Majnu, Shiri-Farad, the symbol of Love, they are still as a living legend for those, who know the human values and believe in a human touch.

I was watching the movie “HER”, screened the first time in 2013, based on artificial intelligence. At the end of the movie, the human doesn’t have any choice, just to return back to humans.

My takeaway from the movie was different. Machine (Operating System) took all the things from humans and then return the same to a human, the only difference was TIMINGS. The machine was appropriate. We as a human makes mistakes, we cannot be so perfect.

Relationships are breaking nowadays because we are comparing everything with machines. Our expectations are on rising, but our patience levels are decreasing day by day.

We need to exercise again, we made machines for our facilities, but now we expect machines to work as humans and our expectation from a human is to work like a machine.

The machine can show us the repetitive action of Love, but the machine can not really love you. We may be loving machines, because of its efficiency, but it can not be the replacement of humans.

We meet someone, somewhere, some day and fell in love with him or her, that become history, we could live our whole life, just to rewind those memories. Every time memories repeats, in our mind, our ties strengthen. This is natural.

Love is a feeling, it touches our heart. Nobody knows when it starts conveying our messages to other people. These messages are not stored in a computer hard disk, it is always spontaneous.

If a person staying a thousand miles far away from us, gets the message that someone is remembering him or her, it is a natural mechanism, it is naturally programmed by GOD. We can give the name of this process like “Telepathy” etc. but can we challenge it? Obviously not.

In this mechanical world, a person does not know the difference between having sex and love. People are programmed to make love. Because they are reading books “How to Make Love”, which is a joke only because these books are giving the education to have sex, not love.

Actually nobody can make Love, because it happens naturally, it can not be prepared. It can not be cooked, it is not a recipe.

The word “Love”, should not be restricted with only one relation i.e. Couple only. The difference between caring and loving is simple, to care you need to remember the activities. But when you are in love, care happens automatically, you do not need to remember anything.

When a person is distracted and reached to his or her mother. A mother understands the situation, without saying a single word. How does this happen? Do we need any machine to be programmed?

A single embrace of a mother is enough to bring peace in our hearts immediately. We feel we are in safe hands. We feel that this”Jaadu Ki Jhappi (Magical Hug)”, is sufficient for us to overcome all prevailing issues. This is called “A HEALING TOUCH”.

Again it is not restricted to any specific relation. It is natural because behind this only one programming is working everywhere and that is called “TRUST”.

We trust on a person in relation and person trust on us and this HEALING TOUCH can be from either side.

Remember, as a human, we are making relations with the machine. Machines are not making any relationship with us. As a human, we need to understand, we need relations with human, which is a natural phenomenon. We need to take care of them. We need to love them and loved by them.

Thanks for reading

Bye and take a good care of yourself and your family.

Neeraj Bhatia

https://aaradhygroups.com/

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